Community Conversation => Transitioning => Coming out of the closet => Topic started by: Calisti on January 11, 2007, 01:47:02 AM Return to Full Version
Title: I've made up my mind.
Post by: Calisti on January 11, 2007, 01:47:02 AM
Post by: Calisti on January 11, 2007, 01:47:02 AM
Okay. I've had enough. I need to tell someone what's happening to me or I'm going to smash something.
My father and stepmother sort of know already: I tried to tell them on christmas eve, but they brushed it off. I'm on holiday with them at the moment, and I go back to live with my mother on the sixteenth. When I do, I'm going to tell her what's going on. I think she'll be okay: I spend most of my time with her, I only get to see my Dad occasionally, and if I get mum's okay, then I can get around to finding myself a therapist. Plus the fact I won't have to raid her wardrobe without her knowing anymore <giggle>.
God, I'm scared...but I can't keep acting like nothing's wrong. Wish me luck! I'll let you all know how it goes. I hope it'll be okay...
My father and stepmother sort of know already: I tried to tell them on christmas eve, but they brushed it off. I'm on holiday with them at the moment, and I go back to live with my mother on the sixteenth. When I do, I'm going to tell her what's going on. I think she'll be okay: I spend most of my time with her, I only get to see my Dad occasionally, and if I get mum's okay, then I can get around to finding myself a therapist. Plus the fact I won't have to raid her wardrobe without her knowing anymore <giggle>.
God, I'm scared...but I can't keep acting like nothing's wrong. Wish me luck! I'll let you all know how it goes. I hope it'll be okay...
Title: Re: I've made up my mind.
Post by: Dennis on January 11, 2007, 02:17:10 AM
Post by: Dennis on January 11, 2007, 02:17:10 AM
Good luck with it Calisti. Remember, even if she freaks. If you remain calm and steady, you'll get further along than if you freak back at her.
Dennis
Dennis
Title: Re: I've made up my mind.
Post by: Steph on January 11, 2007, 07:28:41 AM
Post by: Steph on January 11, 2007, 07:28:41 AM
Quote from: Calisti on January 11, 2007, 01:47:02 AM
Okay. I've had enough. I need to tell someone what's happening to me or I'm going to smash something.
My father and stepmother sort of know already: I tried to tell them on christmas eve, but they brushed it off. I'm on holiday with them at the moment, and I go back to live with my mother on the sixteenth. When I do, I'm going to tell her what's going on. I think she'll be okay: I spend most of my time with her, I only get to see my Dad occasionally, and if I get mum's okay, then I can get around to finding myself a therapist. Plus the fact I won't have to raid her wardrobe without her knowing anymore <giggle>.
God, I'm scared...but I can't keep acting like nothing's wrong. Wish me luck! I'll let you all know how it goes. I hope it'll be okay...
Yep good luck with that but be prepared for the worst, and if everything goes OK then you have lost nothing. Are you sure she doesn't know, as far as her wardrobe is concerned moms have away of knowing things.
I can you from personal experience that coming out is good for the soul even when those you come out to reject you, at least you don't have to hide anymore, and the more you come out the better it gets. Just be aware that not everyone is going to be OK with your revelations and you will undoubtedly loose some folks along the way, whether they be friends or family.
If you haven't already done so browse through this forum and note to successes and failures, and formulate a plan to come out to your mom, just so you have an idea of how you want to do it.
Have a plan.
Steph