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Title: SO Introducing Myself
Post by: Berri on January 16, 2007, 09:13:12 PM
Post by: Berri on January 16, 2007, 09:13:12 PM
Hi I am Berri. I am Nikki_W's girlfriend. I am introducing myself as she said I should of.
Not sure where to start.
I met this wonderful guy a year ago and fell in love with him. Even though he was one that kept his feelings to himself, I still knew how he felt. Late last year somethings changed for us and I was in for a shock. Due to some circumstances that happened it came about that he was actually Nikki who had been suppressed for many years.
I was hurt, felt lied to and betrayed.
I have never had any feelings other than friends with the same sex as myself nor considered myself bi.
After the initial shock wore off I had to do alot of thinking and soul searching. I found that it was not a form or body that I was in love with but the person inside. This is who I fell in love with and could not turn my back nor reject. It just so happens that the person I was in love with was female.
Than came the other hard part was if I was able to have a relationship with her. Which turned out to not be that hard. To me if you feel towards someone the way I do towards Nikki there is no way that I could not be there for her, not be supportive and not stay in our relationship.
Sure I know there will be times that she will go through things that I do not understand and I will most likely go through periods of doubt, but that goes along with any relationship. How I will respond as she goes through the different stages I can not predict, but if we work together and talk things through I can not see how things will not work out.
Not sure where to start.
I met this wonderful guy a year ago and fell in love with him. Even though he was one that kept his feelings to himself, I still knew how he felt. Late last year somethings changed for us and I was in for a shock. Due to some circumstances that happened it came about that he was actually Nikki who had been suppressed for many years.
I was hurt, felt lied to and betrayed.
I have never had any feelings other than friends with the same sex as myself nor considered myself bi.
After the initial shock wore off I had to do alot of thinking and soul searching. I found that it was not a form or body that I was in love with but the person inside. This is who I fell in love with and could not turn my back nor reject. It just so happens that the person I was in love with was female.
Than came the other hard part was if I was able to have a relationship with her. Which turned out to not be that hard. To me if you feel towards someone the way I do towards Nikki there is no way that I could not be there for her, not be supportive and not stay in our relationship.
Sure I know there will be times that she will go through things that I do not understand and I will most likely go through periods of doubt, but that goes along with any relationship. How I will respond as she goes through the different stages I can not predict, but if we work together and talk things through I can not see how things will not work out.
Title: Re: SO Introducing Myself
Post by: Steph on January 16, 2007, 09:35:32 PM
Post by: Steph on January 16, 2007, 09:35:32 PM
Helo Berri.
Welcome to Susan's. I'm sure that Nikki has told you everything about the site so I will just ask that you read the rules and let you know that we have a forum dedicated for SO's to use. However, although they are discouraged, those who are not SO's post there as well.
So welcome to Susan's, and I hope you enjoy your stay.
Steph
Welcome to Susan's. I'm sure that Nikki has told you everything about the site so I will just ask that you read the rules and let you know that we have a forum dedicated for SO's to use. However, although they are discouraged, those who are not SO's post there as well.
So welcome to Susan's, and I hope you enjoy your stay.
Steph
Title: Re: SO Introducing Myself
Post by: katia on January 16, 2007, 09:39:14 PM
Post by: katia on January 16, 2007, 09:39:14 PM
Quote from: Berri on January 16, 2007, 09:13:12 PM
I found that it was not a form or body that I was in love with but the person inside. This is who I fell in love with and could not turn my back nor reject. It just so happens that the person I was in love with was female.
what a terrific post, love is/should be [genderless] since it's not [the sex] of the person we're attracted to but the [essence] of that person.. welcome berri, a pleasure to meet you :)
Title: Re: SO Introducing Myself
Post by: Kimberly on January 16, 2007, 10:11:14 PM
Post by: Kimberly on January 16, 2007, 10:11:14 PM
Berri,
I sincerely wish that the rest of the world could understand love in the same light as you.
*curtsey*
I sincerely wish that the rest of the world could understand love in the same light as you.
*curtsey*
Title: Re: SO Introducing Myself
Post by: Peggiann on January 16, 2007, 10:36:54 PM
Post by: Peggiann on January 16, 2007, 10:36:54 PM
Pleased to meet you Berri,
Welcome to the group. Ther some wonderful other S.O's here that will be very glad you cme to visit among us. I look forword to reading more from you.
Smiles,
Peggiann
Welcome to the group. Ther some wonderful other S.O's here that will be very glad you cme to visit among us. I look forword to reading more from you.
Smiles,
Peggiann
Title: Re: SO Introducing Myself
Post by: Gill on January 17, 2007, 06:03:32 AM
Post by: Gill on January 17, 2007, 06:03:32 AM
HI Berri:
Welcome to Susan's and I am glad that you have joined us. Please feel free to chat with us anytime, we are here to; listen, to be a shoulder to cry on, and place to pour your heart out to, in addition it's a place to share your joys.
I really look forward to hearing from you. Again welcome.
Gill
Welcome to Susan's and I am glad that you have joined us. Please feel free to chat with us anytime, we are here to; listen, to be a shoulder to cry on, and place to pour your heart out to, in addition it's a place to share your joys.
I really look forward to hearing from you. Again welcome.
Gill
Title: Re: SO Introducing Myself
Post by: Jillieann Rose on January 17, 2007, 06:42:01 PM
Post by: Jillieann Rose on January 17, 2007, 06:42:01 PM
Hi Berri,
Glad to meet you.
Jillieann
Glad to meet you.
Jillieann
Title: Re: SO Introducing Myself
Post by: Berri on January 17, 2007, 07:01:48 PM
Post by: Berri on January 17, 2007, 07:01:48 PM
Thank you all for the welcome.
Title: Re: SO Introducing Myself
Post by: tinkerbell on January 17, 2007, 11:27:58 PM
Post by: tinkerbell on January 17, 2007, 11:27:58 PM
Quote from: Kimberly on January 16, 2007, 10:11:14 PM
Berri,
I sincerely wish that the rest of the world could understand love in the same light as you.
*curtsey*
And so do I. Hi Berri and welcome to Susan's. Thank you for your introduction. Hopefully you will find the answers of some of the questions you are formulating. You seem to be a very compassionate person, and I applaud you for the effort it has taken you to understand the complexities of gender identity. Please take a second to review the site rules, and visit the wiki and chatroom where there is a gold mine of information. We look forward to your future posts and participation. Enjoy your stay!
tinkerbell :icon_chick:
Title: Re: SO Introducing Myself
Post by: PurpleMaze on January 21, 2007, 03:03:24 AM
Post by: PurpleMaze on January 21, 2007, 03:03:24 AM
Hi Berri
Your story is so inspirational. I sincerely hope that someday I can find a girl that can love me in that same way you love Nikki. Your story has just completely brightened up an otherwise rather boring night. I hope to hear more from you soon.
Raye
Your story is so inspirational. I sincerely hope that someday I can find a girl that can love me in that same way you love Nikki. Your story has just completely brightened up an otherwise rather boring night. I hope to hear more from you soon.
Raye