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Title: Whew.... first offical coming out email sent
Post by: Miss_Anthropic on February 12, 2011, 03:16:50 AM
Post by: Miss_Anthropic on February 12, 2011, 03:16:50 AM
So yeah, just sent a coming out letter via email to my best friend from middle/high school. Known him for 15 years I guess, the person who has known me the longest that isn't family.
Not sure what to think now..... just finished it and feeling really drained, 3200 words long.
I guess only time will tell how it goes!
~Sara
Not sure what to think now..... just finished it and feeling really drained, 3200 words long.
I guess only time will tell how it goes!
~Sara
Title: Re: Whew.... first offical coming out email sent
Post by: justmeinoz on February 12, 2011, 06:59:49 AM
Post by: justmeinoz on February 12, 2011, 06:59:49 AM
Hope it goes well. I came out to family a couple of weeks ago, and it went far better than I had feared. Now I know I have their support, feel like I can cope with anything.
Sandra.
Sandra.
Title: Re: Whew.... first offical coming out email sent
Post by: Melody Maia on February 12, 2011, 10:26:42 AM
Post by: Melody Maia on February 12, 2011, 10:26:42 AM
Sara, you know I am rooting for you. I hope it goes well.
Title: Re: Whew.... first offical coming out email sent
Post by: Miss_Anthropic on February 13, 2011, 09:25:07 PM
Post by: Miss_Anthropic on February 13, 2011, 09:25:07 PM
Shockingly it went well! It totally hasn't sunken in yet at all, I know I'm happy about it, but the reality hasn't hit....still feel sorta *meh*. I won't bother with my long letter, but I will post his response:
I emailed him back on Saturday but he hasn't responded yet, I'm not super worried about it, I'm sure he's just busy. I sent him a link to my female facebook page, I think once I get his friend request it will really sink in.
~Sara
QuoteFirst thing's first, you and i have been friends a very long time and as far as I'm concerned you are who you are and you have to do what you feel is right.
I'm so proud that you are able to admit all this to yourself and that you have taken the last 27 years of confusion, depression and all around dissatisfaction of life and are turning it into something new. You are seeing professionals who are going to be able to help support you and help you to understand what is happening in ways that not many people can.
GID is not uncommon and is in no way wrong or criminal,it is simply something that you are. The fact that you are doing something about it shows how strong you really are and how dedicated you are to changing your life for the better. I have a strange question though that has no bearing on our friendship or anything of that nature. (It's more clarification than anything) are you attracted to women or men? Sorry it is so blunt of a question but as I said, it has no real bearing on anything other than my own clarification of your situation.
I know your friends and family love you, I also know the area we are from and how people can react. You will always be my friend and your life choices are yours to make and I want you to know that I support it. I will however have to get used to a new name and I will probably still call you (BOY NAME) from time to time lol. I want you to come down sometime, I want you to meet my new girlfriend and we can go out to some places downtown, there are a few places that are very friendly and I think you would enjoy being able to let loose as your true self there. While the past few years we have grown apart, there is no way we can ignore how long we've been friends, you are going through a lot right now and I will be glad to help where I can. (Girlfriend) can also help, I'm sure, to give you some background, she is bi-sexual was part of the local RollerDerby team and has spent time with some ladies who have gone through what you are going through now. We are both staunch advocates for gay and trans-gender rights and the rights of people as a whole. I think you should definitely come down soon, I'll try to get some semblance of schedule balance and figure out when. Until then, keep me posted on what is going on and don't let anyone get you down, keep going to your doctors and talk it out with them.
-(His Name)
I emailed him back on Saturday but he hasn't responded yet, I'm not super worried about it, I'm sure he's just busy. I sent him a link to my female facebook page, I think once I get his friend request it will really sink in.
~Sara
Title: Re: Whew.... first offical coming out email sent
Post by: Janet_Girl on February 13, 2011, 10:41:42 PM
Post by: Janet_Girl on February 13, 2011, 10:41:42 PM
That is awesome, Sara. It is always nice to receive support from friends.
Title: Re: Whew.... first offical coming out email sent
Post by: V M on February 13, 2011, 10:56:17 PM
Post by: V M on February 13, 2011, 10:56:17 PM
Right on Sara!!! Glad he was so accepting and supportive :)
Title: Re: Whew.... first offical coming out email sent
Post by: Just Shelly on February 13, 2011, 11:57:42 PM
Post by: Just Shelly on February 13, 2011, 11:57:42 PM
This is very good news.
and to find out he is fairly familiar with trans issues.
I hope everything continues going as well as this has.
Shelly
and to find out he is fairly familiar with trans issues.
I hope everything continues going as well as this has.
Shelly
Title: Re: Whew.... first offical coming out email sent
Post by: Sarah B on February 14, 2011, 12:13:25 AM
Post by: Sarah B on February 14, 2011, 12:13:25 AM
Absolutely stunning response, Sara, no wonder you are feeling" totally hasn't sunken in yet at all, I know I'm happy about it, but the reality hasn't hit". You are in shock from the response.
You have a life long friend there. Don't loose him. I hope everything else goes well for you.
Kind regards
Sarah B
You have a life long friend there. Don't loose him. I hope everything else goes well for you.
Kind regards
Sarah B
Title: Re: Whew.... first offical coming out email sent
Post by: annette on February 14, 2011, 05:31:38 AM
Post by: annette on February 14, 2011, 05:31:38 AM
Hi Sara
This is a true friend.
I think you must be feeling so very good when you recieved the letter.
I'm glad you have the support from your friend.
This is exactly what you need while in the process of transition.
Good for you, girl.
love
annette
This is a true friend.
I think you must be feeling so very good when you recieved the letter.
I'm glad you have the support from your friend.
This is exactly what you need while in the process of transition.
Good for you, girl.
love
annette
Title: Re: Whew.... first offical coming out email sent
Post by: Melody Maia on February 14, 2011, 12:28:38 PM
Post by: Melody Maia on February 14, 2011, 12:28:38 PM
I think that is better than the best possible response you could have reasonably expected. Sometimes our friends can really surprise us.
Title: Re: Whew.... first offical coming out email sent
Post by: PiperEden on February 16, 2011, 03:58:01 AM
Post by: PiperEden on February 16, 2011, 03:58:01 AM
That's amazing Sara! I'm so happy for you!! What a great friend! :D
Title: Re: Whew.... first offical coming out email sent
Post by: Jenna_Nicole105 on February 17, 2011, 09:17:58 PM
Post by: Jenna_Nicole105 on February 17, 2011, 09:17:58 PM
Awesome Sara, just awesome!
Yay to great friends!
Yay to great friends!