Community Conversation => Transitioning => Coming out of the closet => Topic started by: LifeInNeon on March 20, 2011, 10:11:02 PM Return to Full Version
Title: Told my parents. Better than expected. :)
Post by: LifeInNeon on March 20, 2011, 10:11:02 PM
Post by: LifeInNeon on March 20, 2011, 10:11:02 PM
I just got done telling my parents about all this. It's been a long couple days since I decided I was going to come home just to do this. I have a much longer explanation on my blog, but I'll say here that my dad is still a little shell shocked, but my mom is being very supportive. In fact, her first response was that she was so sorry that I had to carry that around for so long.
I feel incredibly lucky right now.
I feel incredibly lucky right now.
Title: Re: Told my parents. Better than expected. :)
Post by: Adabelle on March 20, 2011, 10:31:12 PM
Post by: Adabelle on March 20, 2011, 10:31:12 PM
yay! I'm so glad to hear that. My parents were surprised, but supportive too.
Just remember that it's a lot to handle, and you'll probably still need to be patient with them. It might seem at times like they have doubts, or that they are wavering in their support - but if you are patient and helpful to them making sure they have good information you can make it through.
My parents have gone through some adjustments getting used to this, but they also have stayed consistent in their love for me. I feel very fortunate, and it sounds like your parents love you and want to support you too.
Just remember that it's a lot to handle, and you'll probably still need to be patient with them. It might seem at times like they have doubts, or that they are wavering in their support - but if you are patient and helpful to them making sure they have good information you can make it through.
My parents have gone through some adjustments getting used to this, but they also have stayed consistent in their love for me. I feel very fortunate, and it sounds like your parents love you and want to support you too.
Title: Re: Told my parents. Better than expected. :)
Post by: LifeInNeon on March 20, 2011, 10:55:46 PM
Post by: LifeInNeon on March 20, 2011, 10:55:46 PM
Glad to hear it went well for you too. :) I definitely appreciate how fortunate I've been.
I am not sure my dad will come around on things completely. Right now things are fine, but I'm betting there will be pronoun issues down the road. But that could just be my own fears. I don't know if he'll ever see me as anything other than his son, but he has surprised me in the past.
I am not sure my dad will come around on things completely. Right now things are fine, but I'm betting there will be pronoun issues down the road. But that could just be my own fears. I don't know if he'll ever see me as anything other than his son, but he has surprised me in the past.
Title: Re: Told my parents. Better than expected. :)
Post by: Joelene9 on March 20, 2011, 11:39:03 PM
Post by: Joelene9 on March 20, 2011, 11:39:03 PM
My mom was antsy at first when I came out to her in the late'70s and found out through friends that this was probably not a phase. She then told me that she loved me as always and she'd be there for me. My dad was never around since the divorce when I was 7. When we finally got my dad, he was in the first phase of Alzheimer's and was out of it. He never knew. I was unemployed at that time and didn't do anything except go to a therapist and did some crossdressing. I finally got a job that lasted 20 years and I postphoned my transistion until I got older, with senority with the company, with more money reserves. My mom died thinking I was 'cured' of this. I didn't restart transitioning until 10 years after I was in one of those 9-11 forced early retired layoffs.
You are lucky because:
1) You had both parents present and listening while you told them. Be patient with them, especially your father.
2) You are younger than I now to start transitioning, If I started the transition when I was you age, I'd probably would not be looking at prostate cancer in the face right now. I am still not crossdressing and I don't care about the pronouns at this time. My older long lost sister just informed me that I will have those female mood swings, even though that has not occured yet. So far those that have been informed in my extended family has accepted me. That story might have been quite different in the late 70's though. Be patient, accepting parents is your front line. Hugs,
Joelene
You are lucky because:
1) You had both parents present and listening while you told them. Be patient with them, especially your father.
2) You are younger than I now to start transitioning, If I started the transition when I was you age, I'd probably would not be looking at prostate cancer in the face right now. I am still not crossdressing and I don't care about the pronouns at this time. My older long lost sister just informed me that I will have those female mood swings, even though that has not occured yet. So far those that have been informed in my extended family has accepted me. That story might have been quite different in the late 70's though. Be patient, accepting parents is your front line. Hugs,
Joelene