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This is a thread where we can rant about those little foibles in our partner, that really irk us.

Top of my list. When I make a cup of tea, I ask my wife if she wants one, while I'm filling the kettle. She takes so long to answer that I've put the kettle to boil. If she's said yes, I have to take the kettle back to the sink and fill it more.

Aghhhhhhhhhh!

Whenever I ask my SO to pick up his clothes in the bathroom, he does. But they still don't always make it to the hamper.  :-\

He is lucky he is cute.

I never did mind about the little things...

@spacial- its when you ask your partner if she wants a drink, she says no so you make yourself one, then five minutes later she decides she will have one

Quote from: James instead of Al on January 16, 2011, 07:51:13 PM
@spacial- its when you ask your partner if she wants a drink, she says no so you make yourself one, then five minutes later she decides she will have one

Absolutely. Haha

Or 'sweetheart i'm putting some white washing in, have you got anything that needs doing?'
'No' she shouts down then arrives with her arms full of white stuff as the washing machine starts its cycle

When I ask her opinion on something and she answers with a yes or no. I didn't ask if you want it or not, I asked what you thought! D:

When we're having an argument (not serious) about something and in the middle of it she does a total u turn on her stance after shes been so vehemently defending her position, but she does it without even acknowledging that shes changed her stance

When we are getting ready to go somewhere and I am rushing about to finish doing the million things that have to be done before we leave and he just sits there, still in his PJs, because it (and I quote) "Only takes me two minutes to get ready".

1) I'm jealous because I never get ready that quickly;
2) Then you ought to finish doing some of these things so that we have a prayer of being on time.  :P

I'm the other way- i take two minutes to get ready then have to wait for her

Scraping excess margarine/butter back into the tub after it's been on his toast,
MAKES VEXING SOMETHING SOMETHING

Quote from: Jacquelyn on January 16, 2011, 07:45:23 PM
Whenever I ask my SO to pick up his clothes in the bathroom, he does. But they still don't always make it to the hamper.  :-\

He is lucky he is cute.

Our bath doubles as a clothes hamper  :D

Quote from: Vexing on January 16, 2011, 08:19:53 PM
Scraping excess margarine/butter back into the tub after it's been on his toast,
MAKES VEXING SOMETHING SOMETHING

Hmmm my wife moans about that too, is it a female thing?

Quote from: Vexing on January 16, 2011, 08:19:53 PM
Scraping excess margarine/butter back into the tub after it's been on his toast,
MAKES VEXING SOMETHING SOMETHING

THAT. And getting pieces of whatever he is putting said butter/sour cream/something else in a tub in the tub so that it festers. YUCK!

Quote from: James instead of Al on January 16, 2011, 08:22:11 PM
Hmmm my wife moans about that too, is it a female thing?

It may well be!

Theres nothing wrong with jam in the butter  :D

Waiting until I've had to wear the same three pairs of socks seven times to do the laundry. I can't carry the laundry up and down the narrow stairway to the washer so I have to nag her to do it. I'm still waiting for her to get to my undershirts, she started 'doing laundry' three days ago >.<

Quote from: Jacquelyn on January 16, 2011, 08:23:26 PM
THAT. And getting pieces of whatever he is putting said butter/sour cream/something else in a tub in the tub so that it festers. YUCK!

EXACTLY. It's effing GROSS - as well as unhygienic!

Oh, and my other pet hate; my fiancé using my eyeliner. One of the few drawbacks of being in a relationship with a Goth - sometimes he wears more makeup than me  :(

Quote from: James instead of Al on January 16, 2011, 08:22:11 PM
Hmmm my wife moans about that too, is it a female thing?

As if...I'd b*tch about the same thing.  I also don't like it when a person uses the same knife for their peanut butter and their jelly while making a sandwich.  I do not like peanut butter in my jelly or vice-versa.  D:<

~*~But I have no room to talk, I'm currently single.  It's just a pet-peeve that has stayed with me through the years, through exes and family alike.~*~

Quote from: LukasGabriel on January 16, 2011, 08:49:08 PM
As if...I'd b*tch about the same thing.  I also don't like it when a person uses the same knife for their peanut butter and their jelly while making a sandwich.  I do not like peanut butter in my jelly or vice-versa.  D:<

~*~But I have no room to talk, I'm currently single.  It's just a pet-peeve that has stayed with me through the years, through exes and family alike.~*~

There is nothing wrong with being a peanut butter and jelly purist.

-When you put something down and know exactly where it is and then she moves it for no reason

Quote from: James instead of Al on January 16, 2011, 09:06:30 PM
-When you put something down and know exactly where it is and then she moves it for no reason

When he gets really agitated looking for something but continuously refers to it as, "You know? That thing. The thing I had 3 days ago, I sat it down somewhere over there."

No. I don't know what 'That thing', is. There are lots of things in our house. Hahahaha

Quote from: Jacquelyn on January 16, 2011, 09:08:20 PM
When he gets really agitated looking for something but continuously refers to it as, "You know? That thing. The thing I had 3 days ago, I sat it down somewhere over there."

but you must know what thing- you saw me with it

Quote from: James instead of Al on January 16, 2011, 09:12:48 PM
but you must know what thing- you saw me with it

How'd you know?!  :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

Quote from: James instead of Al on January 16, 2011, 09:12:48 PM
but you must know what thing- you saw me with it

Reminds me of conversations with mine:
Me: "I think I'll wear the red dress. What do you think?"
Him: "Which red dress?"
Me: "The one with the straps"
Him: "You have like 500 dresses, how the eff am I supposed to know which one it is?"

@Jacquelyn- just an aside, are we the only ones awake?

When she decides two minutes before your supposed to be going out that her hair needs washing

Quote from: James instead of Al on January 16, 2011, 08:22:11 PM
Hmmm my wife moans about that too, is it a female thing?

No it's SKANKY HORRIBLE THING!!! >:( :police: And I'm pretty easy going (honest! :)) :laugh:

Quote from: James instead of Al on January 16, 2011, 09:19:25 PM
@Jacquelyn- just an aside, are we the only ones awake?

When she decides two minutes before your supposed to be going out that her hair needs washing

I was thinking that. :p There aren't many new threads being born at this time. Haha



I will admit I am guilty of getting ready, asking for an opinion, getting a positive remark, and then deciding I have to change my outfit anyway. It frustrates the hell out of him. Hahaha

However, he likes to steal all the blankets, so I don't feel too bad. :p

Quote from: Jacquelyn on January 16, 2011, 09:22:57 PM
However, he likes to steal all the blankets, so I don't feel too bad. :p

Mine kicks all the blankets onto me, so I wake up boiling hot in a huge pile of bedding  >:(

One of her peeves towards me is that I'll beat her up for all the blankets... while I'm asleep. We had a california king bed for a while and (I'm a lot smaller than she is) I would wind up with almost all of it by morning.

Quote from: Vexing on January 16, 2011, 09:25:51 PM
Mine kicks all the blankets onto me, so I wake up boiling hot in a huge pile of bedding  >:(

I am always freezing. While he weighs like 7 pounds and sweats when it's 2 degrees out. Does. Not. Compute.  :-\

i just bought a heavier quilt cos of the winter and now my wife and the cat end up with it all cos its too warm.
back to the thread tho- when she tells you shes tired and going to bed, so you put all your stuff away and your ready to go- and she's still on the computer

The guy i am currently dating...is the perfect example of mr. fix-it and gives solutions to everything. I can't really complain though because he is so sweet in every way =]

Guys in my past have had jealousy issues and omg that is the absolute worst. Possessiveness is so unattractive.
Other things include me having to pick up after the guy, i hate doing that.

Quote from: James instead of Al on January 16, 2011, 09:06:30 PM
-When you put something down and know exactly where it is and then she moves it for no reason

I can definately know that one.

Another. She starts telling me about something. Then just as it get interesting, she introduces a new person into the senario and spends the next 5 minutes talking about that person, while I'm still waiting to hear what happened in the original story!!!

When we're talking, and I say something, then she says 'yeah you were all like -repeats what I just said-'.
It's like.. yeah, I WAS all like -repeat- BECAUSE I JUST SAID THAT. -flails-

And sometimes she tries to tell me how I feel about something. For example, I'll say that I feel really crappy that day, and she'll say no you don't. I don't know why she does that, but I'm trying to break her of that habit lol

She also will wear the same clothes day.. after day.. after day. Until they stink so bad I can't hug her lol. Leftover behavior from boy-mode, I guess.

And the biggest one of all.. HER OBSESSION WITH BIKES. Augh! She's so obsessed! She'd marry a bike if she could! She's constantly talking about them and drooling over derailleurs and steel frames. It's so bad that everyone we know teases her about her 'bike porn' because she'll sit on the computer for hours drooling over bikes that people have posted pictures of. Bleh. At least biking is good for her.

Quote from: spacial on January 17, 2011, 05:34:21 AM
I can definately know that one.

Another. She starts telling me about something. Then just as it get interesting, she introduces a new person into the senario and spends the next 5 minutes talking about that person, while I'm still waiting to hear what happened in the original story!!!

Guilty. :(

Quote from: Jacquelyn on January 17, 2011, 08:48:20 PM
Guilty. :(

Same  :-\
And THEN he'll ask me to clarify who the person is later on in the piece!
BLUH!
MEN!

Quote from: Vexing on January 17, 2011, 09:12:38 PM
Same  :-\
And THEN he'll ask me to clarify who the person is later on in the piece!
BLUH!
MEN!

I'm glad I am not the only one. I will admit I ramble sometimes, but hey, the things I have to say are usually pretty interesting. :)

Quote from: Morgan
And sometimes she tries to tell me how I feel about something.
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This. I ll say i feel down and she tells me its because of so and so and then i'm going actually no its for a totally different reason

I always had teachers, parents, shrinks and others telling me what I felt. I never understood how  they could possibly know and if they knew, why the hell did they ask me in the first place?

This

Quote from: KillBelle on January 16, 2011, 09:44:29 PM
The guy i am currently dating...is the perfect example of mr. fix-it and gives solutions to everything. I can't really complain though because he is so sweet in every way =]

I know it's kinda off topic, but can someone explain this?  Why don't most girls want to hear solutions to their problems after they explained them to someone?  I mean, either way you know someone cared enough to listen to you, but if they suggest a solution then you know that they not only care enough to listen, but enough to think about what you're saying, and now you have advice to consider.  It doesn't make sense to me, but to each his/her own.  ::)

My partner for the life of him cannot handle paperwork.  I hate it too, but I guess I have a scientific mind, so I get stuck with it.  Also, he does not know where the mail boxes in our apartment complex are, let alone our number.  he's awesome other than that.

Sometimes I want a solution, sometimes I don't.
Actually, most of the time I don't; because I'm intelligent, rational, independent and capable - so if if there is a solution, I've probably already figured it out on my own.
So if I share my problem, it's just that - an exercise in sharing, so that my partner knows what I've been thinking about/doing lately.
On the rare occasion that I do want a solution, then I'll ask for a solution.
i.e. "Hey love, I've been having this problem at work and I was wondering if you could help me with it..."

Quote from: Chris73 on January 27, 2011, 04:12:36 PM
Why don't most girls want to hear solutions to their problems after they explained them to someone?  I mean, either way you know someone cared enough to listen to you, but if they suggest a solution then you know that they not only care enough to listen, but enough to think about what you're saying, and now you have advice to consider.  It doesn't make sense to me, but to each his/her own.  ::)

I've found that, unless people specifically ask for a solutions or help, they they don't want it. They just need to rant/sound off/talk, like we all do, sometimes.

Offering advice, when it isn't asked for, can often be annoying.

He likes fighting game (Mortal Kombat, etc). He can't stand spicy food (how will I ever cook anything?! I don't want a corpse on my hands...). He says my music is too sad (Bauhaus, sad?). He doesn't drink tea OR coffee.

Yeah. Otherwise, he's alright. I mean, he's nice to me and such. He is also trying his darned best to respect me as a man, and treat me as such, which feels good. He's a sweet guy, and I'm converting him into becoming a Jhonen Vasquez fan and such, so that we can recite quotes endlessly to each other.

Why don't most girls want to hear solutions to their problems after they explained them to someone?

Well because they already have the solution (or are smart enough to know there isn't one), and 'the problem' isn't the focus, it's only a metaphor or vehicle for talking about everyone around the problem.

Sometimes, when she offers me some help with something and i don't need it, she gets all upset.

So she becomes the one with the problem!!

OK, so this isn't exactly a pet hate, but something that makes me smile when I don't want to.

She'll look at me and say, 'Don't look at me in that tone of voice'.

Quote from: spacial on February 01, 2011, 06:10:38 PM
OK, so this isn't exactly a pet hate, but something that makes me smile when I don't want to.

She'll look at me and say, 'Don't look at me in that tone of voice'.

LOL. I say that to my SO all the time.  :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

                                                              The Question

Twas the end of a long week and having a much needed respite,a time to spend with my beloved and revel in our companionship. As we prepared for our evening out my heart is filled with excitement and joy. Tender thoughts of my beloved one flow freely. But alas at the back of my mind is that nagging feeling of dread. Perhaps i may be spared the question that fills me with fear. May my beloved spare me tonight.
I have sought the answer to this perplexing dilemma near and far. I have sought out the wise,but alas to no end. Will my beloved accept the answer i have so long affirmed?
As she has finished her preparation for the night,she appears a vision of loveliness, my heart leaps with joy. I tell my beloved how wonder she looks and a slight smile appears but alas as we head out the door the question i dreaded has come from her lips. Alas as i ponder anew for my sentence is near for i am doomed to a week of solitude with only the comfort of my pillow and couch. Honey does this dress make me look fat?

And no she was not fat,