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Title: The birth name
Post by: Darth_Taco on April 17, 2011, 04:55:31 AM
Post by: Darth_Taco on April 17, 2011, 04:55:31 AM
This is something that has been bugging me for a while, and I thought that it was about time I brought it up. Any of you guys ok with being called by your birth name? How about by certain people? I ask because for some reason, I let my boyfriend call me by my birth name (which I hate @_@!). I don't know why, but I do. It just doesn't bother me. Can anyone else relate?
Title: Re: The birth name
Post by: JasonG86 on April 17, 2011, 06:33:08 AM
Post by: JasonG86 on April 17, 2011, 06:33:08 AM
I have gotten to a point in my transition where I would rather not go by my birth name anymore... The only people I still allow to call me by my birth name are my grandparents and my mother calls me A.J(a combination of my birth name and my chosen name) because that's where her comfort level is right now. When other people call me by my birth name, I am not rude about it but have gotten to a point where I correct them.
hope that helps
hope that helps
Title: Re: The birth name
Post by: FinnBear on April 17, 2011, 11:24:41 AM
Post by: FinnBear on April 17, 2011, 11:24:41 AM
I hate when people call me by my birth name. I allow it from my grandmother but that's about it. When people call me by my birth name on accident I'll correct them. When people call me by my birth name on purpose (as my parents often do) I won't respond. Hope that helps.
Title: Re: The birth name
Post by: sony on April 17, 2011, 12:00:43 PM
Post by: sony on April 17, 2011, 12:00:43 PM
I also dont like being called by my birth name. It's easy to hear it, but I have to cause Im waiting to finish college so I can change my name and everything. I like the name I chose for myself and love it when people call me like that.
Title: Re: The birth name
Post by: Arch on April 17, 2011, 01:23:01 PM
Post by: Arch on April 17, 2011, 01:23:01 PM
No, never, and I would become borderline homicidal if someone did. But then I changed my name ages ago. :P
My ex knows...oh, and his family knows, but I never see them now that I'm single.
My ex knows...oh, and his family knows, but I never see them now that I'm single.
Title: Re: The birth name
Post by: Da Monkey on April 17, 2011, 06:27:43 PM
Post by: Da Monkey on April 17, 2011, 06:27:43 PM
Most of my family still calls me by my birth name but it doesn't bother me because I am comfortable enough with my transition that if they do it in public they get looked at and I don't. Although that being said, most of my family live in my hometown and a bit of the rest live where I went to college so I don't care when people do it in those towns because that's who I lived as when I lived there. But if family came where I live now and called me by my birth name in public I would be bothered. If that makes sense?
Title: Re: The birth name
Post by: sascraps on April 17, 2011, 06:28:24 PM
Post by: sascraps on April 17, 2011, 06:28:24 PM
My birth name is starting to irritate me. Badly. Unfortunately I can't be totally out though. But most people call me by the short version of my name, which is somewhat tolerable since the name I chose for myself sounds similar.
Title: Re: The birth name
Post by: zombiesarepeaceful on April 18, 2011, 05:31:46 AM
Post by: zombiesarepeaceful on April 18, 2011, 05:31:46 AM
Borderline homicide, ever since I came out 4 years ago.