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hey, i know there are similar posts like that, but the answers are not what i have expected.

so let's try it again  ;D

do you sometimes feel that you just want to stay in your female clothes? not because you want to be a woman, but because you are a man who likes himself in dresses etc.
and i don't talk to those crossdressers who put on clothing, fake breasts and pretend to be a woman. i speak to those crossdressers who are men and who like to wear this kind of clothes  ;)

p.s. i don't mean it offensive. i'm totally okay with those crossdressers who do the "full thing"  :angel:

I take offense; you take defense. :P

Quote from: lucaluca on February 10, 2011, 12:48:47 PM
do you sometimes feel that you just want to stay in your female clothes? not because you want to be a woman, but because you are a man who likes himself in dresses etc.
and i don't talk to those crossdressers who put on clothing, fake breasts and pretend to be a woman. i speak to those crossdressers who are men and who like to wear this kind of clothes  ;)

First off, I do not wear fake breasts; I like to be as naturally me as I can.  :)  I am at a point where wearing women's clothing is apart of who I am.  I am a big cami-leggings-jeggings-jeans person.  I do like to wear dresses too.  When I go shopping (in boy mode) for myself, I look for clothing that flatters me, feels comfortable wearing, and is stylish.  Sometimes I wonder if it is worth keeping my boy clothes, at all, since I rarely use them.  To answer the "crossdress forever" question, I believe there is a point when crossdressing is no longer crossdressing.  The clothes you wear are apart of your own identity, so the idea of crossdressing fades because it is the norm for you, and I would wear what I liked until I stopped liking it, like anything else.  Hope that answers your question.  :)

hey, great answer! exactly what i am thinking of!
but the problem is the society. if you decide that the clothes are a part of you, it is not that easy to go outside ;)
how do one deals with this?

Quote from: lucaluca on February 10, 2011, 02:03:42 PM
hey, great answer! exactly what i am thinking of!
but the problem is the society. if you decide that the clothes are a part of you, it is not that easy to go outside ;)
how do one deals with this?

To present as yourself and to present as the opposite gender are and are not mutually exclusive.  There are many males who wear clothing of the opposite gender because it is a style or because they are attempting to make a statement; tight skinny jeans, for example, are somewhat common among males even though they are meant for females, yet those individuals, who wear them, are accepted in society.  A crossdresser is attempting to portray her/himself as the opposite sex, which if s/he's image does not conform to the image society has setup, that individual is not easily embraced by society; in many cases, that individual is shunned, ridiculed, and even persecuted for violating social norms.

How does a crossdresser who has embraced the opposite gender's style of clothing, as their own, go out in public and wear that clothing s/he associates her/his self-image with?

In my late teens and early twenty's, a leader in my life, at the time, taught me that an individual's image was significant when attempting to represent something.  Others, and society, label and judge you instantly upon your attire—your appearance.  If you want people, society, to see you for what you represent (yourself, in this case), you need to appear the part.

How does this translate into crossdressing?  Like wearing any other attire, there is a time and place for certain styles.  For example, you don't wear an ultra-miniskirt, super low-cut top, and a heavy load of makeup to a funeral.  You wear clothing styles that present you at your best for the appropriate event.  Most importantly, you keep yourself groomed and clean, which means shaven legs if you are wearing a dress.  Sometimes it takes trial and error to get the style that works for you, but the closer you match your body to a style that positively accentuates it, the less likely you are going to get heavy weird looks; that isn't to say that you will not be looked at by people.  If your overall appearance does not conform to the range of which is expected for the gender you are portraying, you may still be subjected to stares, whispers, and negative comments.

Even if your appearance as the opposite gender is flawless, it will be your personality that will be a deciding factor as how people will view and treat you when you are dressed.  There have been many ugly cis-gender individuals who have captured the hearts of the beautiful because of their personality.  An individual's personality is an inner light that can radiate warmth, love, happiness, and many other positive attributes; attributes humans tend to yearn.  Most societies shun those who threaten versus those who radiate the positive.

How does a crossdresser who has embraced the opposite gender's style of clothing, as their own, go out in public and wear that clothing s/he associates her/his self-image with?

By wearing clothing that brings out the best physical features that conform to range of the opposite gender; by keeping clean and groomed; by having and cultivating a personality that radiates warmth, happiness, and positivity; and—most importantly—by being courageous in being true to yourself without concerning yourself what others may think.

Hope that answers your question.  :)

Before I truly discovered who I was, I hated taking my female clothes off because I feared that I wouldn't get to put them on again for a while. However, after really finding my true self, I realize that I am just me no matter how I am dressed, so taking off my clothes is no big deal :)

I hosestly feel that once a crossdresser always a crossdresser. Being an older TV/CD I learned in 2005 that I had prostate cancer  :-\. Well, my treatment was 9 weeks of radiation and 2 years of hormone therapy. I learned the hormone therapy knocked my libido to nil and during my treatment I purged my femme wardrobe. Now, 6 years later I am feeling femme again  :) and I also developed breast. So, I guess at one point in my life my dressing was a combination of sexual pleasure but I learned it in fact is my desire to be me and the sexual feelings aren't there anymore. So, I truely feel it is wonderful be back to Jean  :) and cancer free.

Hugs,

Jean

Quote from: VelindaSalazar on February 10, 2011, 09:29:29 PM
To present as yourself and to present as the opposite gender are and are not mutually exclusive.  There are many males who wear clothing of the opposite gender because it is a style or because they are attempting to make a statement; tight skinny jeans, for example, are somewhat common among males even though they are meant for females, yet those individuals, who wear them, are accepted in society. 

Great answer! I probably fit into this category of crossdresser (if it is a category). After a few years of trying the "passing" form of crossdressing, I realized it was not for me. I like certain aspects of some women's clothes and now incorporate them into everyday wear - pantyhose, leggings, ballet flats, mary-janes, panties, etc. It enhances my style, is often more comfortable, and I have yet to hear a negative comment.

In fact, nowdays you can find a lot of formerly women's items made for men such as pantyhose, skirts and leggings. I still prefer the ones from the women's rack, but it makes them more acceptable.

Brenn

Quote from: brenn on March 06, 2011, 08:29:32 AM
Great answer! I probably fit into this category of crossdresser (if it is a category). After a few years of trying the "passing" form of crossdressing, I realized it was not for me. I like certain aspects of some women's clothes and now incorporate them into everyday wear - pantyhose, leggings, ballet flats, mary-janes, panties, etc. It enhances my style, is often more comfortable, and I have yet to hear a negative comment.

In fact, nowdays you can find a lot of formerly women's items made for men such as pantyhose, skirts and leggings. I still prefer the ones from the women's rack, but it makes them more acceptable.

Brenn

As an average teenager (Boy mode), I know many men (including me) that wear skinny jeans. I have two-pair and when I picked them out my mom said nothing, she knew men liked SJ. About pantyhose, skirts and leggings - I don't see those often unless its for sports. (Not the skirt ;P)

I would love to be able to wear womens clothing 24/7 just because I feel more comfortable in them and it makes me feel a bit feminin which I like.  However, due to circumstances with family, that is not an option for me.  I enjoy wearing skirts and/or dresses just for the sake of comfort.