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I haven't been alone for longer than 6 months in the last five years, alone meaning not in a relationship. Every time I am I run back to the comfort of one of my ex girlfriends after 3 or 4 months. I become friends with them again. Well, normally that wouldn't be a bad thing because I could stay friends with them. The problem is that the ex I run back to has issues and she refuses to work through them :( I've put my ex fiancee out of my life entirely but I've hit that point again where I want to talk to my ex girlfriend because she wasn't just my ex she was my best friend and my support system. I stopped talking to her about 4 months ago because she said something that was just... pure evil. She admitted she needed help but refuse to get it. I'm not in love with her but I really love her and miss her.

I'm just starting to feel really lonely. For five years I had someone sleeping in bed with me almost every night. Now I don't like to sleep because my bed feels cold and empty. I'm having trouble working through that and through feeling lonely, trying not to run to my ex for comfort.  :-\ I just wanted to vent and ask any suggestions?

Try occupying yourself with physical activities or hobbies. Figure out how to live without someone in your life as independence can be so freeing.

Being alone is tough...it's hard especially if you have been with someone for a long time.  Add the fact that you are chaning and feeling like you should and now you want someone to walk that journey with you.

That being said, what I have learned is being alone although tough has its benefits --- plus during this time of change you don't have to be accountable to anyone.  Use this time to explore and become comfortable with being yourself.  Know what your boundaries are.  The stronger of a person you are independently the stronger a relationship you will have. 

Friends are always good to talk to and hang out with....is there a GLBT organization near you ... volunteer with them...develop some new friends that only know you as a guy - it will help you feel more confident and make you be more attractable to others.

You can do it!  A year from now you will feel much better about things. 

Get a really big dog, like a German Shepherd.
You'll never feel alone in bed again  :)
(Even if it does smell like warm dog)

Thanks for the advice everyone.

Rob- I have been attending my glbt youth meetings and my trans meeting now lately. So I'm trying in that aspect to surround myself with people. But those only meet once a week and both on the same day so it isn't very spread out. Everyone there knows me as male but a lot of them aren't even close to my age so they seem to not be interested in talking to someone so young  :-\ but I have made some very good friends through there. There is a depression anxiety group that I've been looking into at the center but I have a little bit of anxiety at the thought of being in a room full of strangers. I'm trying to convince my friend to go with me one week.

Vexing I do have a dog but that was a great idea. He's a little dachshund but he sure can take up most of the bed. He helps a little.

Lordkat- thanks I can't wait till I reach the point where independence feels more freeing than it does lonely.

I've been with my partner for 7 1/2 years. I've gotten upset and wanted to leave many times; I've even called it off twice. But I can't seem to live alone. I'd always move in and forgive him just because the thought of being alone is more frightening to me than anything I have to face with my transition. I guess what I mean to say is, yeah... it sucks. I feel for you, brother.   :'(

Hey trust me its hard. I've never had a boyfriend. :(