Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: Blythe_Fate on April 26, 2011, 02:45:17 AM Return to Full Version
Title: I finally did it!
Post by: Blythe_Fate on April 26, 2011, 02:45:17 AM
Post by: Blythe_Fate on April 26, 2011, 02:45:17 AM
Tonight, I came out to my boyfriend about identifying as male.
It went so much better than I had thought. Being human.. thinking worst case scenario and all.. but no! He was really comforting and understanding!
This weekend I was at an anime convention. The times I was not in costume (all of which were male characters) I still had my binder on and dressed. walked..etc as a guy.
I felt more like myself than I had in many many years.
That's how I started the conversation. It was so difficult for me to place the right words.. but I got it all out in the open. -breathes huge sigh of relief-
His words were so loving.. he said: "I don't care how you dress, how short your hair gets. If you don't feel comfortable, or like yourself, being a woman, that is fine with me. I love you and you shouldn't be afraid to talk to me about this stuff.. you can talk to me about anything."
Then he hugged and kissed me and helped me wipe away my tears.
I'm just.. idk so happy right now!!
Feels like a huge weight has been lifted from my chest and I can talk openly about it with him.
I need to say an big thank you to everyone that has supported me and given me words of encouragement! You guys are amazing! <3
A side note.. I've narrowed down my list of names to 2: Zeke (a name I've always had a fondness for) and Tarius (the 'a' is pronounced as in the word: air) That one comes from my zodiac, Sagittarius.
What do you guys think?
It went so much better than I had thought. Being human.. thinking worst case scenario and all.. but no! He was really comforting and understanding!
This weekend I was at an anime convention. The times I was not in costume (all of which were male characters) I still had my binder on and dressed. walked..etc as a guy.
I felt more like myself than I had in many many years.
That's how I started the conversation. It was so difficult for me to place the right words.. but I got it all out in the open. -breathes huge sigh of relief-
His words were so loving.. he said: "I don't care how you dress, how short your hair gets. If you don't feel comfortable, or like yourself, being a woman, that is fine with me. I love you and you shouldn't be afraid to talk to me about this stuff.. you can talk to me about anything."
Then he hugged and kissed me and helped me wipe away my tears.
I'm just.. idk so happy right now!!
Feels like a huge weight has been lifted from my chest and I can talk openly about it with him.
I need to say an big thank you to everyone that has supported me and given me words of encouragement! You guys are amazing! <3
A side note.. I've narrowed down my list of names to 2: Zeke (a name I've always had a fondness for) and Tarius (the 'a' is pronounced as in the word: air) That one comes from my zodiac, Sagittarius.
What do you guys think?
Title: Re: I finally did it!
Post by: Lee on April 26, 2011, 03:22:26 AM
Post by: Lee on April 26, 2011, 03:22:26 AM
That's great :) I'm glad you have someone so supportive.
As for the names, I like Zeke a lot.
As for the names, I like Zeke a lot.
Title: Re: I finally did it!
Post by: spacial on April 26, 2011, 08:02:10 AM
Post by: spacial on April 26, 2011, 08:02:10 AM
Zeke is fine. How about Tarius as a middle name?
Great news about your boyfriend
Great news about your boyfriend
Title: Re: I finally did it!
Post by: Blythe_Fate on April 26, 2011, 05:56:02 PM
Post by: Blythe_Fate on April 26, 2011, 05:56:02 PM
Thanks for all the happy feedback!
Yeah I was leaning toward Zeke.
Tarius as a middle name is a good idea, that way I still have the meaning I love with the name I love.
I can see having to explain the pronunciation getting annoying.
Yeah I was leaning toward Zeke.
Tarius as a middle name is a good idea, that way I still have the meaning I love with the name I love.
I can see having to explain the pronunciation getting annoying.
Title: Re: I finally did it!
Post by: StaceyC on April 27, 2011, 08:41:36 PM
Post by: StaceyC on April 27, 2011, 08:41:36 PM
Good for you. The first step is hard but it is a great relief to get past the initial talk and start moving forward. And Zeke sounds like a great name. It suits you. Best wishes.
Title: Re: I finally did it!
Post by: cynthialee on April 27, 2011, 08:56:52 PM
Post by: cynthialee on April 27, 2011, 08:56:52 PM
Coming from personal experiance I can say that having a suporting spouse makes a huge differance.
Do you plan on hormone and surgical interventions and if so...is he aware of this?
Do you plan on hormone and surgical interventions and if so...is he aware of this?
Title: Re: I finally did it!
Post by: Blythe_Fate on April 29, 2011, 02:04:36 AM
Post by: Blythe_Fate on April 29, 2011, 02:04:36 AM
Surgical.. as of now.. no.
Hormone.. maybe. I am doing a lot of research and thinking on it.
I told him I'm not planning on surgery.
I'm just so relieved that he took it so well. ;D
Hormone.. maybe. I am doing a lot of research and thinking on it.
I told him I'm not planning on surgery.
I'm just so relieved that he took it so well. ;D
Title: Re: I finally did it!
Post by: shortnsweet1004 on April 30, 2011, 11:43:37 PM
Post by: shortnsweet1004 on April 30, 2011, 11:43:37 PM
I'm so glad things worked out that well... very happy for you!
I will also put in my support for "Zeke." There's something about that name that I really like.
I will also put in my support for "Zeke." There's something about that name that I really like.
Title: Re: I finally did it!
Post by: lost904 on May 13, 2011, 12:41:40 AM
Post by: lost904 on May 13, 2011, 12:41:40 AM
thats so moving! i'm so happy for you! *wipes away tear* i like Tairius....i knew how it was pronounced....lol