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To get a girl? like Girls will get to know me, like me and everything and then find out I'm a T and are not interested anymore.. or I'll go somewhere and find out and they are like sorry I would but I like girls or I like real guys.. it sucks!!!! when I played as like a "lesbian" it was soo easy and then when I came out as my true self it's like so hard for the whole world? idk it blowsss

There will be girls who will accept you, there will be girls who won't. It's not a matter of "easy / hard" It can be freakin easy if you find the right person, but it'll be a hell to pass through if it's not the correct person...
Good luck :)

That's my fear right now. My girlfriend of three years and I are going through a rough patch and I'm worried about finding someone else if we end up not being able to resolve our issues.

I've found that when I just wanted to be single or was already in a relationship is when girls took the most interest in me. I realized in those situations I came off extra relaxed, calm, and confident. Just have faith in yourself. Don't approach with a defeated attitude.

I have this problem too. They say they want a guy and it pisses me off because I know I'll never have the part that will truly make me a guy.

Yeahhh it suckks and I'm not even trying to find someone.. i never have done that, but it's when I start liking someone they don't like me because of it and it sucks. I'm sure someone will come around..

If a girl suddenly loses interest because they find out you don't have a certain something, then ask yourself how happy you'd really be if that is the only thing which keeps her attention. Better to find a thoroughbred than settle for a one trick pony, as it were. And when you do find the lady who accepts you for who you are (which you will) you can take solace in the fact that she isn't all about the physical, that it's a deeper relationship, and one in which you can feel secure in yourself, and expressing yourself, rather than trying to live up to an ideal you think she has... as well as being able to explore the myriad other aspects of love beyond just jumping each other and going at it hammer and tongues.

Don't give up hope, chaps, because speaking personally, I've never met a more considerate, self-aware, genuine bunch of guys than you folks here. You don't pretend to be someone you're not just to impress, or pull the hard-man bravado nonsense, and you actually think with your brain. That would matter to me an incalculable amount more in a relationship than what's in your trousers. And in those thoughts, I'm pretty darn sure I'm not alone. :)

I've always had difficulties in trying to talk to women, and finding people to date or hook up with. Now my standards are a little different. I don't put up with being fetishized which seems to be the only way for me to find a date or somebody to hook up with. I'd rather stay single than lower my standards.

It's funny how women complain about how men only want them for 'one thing' but when it comes down to dating a FTM they won't because you don't have that 'one thing'.

Quote from: JayUnit on May 13, 2011, 02:12:01 PM
It's funny how women complain about how men only want them for 'one thing' but when it comes down to dating a FTM they won't because you don't have that 'one thing'.

I totally agree with this cause I was told this.. I was like then what do you want women !! I think FTM's have everything.. we understand women cause we were there at one point and we are male..come on haha..

Sephirah I agree with you tooooo defiantly this is hard thoo. I really like this girl tho here in Germany I think she likes me back, and she is cool with me being trans.. I hope it works out when I tell her how I feel.... I miss having someone.. I'm in the army and it gets really hard cause it's so stressful 

True many women look at men and want one thing.  Babies. 

we can adopt... population control right haha

Us girls don't have it easy either. After all, what man wants to be with someone whose biologically male with female assets when they can have one of the more plentiful, normal woman? Some creep whose into ->-bleeped-<- porn, that's who.

I can understand them, if I was born and raised as a girl, would I be willing to date someone who is trans? :(

ive never been able to get girls. i have a girlfreind now but we were best freinds since we were 13 so she loves me as a freind pretty much...its kind of a casual relationship.anyways i'm begining to dress differently as far as undergarments go. binding and such and i'm hoping i'll get more attention. i'm taken but alittle nod wouldnt hurt my ego.lol also looking weight. i look so good skinny.like a rockstar.my new freinds swoon over old pics.

Yeah I agree with all of this. Its pretty hard for biological guy and girls to understand or be ok with having more than just a friendship because of what you biologically were. People don't really go looking to date trans people :/ Yeah it's like just other Trans people are ok with dating, and I would only date one because I was with him when we were both girls haha. but yeah

and 904-boy I know what you mean with when you start wearing more clothes to make you look your ways people that don't know and you pass with they will compliment you it's pretttty awesome :D

Maybe there is two aspects to this many girls are dating guys to find someone to father their children. Sadly that isn't possible for you guys.  But once sex is out of the way most woman want a caring  guy who she can talk to and have a relationship with.  Many bio-guys don't get this but the guys here do, because of your (largely) different upbringing. How to find women who you can form a relationship? maybe try talking to women who are divorced etc and have a child? Just a suggestion. I think we women get a bit of the opposite, you can't have children but want to have sex. Well a gold mine between the legs.

Sorry I hope this isn't offensive to anyone

Cindy

My son is FTM and is in a fantastic relationship with a wonderful woman. (This family is nothing if not "interesting!")
I have respected their privacy so don't know, and don't want to know, any of the details but they seem to be rock solid.  They are apparently looking at adoption some time in the future, and I think they will be great parents.
So, there are women out there who will accept you for who you are, not what you have. Just a matter of being patient, or, if you prefer, "picky".
Karen.