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Title: Supportive Spouse!
Post by: Ruby on January 12, 2011, 06:35:32 PM
Post by: Ruby on January 12, 2011, 06:35:32 PM
Supportive Spouse!
Hi everyone here at Susan's! My name is Ruby and I am married to Chelsea, a MTF post-op transsexual. We've been married 21 years and have 4 children, ages 19-30. Transition for us began in January 2009, just 2 years ago, though we have known our entire relationship that "something" was up. My acceptance has been all the easier for having known about "that something" from the beginning. Chelsea never raced ahead of me, nor did things that she did not tell me about. She wasn't always sure she was a transsexual – didn't really believe in it for herself until she got very, very ill trying to resist what was inside her. I was also very resistant for years, wouldn't even read about it, until I learned that sometimes transsexuals with undiagnosed illnesses recover spontaneously with transition. Then I read in earnest. After only a few books, we both felt she might well be trans and began the search for a gender specialist. In addition to attending therapy both with her and without her, I attended 3 conventions, numerous support group meetings, met lots of other trans people, joined Transfamily/spouse online support group, and did a lot of soul searching. Chelsea and I have always had an amazing connection – deep, spiritually passionate, sexy, communicative, and just generally best friends. I knew that it was a relationship to preserve. I have worked very hard to get to the place I am today, a place not only of acceptance but also of enthusiasm. I honor transsexuality as a spiritual force on the planet; I am honored to work to help the rest of the world see it as such. And by the way, she is not sick anymore. Cheers. Ruby
Hi everyone here at Susan's! My name is Ruby and I am married to Chelsea, a MTF post-op transsexual. We've been married 21 years and have 4 children, ages 19-30. Transition for us began in January 2009, just 2 years ago, though we have known our entire relationship that "something" was up. My acceptance has been all the easier for having known about "that something" from the beginning. Chelsea never raced ahead of me, nor did things that she did not tell me about. She wasn't always sure she was a transsexual – didn't really believe in it for herself until she got very, very ill trying to resist what was inside her. I was also very resistant for years, wouldn't even read about it, until I learned that sometimes transsexuals with undiagnosed illnesses recover spontaneously with transition. Then I read in earnest. After only a few books, we both felt she might well be trans and began the search for a gender specialist. In addition to attending therapy both with her and without her, I attended 3 conventions, numerous support group meetings, met lots of other trans people, joined Transfamily/spouse online support group, and did a lot of soul searching. Chelsea and I have always had an amazing connection – deep, spiritually passionate, sexy, communicative, and just generally best friends. I knew that it was a relationship to preserve. I have worked very hard to get to the place I am today, a place not only of acceptance but also of enthusiasm. I honor transsexuality as a spiritual force on the planet; I am honored to work to help the rest of the world see it as such. And by the way, she is not sick anymore. Cheers. Ruby
Title: Re: Supportive Spouse!
Post by: Jacquelyn on January 12, 2011, 06:53:34 PM
Post by: Jacquelyn on January 12, 2011, 06:53:34 PM
Welcome Ruby! I can tell that you will be a wonderful asset to Susan's. I am also the SO of a TG person, and it's nice to have more support from family and friends for everyone here.
I look forward to more of your posts!
Hugs,
Jackie
I look forward to more of your posts!
Hugs,
Jackie
Title: Re: Supportive Spouse!
Post by: cynthialee on January 12, 2011, 08:10:32 PM
Post by: cynthialee on January 12, 2011, 08:10:32 PM
Not only a transsexual. ...I am the spouse of an androgyn who I am married too.
From personal experiance I feel I can safely say that it is harder on the spouse than it is the transitioner. It is comendable that you have stayed.
Welcome aboard. Susans is a wonderful place with alot of suport, you will be well recieved.
From personal experiance I feel I can safely say that it is harder on the spouse than it is the transitioner. It is comendable that you have stayed.
Welcome aboard. Susans is a wonderful place with alot of suport, you will be well recieved.
Title: Re: Supportive Spouse!
Post by: Jillieann Rose on January 12, 2011, 09:09:37 PM
Post by: Jillieann Rose on January 12, 2011, 09:09:37 PM
Hello Ruby.
It is good to meet you.
Your a very specail person and we are glad to have you here.
We.come to Susan's.
Jillieann
It is good to meet you.
Your a very specail person and we are glad to have you here.
We.come to Susan's.
Jillieann
Title: Re: Supportive Spouse!
Post by: Janet_Girl on January 12, 2011, 11:06:40 PM
Post by: Janet_Girl on January 12, 2011, 11:06:40 PM
Hi Ruby, :icon_wave:
Welcome to our little family. Over 4800 strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion.
Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams. Ask questions and seek answers. Give and receive advice.
But remember we are family here, your family now. And it is always nice to have another SO. :icon_hug:
And be sure to check out these links ( MUST READS )
Hugs and Love,
Janet
Welcome to our little family. Over 4800 strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion.
Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams. Ask questions and seek answers. Give and receive advice.
But remember we are family here, your family now. And it is always nice to have another SO. :icon_hug:
And be sure to check out these links ( MUST READS )
- Site Terms of Service and rules to live by (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,2.0.html)
- Standard Terms and Definitions (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,54369.0.html)
- Post Ranks ( including when you can upload an avatar) (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,114.0.html.)
- Reputation Rules (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,18960.msg146855.html#msg146855)
- Age and the Forum (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,62197.msg405545.html#msg405545)
Hugs and Love,
Janet
Title: Re: Supportive Spouse!
Post by: Sarah B on January 13, 2011, 05:26:42 AM
Post by: Sarah B on January 13, 2011, 05:26:42 AM
Hi Ruby
Welcome to Susan's and I would like to thank you for being so supportive of Chelsea. It's good to hear that there are kind, compassionate and understanding people in the world like you, Jacquelyn and Octavianus.
Take care and all the best for the future
Kindest regards
Sarah B
Welcome to Susan's and I would like to thank you for being so supportive of Chelsea. It's good to hear that there are kind, compassionate and understanding people in the world like you, Jacquelyn and Octavianus.
Take care and all the best for the future
Kindest regards
Sarah B