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Title: hi all
Post by: mumof4 on January 11, 2011, 07:42:56 PM
Post by: mumof4 on January 11, 2011, 07:42:56 PM
hi everyone
im a mum to 4 boys and recently one of my sons came to me to say he wants to be a girl
he was terrified to tell me because he was scared i would disown him but i made it clear i love him (now her to me) with all my heart and what she wants is all that matters to me
iim so pleased to find this site because i want to be informed and be able to be the best support ever to her.
no one else in the family knows and i will either do it for her when she is ready or hold her hand while she does it
i cant believe shes been taking hormones for months and been desperate to tell me but scared i would reject her
all i can say is that now i know shes so much happier and she can share with me things that before she has bottled up. she does have a girlfriend who accepts everything a couple of female friends who are supportive
i just wish we lived closer together so i could be more help though
im a mum to 4 boys and recently one of my sons came to me to say he wants to be a girl
he was terrified to tell me because he was scared i would disown him but i made it clear i love him (now her to me) with all my heart and what she wants is all that matters to me
iim so pleased to find this site because i want to be informed and be able to be the best support ever to her.
no one else in the family knows and i will either do it for her when she is ready or hold her hand while she does it
i cant believe shes been taking hormones for months and been desperate to tell me but scared i would reject her
all i can say is that now i know shes so much happier and she can share with me things that before she has bottled up. she does have a girlfriend who accepts everything a couple of female friends who are supportive
i just wish we lived closer together so i could be more help though
Title: Re: hi all
Post by: Alex Marie on January 11, 2011, 07:47:23 PM
Post by: Alex Marie on January 11, 2011, 07:47:23 PM
You don't have to be close, you have no idea how much a mother's love and acceptance helps out people in your new daughter's situation!
As for her being scared.. yeah.. that's normal. :P
Welcome to the site, I hope you can find some stuff to chat about your daughter with.. like making sure she actually went to a doctor to get her hormones, otherwise it could be at a detriment to her overall health.
And just thanks for being a good mother, accepting and loving your daughter. We need more moms like you, that's for sure!
As for her being scared.. yeah.. that's normal. :P
Welcome to the site, I hope you can find some stuff to chat about your daughter with.. like making sure she actually went to a doctor to get her hormones, otherwise it could be at a detriment to her overall health.
And just thanks for being a good mother, accepting and loving your daughter. We need more moms like you, that's for sure!
Title: Re: hi all
Post by: mumof4 on January 11, 2011, 07:50:46 PM
Post by: mumof4 on January 11, 2011, 07:50:46 PM
thanks alex marie
i cant believe any mum would ever turn her back on her child but it does happen
i do know the hormones are bought online but from a reputable site and her doctor knows and does regular checks and hopefully after march when she gets her first appointment in london things will be alot clearer and hopefully give her an agenda to work through
xx
i cant believe any mum would ever turn her back on her child but it does happen
i do know the hormones are bought online but from a reputable site and her doctor knows and does regular checks and hopefully after march when she gets her first appointment in london things will be alot clearer and hopefully give her an agenda to work through
xx
Title: Re: hi all
Post by: xAndrewx on January 11, 2011, 07:54:51 PM
Post by: xAndrewx on January 11, 2011, 07:54:51 PM
Welcome to the site :icon_wave:
I'm always glad to meet another supportive parent. See ya around the forum :)
I'm always glad to meet another supportive parent. See ya around the forum :)
Title: Re: hi all
Post by: Alex Marie on January 11, 2011, 07:56:43 PM
Post by: Alex Marie on January 11, 2011, 07:56:43 PM
Yeah, you're one of the good ones!
And I wish her all the best! Make sure you're always by her side. :)
And I wish her all the best! Make sure you're always by her side. :)
Title: Re: hi all
Post by: cynthialee on January 11, 2011, 10:40:58 PM
Post by: cynthialee on January 11, 2011, 10:40:58 PM
With a suportive mother and a group of suportive friends your daughters survival rate is vastly improved.
Also by being a suportive mom you are making her transition a ton easier. (I know cause my mom suports me in my transition from 3000 miles away and it makes a diferance.)
You both have a unique chance to form relationships you both always wanted.
You mention you are a mom of 4 sons. Well it is 3 sons and you do have the daughter you always wanted. It just took some time for you to find out. :)
Please keep us posted to her progress and yours also. You have a transition of your own you will be going through now that she has come out to you.
Hugz,
Cyndi
Also by being a suportive mom you are making her transition a ton easier. (I know cause my mom suports me in my transition from 3000 miles away and it makes a diferance.)
You both have a unique chance to form relationships you both always wanted.
You mention you are a mom of 4 sons. Well it is 3 sons and you do have the daughter you always wanted. It just took some time for you to find out. :)
Please keep us posted to her progress and yours also. You have a transition of your own you will be going through now that she has come out to you.
Hugz,
Cyndi
Title: Re: hi all
Post by: Janet_Girl on January 11, 2011, 11:25:31 PM
Post by: Janet_Girl on January 11, 2011, 11:25:31 PM
Hi Mumof4, :icon_wave:
Welcome to our little family. Over 4800 strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion.
Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams. Ask questions and seek answers. Give and receive advice.
But remember we are family here, your family now. And it is always nice to have another parent. :icon_hug:
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It always gladdens my heart to see a parent come to us with a story they child has told them they re transgender. Because if they are here they are looking for support, and usually means they have accept their child for whom they really are. Your daughter may want to come and join, for support from like minded persons.
Hugs and Love,
Janet
Welcome to our little family. Over 4800 strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion.
Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams. Ask questions and seek answers. Give and receive advice.
But remember we are family here, your family now. And it is always nice to have another parent. :icon_hug:
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It always gladdens my heart to see a parent come to us with a story they child has told them they re transgender. Because if they are here they are looking for support, and usually means they have accept their child for whom they really are. Your daughter may want to come and join, for support from like minded persons.
Hugs and Love,
Janet
Title: Re: hi all
Post by: mumof4 on January 12, 2011, 03:59:40 AM
Post by: mumof4 on January 12, 2011, 03:59:40 AM
thankyou everyone
you are all beautiful people inside and out
you have made me feel so welcome and offered me such fantastic advice
i am looking forward to sharing all the highs and lows of this journey with my daughter
xxxx
you are all beautiful people inside and out
you have made me feel so welcome and offered me such fantastic advice
i am looking forward to sharing all the highs and lows of this journey with my daughter
xxxx
Title: Re: hi all
Post by: rejennyrated on January 12, 2011, 04:21:20 AM
Post by: rejennyrated on January 12, 2011, 04:21:20 AM
Hello Mumof4
You cannot know how much your support and acceptance will mean to your daughter. This can be a tough road and having your immediate family on board does make a huge difference.
Back in the 1960's, when as a naive toddler I first blurted out my secret in a London shoe shop and demanded that my mother buy me a lovely little pair of girl's read shoes I was one of the lucky ones blessed with a parent like you.
What started was the most incredible journey, and a wonderfully close bond between us, as in my slightly haphazard way I grew up and gradually became fully myself, without facing many of the trauma's and obstacles that 99% of others still face even today. The journey ended with my surgery in my mid twenties, but the bond endured until my mother's death in 1995.
By chance my mother was a radio producer and had met April Ashley and therefore knew of the condition, although how she managed to remain so cool when apparently confronted with it in her own child I cannot imagine, unless perhaps she knew something already.
Either way she was a remarkable woman, and so are you.
As Janet has done the official moderator stuff I won't bother other than to say WELCOME.
You cannot know how much your support and acceptance will mean to your daughter. This can be a tough road and having your immediate family on board does make a huge difference.
Back in the 1960's, when as a naive toddler I first blurted out my secret in a London shoe shop and demanded that my mother buy me a lovely little pair of girl's read shoes I was one of the lucky ones blessed with a parent like you.
What started was the most incredible journey, and a wonderfully close bond between us, as in my slightly haphazard way I grew up and gradually became fully myself, without facing many of the trauma's and obstacles that 99% of others still face even today. The journey ended with my surgery in my mid twenties, but the bond endured until my mother's death in 1995.
By chance my mother was a radio producer and had met April Ashley and therefore knew of the condition, although how she managed to remain so cool when apparently confronted with it in her own child I cannot imagine, unless perhaps she knew something already.
Either way she was a remarkable woman, and so are you.
As Janet has done the official moderator stuff I won't bother other than to say WELCOME.
Title: Re: hi all
Post by: LadyTeresa on January 12, 2011, 12:33:06 PM
Post by: LadyTeresa on January 12, 2011, 12:33:06 PM
Hi mumof4,
My mother passed away before I started transitioning and it is the general consensus of the family that she would never have accepted me. It's great to see a mother be so supportive on her trans child. I do have one friend who's child is MtF and she really likes talking to me because I get it. She listens to my advice sometimes. *smiles*
Teresa
My mother passed away before I started transitioning and it is the general consensus of the family that she would never have accepted me. It's great to see a mother be so supportive on her trans child. I do have one friend who's child is MtF and she really likes talking to me because I get it. She listens to my advice sometimes. *smiles*
Teresa
Title: Re: hi all
Post by: sweetie87 on January 12, 2011, 02:52:13 PM
Post by: sweetie87 on January 12, 2011, 02:52:13 PM
Welcome to this place :)
Maybe you have found it already but reading "Mom, I need to be a girl" may be very helpful. It's a book written by a mom of 3 sons, one of her sons turned out to be her daughter. You can find it over here: http://ai.eecs.umich.edu/people/conway/TS/Evelyn/Mom_I_need_to_be_a_girl.pdf (http://ai.eecs.umich.edu/people/conway/TS/Evelyn/Mom_I_need_to_be_a_girl.pdf)
I read the book myself and it is so easily readable and touching. The support Evelyn (the mom) gave to her daughter really moved me and I once printed the book so my parents could read it as well.
For a parent this must be quite a journey you're a going through and it's great you are so supportive to your daughter.
Maybe you have found it already but reading "Mom, I need to be a girl" may be very helpful. It's a book written by a mom of 3 sons, one of her sons turned out to be her daughter. You can find it over here: http://ai.eecs.umich.edu/people/conway/TS/Evelyn/Mom_I_need_to_be_a_girl.pdf (http://ai.eecs.umich.edu/people/conway/TS/Evelyn/Mom_I_need_to_be_a_girl.pdf)
I read the book myself and it is so easily readable and touching. The support Evelyn (the mom) gave to her daughter really moved me and I once printed the book so my parents could read it as well.
For a parent this must be quite a journey you're a going through and it's great you are so supportive to your daughter.
Title: Re: hi all
Post by: Jillieann Rose on January 12, 2011, 09:20:52 PM
Post by: Jillieann Rose on January 12, 2011, 09:20:52 PM
Mom of 4 welcome to Susan's.
Your love for your daughter has effected all of us here too.
Many of us have no support from our family.
Thank you. It's so good to meet you.
Hug,
Jillieann
Your love for your daughter has effected all of us here too.
Many of us have no support from our family.
Thank you. It's so good to meet you.
Hug,
Jillieann
Title: Re: hi all
Post by: mumof4 on January 13, 2011, 06:11:23 AM
Post by: mumof4 on January 13, 2011, 06:11:23 AM
i wish i could be all of yours mum.. or at least a mum for those without support from family xxx
Title: Re: hi all
Post by: Sarah B on January 13, 2011, 06:32:43 AM
Post by: Sarah B on January 13, 2011, 06:32:43 AM
Hi mumof4
You can be mother to those who do not have support, by just being here on Susan's and tell us your story as it unfolds,hence when others come after you they will have a wealth of information to learn from. Is it not a mothers job to teach the young?
Take care and I know you will do well.
Kind regards
Sarah B
You can be mother to those who do not have support, by just being here on Susan's and tell us your story as it unfolds,hence when others come after you they will have a wealth of information to learn from. Is it not a mothers job to teach the young?
Take care and I know you will do well.
Kind regards
Sarah B