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As the title alludes, SRS has provided me with a subtle, but very real, reduction in self-consciousness.
For example, I'm sitting at my desk in a short dress. Normally, this would result in several levels of paranoia over accidentally exposing the bulk in my knickers. But now this paranoia is gone - I don't want to flash my undies at people, but if I do so by accident, I'm not bothered, since there's nothing out of the ordinary down there.
And in the women's toilets, I no longer have the fear of discovery - that irrational fear that someone will force the door or look over the partition, then point at my exposed crotch and say "A-HA! I knew it!"
Peeing without irrational fear is a great release (pun intended).
Even getting changing in the dressing rooms at a clothing store is subtly different; if someone opens the door/curtain on me by accident, I'll still be embarrassed about being undressed, but they're not going to see anything they wouldn't expect (like a bulge at my nethers).
Of course, one other change is the ability to sashay down the beach in a bikini, but that's not very subtle, is it?  :D

Yess..i cant wait to be able to do cartwheels on the beach in a bikini :)

You are the sort to do this - but since you didn't allude to it I have to ask.

Were you mining the double engender territory with SRS/Subtle Reduction in Self-consciousness, or is that an absurd coincidence?

Quote from: Rebekah with a K-A-H on January 14, 2011, 12:24:17 AM
You are the sort to do this - but since you didn't allude to it I have to ask.

Were you mining the double engender territory with SRS/Subtle Reduction in Self-consciousness, or is that an absurd coincidence?

Completely intended  ;)

I'm so happy for you bb. <3

Indeed Vex'd...

Glad that you're fully relishing yer new form....lol

(Freedom to 'be' was the key motivator for me)

Though back in the 90's to get myself uber-fit and when in training for my first bout of ops.... during that summer in 91' I used the open-air Lido down the road from my flat in Muswell Hill.... and though the ladies changing cubicles were not totally-private open topped I got used to nerving it out ok...lol

During the day with mums and kiddies prevalent.... you can imagine the furore if my secret had slipped out...

But I was v.lucky with passing very well even pre-op.....and wore a one piece....to swim hard as oft as I could.

For the seriously dysphoric.... the final and at long-last worked toward and earned opportunity of finally being free of tension in that dept.... is sooo blissfully releasing!!

Interestingly I got an echo of this late last year post my lipo and hip to waist ratio tweak, when slipping into jogging shorts and then a swim costume for the first time – to feel and see the better shape - me looking more girlie 30s - than podgy 50s which is what I was start of 2010...

What an endorphin rush - made all the difficulty encountered totally worthwhile...

Which is why so many people not just the TG community opt for the global business which is cosmetic surgery....

Just ma facelift left to go.....ha, ha....

Irrational fear in the loos is one that gets me, it'll be really nice once i don't have to worry about things like that.

Quote from: Helena on January 14, 2011, 10:52:12 AM
Irrational fear in the loos is one that gets me, it'll be really nice once i don't have to worry about things like that.

I started using the ladies room when my co worked told me that everyone at work thought I was a girl. I did it three times but then I stopped. Too scared :(

Just whizz in whizz out.... and smile if anyone looks at you...

Its private in a closet.... and you lock the door so chin up and just do it!

So prior to SRS I was so incredibly self-conscious "down there" when I slept with my boyfriend and we would both endeavor to keep things hidden and discreet.  Then three or four days after SRS I had to go use the bathroom for the first time.  So I struggled to make my way to the bathroom, I did my business, and then shuffled my way back to the bed carrying my catheter bag.  My garment opened in the front so everything was visible.  My boyfriend said, "You've not self-conscious anymore."  Indeed!  It hadn't crossed my mind that he shouldn't be seeing me naked.  What was such a huge issue previously was simply gone.

Quote from: TraciMC on January 14, 2011, 12:55:56 PM
So prior to SRS I was so incredibly self-conscious "down there" when I slept with my boyfriend and we would both endeavor to keep things hidden and discreet.  Then three or four days after SRS I had to go use the bathroom for the first time.  So I struggled to make my way to the bathroom, I did my business, and then shuffled my way back to the bed carrying my catheter bag.  My garment opened in the front so everything was visible.  My boyfriend said, "You've not self-conscious anymore."  Indeed!  It hadn't crossed my mind that he shouldn't be seeing me naked.  What was such a huge issue previously was simply gone.

Oh yeah, I'd kinda forgotten about the nudity aspect - I now walk around the house naked in the morning after my shower. If the neighbours see anything, they're not going to see anything out of the ordinary.

Yay =) I personally cant wait for nakedness. Just sayin'! haha

But the whole women's bathroom thing. I'm also all worried about "how" I pee ....what sound does it make....LOL

Quote from: Jerica on January 14, 2011, 03:13:00 PM
Yay =) I personally cant wait for nakedness. Just sayin'! haha

But the whole women's bathroom thing. I'm also all worried about "how" I pee ....what sound does it make....LOL

Ask Nicky, she's the expert on listening to other women pee  :)

Quote from: Jerica on January 14, 2011, 03:13:00 PM
I'm also all worried about "how" I pee ....what sound does it make....LOL

I could go in, but it took a while to pee as I waited for people to leave.
Then one day it was an emergency and ... No more problems. Though I did direct the "stream" to sound right  :)

Quote from: Vexing on January 14, 2011, 04:46:24 PM
Ask Nicky, she's the expert on listening to other women pee  :)

hahaha

Quote from: juliemac on January 14, 2011, 05:56:11 PM
Though I did direct the "stream" to sound right  :)

Exactly! hehehe

My friend and I went to the mall for lunch friday. Along the noisy hallways we came upon a Victorias Secret.
A SALE!

Normally this place is filled with pretty young things (people) and they made me horribly self concious.
Not this time. For the first time I could shop for decent fitting bras here with out feeling out of place.
Even joked with the staff as my friend and I are want to do  :)

That, and this thread, made me wonder about how surgery has changed my life.

I am the same person. I still like being an engineer, making electrons dance, wood, metal or plastic being formed by my finger tips. Machines dont care if I am an inny or an outie or if my shoes dont match my purse  :)

Sort of like my personality is smoother, fewer jagged rough edges. Inside my head is quieter, less noise. Interactions with others is less guarded, stinted. I am less shy for one!
Though the surgery and all that led up to it was a PITA (actually a few inches north) and I HATE being TS, I wake with less of a weight on my shoulders. I like life.

Quote from: juliemac on January 15, 2011, 06:23:37 AM
Sort of like my personality is smoother, fewer jagged rough edges. Inside my head is quieter, less noise. Interactions with others is less guarded, stinted. I am less shy for one!
Though the surgery and all that led up to it was a PITA (actually a few inches north) and I HATE being TS, I wake with less of a weight on my shoulders. I like life.

I know what you mean. My (soon to be) mother in law said that I now project a kind of calm and wholeness, that I seem more together and laid back.

Quote from: Jerica on January 14, 2011, 03:13:00 PM
I'm also all worried about "how" I pee ....what sound does it make....LOL

OMG! This, though every so often someone in the cubical next to me sounds exactly like they're standing up to pee ???

Quote from: Helena on January 15, 2011, 06:47:35 PM
OMG! This, though every so often someone in the cubical next to me sounds exactly like they're standing up to pee ???

hovercraft style maybe.

Anyway, Your new meaning for SRS makes sense even for me who has had no surgeries beyond hysto. The only thing I can not get past is talking to attractive females. I get tongue tied with them and no one else. *Sigh*

Many GGs don't sit on a public toilet seat for the obvious reason....

As to sound if yer surgeons good and buries your urethra directly atop your vaginal opening... deep within folds.... then you;ll sound just the same as other girlies with a hiss....

Which is nice.... is aural authenticity is a comfort...

But i doubt anyone else would give it this much attention.....  :P

Quote from: Cruelladeville on January 16, 2011, 05:07:10 AM
But i doubt anyone else would give it this much attention.....  :P

I certainly don't notice other people peeing. I'm too busy peeing!

Subtle is definately not the word I would use regarding my reduction in self consciousness.

I went from being completely paranoid about my body to having no problem at all stripping of and changing in front of others in just a few weeks.

The first time I looked in the mirror post op it was as though everything about my body was suddenly more feminine. I guess having the clinic girls come and inspect Suporn's work every day for a month made a big difference too.

Ann

I guess I came to terms with the bulk of my body issues before surgery, hence why it was more subtle for myself than it was for you  :)