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Title: Coming out to my father
Post by: Serra on February 28, 2011, 09:34:38 PM
Post by: Serra on February 28, 2011, 09:34:38 PM
So I've decided that it's finally time to tell my father. After being on HRT for 5 months and fulltime for 2, I really can't wait much longer.
Any suggestions on how to go about this? I know emails seem to be popular but they don't generally sit well with me. Seems like this is something that has to be done in person, or at least MORE personally than text on a screen.
Any suggestions on how to go about this? I know emails seem to be popular but they don't generally sit well with me. Seems like this is something that has to be done in person, or at least MORE personally than text on a screen.
Title: Re: Coming out to my father
Post by: ~RoadToTrista~ on February 28, 2011, 09:49:39 PM
Post by: ~RoadToTrista~ on February 28, 2011, 09:49:39 PM
Ugh, I'm just gonna ask my therapist to do it, it would just be easier if they explained the science behind the condition to him first, he is a reasonable man. Otherwise I'll give him a lecture on GID and show him pictures of several convincing transsexuals.
With my Mom I was just going to scream angrily at her about how she doesn't truly love me and then let it slip. :P I actually almost did one time when I was upset with her, but then I regained control of myself.
With my Mom I was just going to scream angrily at her about how she doesn't truly love me and then let it slip. :P I actually almost did one time when I was upset with her, but then I regained control of myself.
Title: Re: Coming out to my father
Post by: Bird on February 28, 2011, 09:57:09 PM
Post by: Bird on February 28, 2011, 09:57:09 PM
I am not on HRT yet, but I have been pondering on how this wil go for me.
I believe talking with him alone is best, and it is also best to be sure both of you will have plenty of free time for the conversation and for the afterwards.
I'd begin it with something like "Dad, you know I love you, but I have been suffering and went through something really hard. There is something very important you must know"
From that moment on, he knows you mean to say something important, and there is no turning back either. I'd describe things that happened with me during my childhood and teenage years, and early adulthood as well. Then I would get straight to the point and tell him I am changing genders.
I don't know if this would work for you, I don't even know if it would work for me! It is what I came up with though.
I believe talking with him alone is best, and it is also best to be sure both of you will have plenty of free time for the conversation and for the afterwards.
I'd begin it with something like "Dad, you know I love you, but I have been suffering and went through something really hard. There is something very important you must know"
From that moment on, he knows you mean to say something important, and there is no turning back either. I'd describe things that happened with me during my childhood and teenage years, and early adulthood as well. Then I would get straight to the point and tell him I am changing genders.
I don't know if this would work for you, I don't even know if it would work for me! It is what I came up with though.