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I guess I could do with a bit of advice from other post-op girls here. That and a little reassurance!

Have others found that first time to be easy? Or maybe it took a few tries to achieve penetration?

I wonder whether others have found it impossible on their first try, but then later, with practice, found it easier.

I imagine it's a little different because of dilation. Dilation kind of makes you "not a virgin" from what I understand. But I won't know from experience for a while yet ;)

I dilated just prior to my first sexual experience post-op, to ensure that everything was stretched and open.
Other than that, no problems at all. If you're having sex with someone who has a reasonably average penis, then you'll find that it's much more flexible and has more 'give' than the dilators, so the experience is fairly pleasant.
When engaging in the act of penetration, my fiancé started out slowly then had the full length of his penis inside me within about a minute. Pain was nil and sensation was good.
We haven't tried it yet without me dilating first, but I imagine sufficient foreplay would relieve the need to dilate first.

I have too much of an active imagination for this.

Quote from: KillBelle on January 31, 2011, 05:09:30 PM
I have too much of an active imagination for this.

ROFL!

I wasn't expecting to 'go all the way' the first time it happened but the guy was sweet, gentle, and experienced. He had my body persuaded long before the mind caught up to what was happening  ::)  I was scared/nervous and I told him I was a virgin and he was appropriately gentle (but I did bleed a little on the sheets - how appropriate!). There was only a moment's pain but I was in far too much emotional confusion to notice it much. The second time was much better  ;D

Thanks for the replies.
I think a little dilation beforehand will be something I'll try next time.

I can still almost remember back to this...

Not exactly the event but defo the man.... a lawyer he was... fab clothes sense!

All my male lovers have never questioned my femaleness.... and if they be nice types and get you played up... and know what they're about....lol

What follows is a fairly natural experience.... which is why all the hard effort, discipline and pain to get yer new bits tip-top is really worth it in the end...

Faith and diligence have always worked for me...  :P

Good luck

Quote from: Siren on January 31, 2011, 12:43:48 PM

Have others found that first time to be easy? Or maybe it took a few tries to achieve penetration?

I wonder whether others have found it impossible on their first try, but then later, with practice, found it easier.

My first time was about 13months afer my surgery, it hurt a little with just a little bleeding, my boyfriend at the time was very gentle and I was very nervous, after 2nd and 3rd time over a period it was ok, the best of all was just satisfying my boyfriend as a woman, when he tolded me he couldnd tell the difference it was awsome, but just a little pain the first time.

Quote from: Caitj on January 31, 2011, 04:30:59 PM
When engaging in the act of penetration, my fiancé started out slowly then had the full length of his penis inside me within about a minute. Pain was nil and sensation was good.

Thats very quick, I guess SRS has improved over the years, I had mine in 1985, Iv no problems now, Iv a good sexual relationship now with my Husband, he never questions my womanhood, always nice to see that look of satisfaction on his face afterwards.
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Quote from: pretty pauline on February 03, 2011, 05:42:08 PM
Thats very quick, I guess SRS has improved over the years, I had mine in 1985, Iv no problems now, Iv a good sexual relationship now with my Husband, he never questions my womanhood, always nice to see that look of satisfaction on his face afterwards.
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One would hope it had improved after 25 years!
At a guess, you probably had the inversion method, which is quite different to the non-inversion method used by Suporn in 2010. Knowledge of aftercare and medications have also improved greatly during this time  :)

I would imagine that sex would be very painful, considering the neo-vagina is technically an open wound?  :-\ I'm a bit interested in getting the surgery though. For me it kinda feels like my current genitals are "in the way" at times when I have sexual fantasies.

*the neo-vagina is technically an open wound*

Who i espousing this cr#p?

Maybe wihin the first 48hrs of post-surgey recovery... as would a GGs be post episiotomy...

But once all's healed its not a wound at all.....

And if all works out wll for you it remains a 'sexual' organ...

I see how it could be, and I read a comment from this one woman and she said that sex was painful for her after the surgery, and on tv it said 60% of transwomen don't use their vagina for sex, so I assumed it was painful.

but thank you for informing me.  :)

I'd say I regarded mine as a wound for around a month. By the end of that first month after surgery all the stitches had dissolved and suture lines had healed. Dilation also became a lot easier at that point. Since then I have only thought of it as a vagina.

I can see how the first penetrative sex might be painful, but I would imagine that pain doesn't last long. At least, I hope so!

Well having been postop for longer than just about everyone else on here I can tell you that penetrative sex has never been painful for me. It is in fact probably the most pleasure that you can have in this life.

This idea that 60% of transwomen don't use their vagina for sex also sounds totally wrong to me. I can't imagine anyone going through all that just to let it all go to waste.

I have to say I also take exception to the description of my vag as a wound. Its a work of art, sculpted in flesh, and lovingly restored last year, in a minor revision, to perfection. It is NOT a wound.

I agree with Jenny  on all points!

I have been around 37 years and had more than my share of lovers. I ENJOY sex and always have. I have not always been "a good girl" and enjoyed every minute in the sack.  Orgasms are FANTASTIC! :o

I will admit I have not known many other TS since I transitioned but I know that for all the youngsters I knew back then, SEX was a large part of the reason for transition/SRS - of course it was - they were all normal girls and sex is part of life at that age!

There is no "open wound" about mine either (despite the fact surgery was "in the dark ages"). I have been with more than a few guys who didn't know and they were none the wiser afterwards.

Hiya,

This worries me, I'm going away on holiday with my bf in May and as yet we have not had sex. I'm post op six months and met him about two months ago. He's sweet and kind but I've always kept away from the sex thing at the moment cus I didn't want to complicate things with sex and just wanted to be friends. I know he turns me on because when we danced close the other week I got aroused by him on the dance floor, lol. He also doesn't know my past which is complicating my thoughts too.

Stardust

Quote from: ~RoadToTrista~ on February 07, 2011, 10:24:53 PM
I would imagine that sex would be very painful, considering the neo-vagina is technically an open wound?

Well sex would be a little painful till the new vagina heals, but after healing it certainly isn't ''an open wound''
I was dating and had a successful sexual relationship with my Fiancé for nearly 18months before I tolded him I was trans, he had absolutely no idea and thought I was joking, he had several girlfriends before me and tolded me my vagina is as normal as any other woman, infact probably better lol well he would say that, Im now his Wife, like any guy or loving Husband he's very much in love with my vagina, its my girl, my womanhood, an open pussy flower, certainly not an open wound.
Pauline

Quote from: stardust on February 08, 2011, 06:56:42 PM
Hiya,

This worries me, I'm going away on holiday with my bf in May and as yet we have not had sex. I'm post op six months and met him about two months ago. He's sweet and kind but I've always kept away from the sex thing at the moment cus I didn't want to complicate things with sex and just wanted to be friends. I know he turns me on because when we danced close the other week I got aroused by him on the dance floor, lol. He also doesn't know my past which is complicating my thoughts too.

Stardust

Stardust.

This is just my musings of what I would do if I were you, in your position now. Hope you don't think it's too intrusive.

I would try to sleep with the guy. He will probably jump at the chance. Then see how it goes. If I get the slightest inkling I'm begining to feel serious, before it gets too far, I'd tell him and see what happens.

Now it could go either way. But knowing you, I've a feeling you can handle it if he walks early on.

Now that's just me. Excuse me for spending a little time living your life vicariously. It's tempting.  ;D

Quote from: ~RoadToTrista~ on February 08, 2011, 05:41:43 PM
I see how it could be, and I read a comment from this one woman and she said that sex was painful for her after the surgery, and on tv it said 60% of transwomen don't use their vagina for sex, so I assumed it was painful.

but thank you for informing me.  :)

What do they use it for then???? Carrying the shopping home ??

I also think you will find that a lot more than 40pct of girls use theirs for sex of some kind..

Quote from: spacial on February 09, 2011, 01:57:46 PM
Stardust.

This is just my musings of what I would do if I were you, in your position now. Hope you don't think it's too intrusive.

I would try to sleep with the guy. He will probably jump at the chance. Then see how it goes. If I get the slightest inkling I'm begining to feel serious, before it gets too far, I'd tell him and see what happens.

Now it could go either way. But knowing you, I've a feeling you can handle it if he walks early on.

Now that's just me. Excuse me for spending a little time living your life vicariously. It's tempting.  ;D

Thanks Spacial,

No Intrusion, I wanted some advice. It was helpful, looks like I'm going to have a fun holiday, hehe, (I hope).

Stardust