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Post by: Ann Onymous on April 24, 2011, 03:26:03 PM
Post by: Ann Onymous on April 24, 2011, 03:26:03 PM
As with another board, this was one I found while looking for something completely non-gender related. I have no idea how active I may or may not be here.
Capsule summary is that I am one of those silent statistics that some in the gender community tend to frown upon- I woodworked almost even before being post op (and event that took place circa '97). The employer that had people who were aware of my background is one that I jettisoned within two years of surgery, after which I blended into the private sector.
Transition did not actually occur until my late 20's but had been on my radar since my early teens...information was scarce back then and that held true not only for the patient but also the provider. I hit stumbling blocks when I sought a provider at the age of 17-18 when the notion of a lesbian post-op just boggled their feeble little minds. Also boggling to their narrow vision was that a bio male who had never had sex could not have a clue about such a life-altering process.
I wound up going outside a LOT of boxes of conventional wisdom to get to where I did in the mid-90's. It helped that the rules on changing personal identifiers with various agencies were much more relaxed in the pre-9/11 world. It also helped that information storage was nowhere near as complex as it is today, which helped significantly in keeping any real papertrails from existing in the present-day digital age.
One of the reasons I walked away from the gender community all those years ago is that, quite frankly, I found I had less and less in common with people within the community. I was perfectly content to move on to my lesbian life with a SO and her kid. The SO is gone but not for reasons related to the personal background.
Through the years, the family has gradually been more accepting, some almost to the point of being annoying. I did at least get one well-intentioned family member to quit emailing me every news article they came across that dealt with gay or lesbian issues. My ex's child's picture still hangs on the refrigerator of my grandmother. It has been close to decade since there was a pronoun slip in my presence.
Anything else? ask. You might get an answer and you might not. If you get an answer, it might be one word or it might be a mini-dissertation. :)
Capsule summary is that I am one of those silent statistics that some in the gender community tend to frown upon- I woodworked almost even before being post op (and event that took place circa '97). The employer that had people who were aware of my background is one that I jettisoned within two years of surgery, after which I blended into the private sector.
Transition did not actually occur until my late 20's but had been on my radar since my early teens...information was scarce back then and that held true not only for the patient but also the provider. I hit stumbling blocks when I sought a provider at the age of 17-18 when the notion of a lesbian post-op just boggled their feeble little minds. Also boggling to their narrow vision was that a bio male who had never had sex could not have a clue about such a life-altering process.
I wound up going outside a LOT of boxes of conventional wisdom to get to where I did in the mid-90's. It helped that the rules on changing personal identifiers with various agencies were much more relaxed in the pre-9/11 world. It also helped that information storage was nowhere near as complex as it is today, which helped significantly in keeping any real papertrails from existing in the present-day digital age.
One of the reasons I walked away from the gender community all those years ago is that, quite frankly, I found I had less and less in common with people within the community. I was perfectly content to move on to my lesbian life with a SO and her kid. The SO is gone but not for reasons related to the personal background.
Through the years, the family has gradually been more accepting, some almost to the point of being annoying. I did at least get one well-intentioned family member to quit emailing me every news article they came across that dealt with gay or lesbian issues. My ex's child's picture still hangs on the refrigerator of my grandmother. It has been close to decade since there was a pronoun slip in my presence.
Anything else? ask. You might get an answer and you might not. If you get an answer, it might be one word or it might be a mini-dissertation. :)
Title: Re: imagine cheesy title here
Post by: Devlyn on April 24, 2011, 04:55:06 PM
Post by: Devlyn on April 24, 2011, 04:55:06 PM
Hi Ann, nice to meet you! I love the name! Stick around, you'll like it here, hugs, Tracey
Title: Re: imagine cheesy title here
Post by: Janet_Girl on April 24, 2011, 09:07:05 PM
Post by: Janet_Girl on April 24, 2011, 09:07:05 PM
Hi Ann, :icon_wave:
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Hugs and Love,
Janet
Welcome to our little family. Over 6400 strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion.
Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams. Ask questions and seek answers. Give and receive advice.
But remember we are family here, your family now. And it is always nice to have another sister. :icon_hug:
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