Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: JenJen2011 on January 28, 2011, 03:16:33 PM Return to Full Version
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Post by: JenJen2011 on January 28, 2011, 03:16:33 PM
Post by: JenJen2011 on January 28, 2011, 03:16:33 PM
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Title: Re: Am I being selfish???
Post by: VeryGnawty on January 28, 2011, 03:23:12 PM
Post by: VeryGnawty on January 28, 2011, 03:23:12 PM
Quote from: JenJen2011 on January 28, 2011, 03:16:33 PM
Also, If I were single, I would pay my monthly bills and make a sacrifice
and save the rest for surgery. I can't do that now because ever since
we've been together we've saved our money together.
Well, there's your problem! I can't tell you how many couples I've seen squabble over financial issues. This could all easily be avoided by having separate financial accounts. Frankly, I don't see why anyone would share finances. Just because you love someone, that doesn't make them any better at managing a budget.
Title: Re: Am I being selfish???
Post by: Tamaki on January 28, 2011, 03:44:42 PM
Post by: Tamaki on January 28, 2011, 03:44:42 PM
My wife and I separated our finances years ago. It has really helped things. She also told me if I'm going to get any surgeries done I have to pay for them myself.
Just remember it's your body, not your partner's.
One thing I've quickly learned is that we are much harsher critics of ourselves than others. You may not need FFS and pass just fine. Maybe your voice is giving you away? I'd get other inputs before I took that leap.
Being with my spouse is slowing my transition down but I'm very grateful for that. Things are happening at a pace that allows us both time to adjust and also forces me to think about my choices (in a good way). I choose to stay with her and work on our relationship, as does she, and it's the hardest thing I've ever done. She doesn't like all of the changes that I'm making but realizes that she can't tell me what to do with my body just as I can't tell her.
Talk to your partner about these things. I'm willing to bet that your partner doesn't want you to get FFS because their afraid.
I hope this helps.
Just remember it's your body, not your partner's.
One thing I've quickly learned is that we are much harsher critics of ourselves than others. You may not need FFS and pass just fine. Maybe your voice is giving you away? I'd get other inputs before I took that leap.
Being with my spouse is slowing my transition down but I'm very grateful for that. Things are happening at a pace that allows us both time to adjust and also forces me to think about my choices (in a good way). I choose to stay with her and work on our relationship, as does she, and it's the hardest thing I've ever done. She doesn't like all of the changes that I'm making but realizes that she can't tell me what to do with my body just as I can't tell her.
Talk to your partner about these things. I'm willing to bet that your partner doesn't want you to get FFS because their afraid.
I hope this helps.