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I tried bringing up being transgendered with my mom, but after a few sentences about myself and talking about GID, she closed her ears and said, "No,I don't want to hear about it."

Then, I said, "But we have to talk about it sometime."

To which, she responded, "Yeah." But then refused to talk about it and then dropped the subject.

I really want to talk to her about it, but she doesn't want to hear about it. I need her to know that I am positive that I have GID, and even my therapist agrees that I do.

How am I supposed to talk to her about my GID if she won't listen to me?

Wish you were in Minnesota I could direct you to some resources.

Have you started counseling?  Can you start counseling.  My wife doesn't want to hear about trans stuff but we are working with a counselor so she can start hearing me.  It is working ... she actually joked with some of our friends this weekend about me being trans.

You give her a week, then you bring it up again.  And when she says later, you say I will bring it up again next week.  Maybe she will get the idea your not going to back down.

I sent my mom a email coming out.  We don't really talk about it other than sometimes she'll make a dig and I'll defend myself and all trans people to her.  She calls me my girl name so does my siblings when we are around the house just to not upset her, for the most part she acts like nothing is wrong.  It's not the greatest way to live, it huts a lot and messes with my feelings about my body/self but I try not to rock the boat since I live here with her for free.

Fine, don't tell her. Show her. >:-)

Quote from: ~RoadToTrista~ on March 09, 2011, 06:33:41 PM
Fine, don't tell her. Show her. >:-)

First, I love Harisu.

Second, how do you propose I do that? XD

I think she means go forward in transition without talking to your mom about it. 

Quote from: Andy8715 on March 09, 2011, 06:41:30 PM
I think she means go forward in transition without talking to your mom about it.

Ohhh. XD I see, but sadly, I can't. Too young. Unless I get hormones off the street.

if your in therapy already, bring your mom to one of the sessions

it sounds like she's in alot of denial. i don't think there's much you can do other than give it time and be who you are. after a while, she should learn that it's the reality and just avoiding talking about it is going to do nothing.

For certain she needs to get real with what's going on. Tell her this isn't something that she can just hide away as if you were a lesbian.

Yeah, it just sounds like a massive case of denial. The bad part of me completely agrees with, fine, don't say a goddamn word and just do it. I'm doing that with my family. I gave them what i believed was the courtesy of making myself vulnerable by telling them very early, they didn't appreciate it...so whatever, they've been informed. If they wanna forget it and then act all shocked when I begin T boo freaking hoo.

/bitterness

It sounds like she is willing to talk about it eventually, just not right now. Maybe she just needs some time to get used to the idea of you having GID, and then she'll feel more comfortable talking with you about it. As long as you talk to her about it sometime within the next few weeks or months, (depending on your situation, obviously) it probably won't matter that much whether you get your mom to talk to you right now, or in a short while.

Just don't back down.  In fact, refuse to talk about anything else.

My mum is exactly the same. I understand she's trying to get the idea into her head, but she just brushes it off (like she does with everything else she doesn't want to hear) by saying "whatever". She's convinced that if I "lost weight and changed my look, I'd want to be more feminine". Sorry mum, it isn't going to happen.

Quote from: Mark on March 09, 2011, 06:45:28 PM
if your in therapy already, bring your mom to one of the sessions

this,

Quote from: Sylvester on March 09, 2011, 11:23:43 PM
Just don't back down.  In fact, refuse to talk about anything else.

and this. :P


I think it's a typical 'mom' type thing though, because mine did (and still does) the same thing. not that that makes it alright of course, but she'll come around like the rest... eventually.