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I was on craigslist, and I found the perfect guy (to the point where I disregard his finances; and that's huge for me). I just sent him an email...

the problem is, he wants a passable transsexual woman who is at least 21. So I told him I'm transitioning and if he doesn't find the right person I'll be ready for him when I am 21.

But I want him, he's over 6 ft tall, green-eyed, and hot. And he's 25 years old right now. Like seriously want him... I'm just going to wait for his response though. I never wanted a guy this badly before.

How do you know he's the perfect guy if you just started messaging him now?

He is hot.

I thought transsexual women can never get young/and attractive men.

Craig's List ads are not known for their perfect  honesty.  In reality, he may be a bald, potbellied, cigar smoking 40-year-old troll. If you meet, be sure it's in a very public place.

Robyn

Quote from: Wild Flower on May 31, 2011, 12:45:46 PM
He is hot.

I thought transsexual women can never get young/and attractive men.

So very shallow.

concur with the assessment of CL...it has long been sketchy, but even moreso in the last six or seven years. 

also need to concur with Nygeel's thought on the matter...talk about seeking superficiality in a relationship.

Quote from: Robyn on May 31, 2011, 12:50:02 PM
Craig's List ads are not known for their perfect  honesty.  In reality, he may be a bald, potbellied, cigar smoking 40-year-old troll. If you meet, be sure it's in a very public place.

Robyn

this.  craigslist is full of scams.  be careful.  :police:

Go and have some fun Wild Flower. But remember, even with the best guy in the world, wear protection.

Quote from: Nygeel on May 31, 2011, 12:50:58 PM
So very shallow.

Actually it's a different approach for me. I actually don't care about looks in men, except their wallet sizes. I thought I was being less shallow than usual.

First I have to echo everyone else be very careful of meeting someone from CL.  I would hate to have something bad happen to you.

Sorry, but you bring new meaning to the word shallow.  The good news is a lot of guys with big bucks like to find shallow women (trans or otherwise).  They use their money as power and control over them.  I think if you're going to be shallow....Go for the looks honey.

Quote from: Wild Flower on May 31, 2011, 06:00:09 PM
Actually it's a different approach for me. I actually don't care about looks in men, except their wallet sizes. I thought I was being less shallow than usual.

The scary thing is, you were!  :laugh:

Well I heard his response, he said if he doesn't find someone, and I am passable in 2 yrs he will remember me.

So you can keep you're 5'5 short fat guys, and I'll keep my over 6' young athletic guy who wants a ltr with a transsexual woman.

2 years?, god that's like beyond the scope of his brain it will be 'wild flower who's that?' in two hours haha.

Quote from: JulieC. on May 31, 2011, 06:55:13 PM
First I have to echo everyone else be very careful of meeting someone from CL.  I would hate to have something bad happen to you.

Sorry, but you bring new meaning to the word shallow.  The good news is a lot of guys with big bucks like to find shallow women (trans or otherwise).  They use their money as power and control over them.  I think if you're going to be shallow....Go for the looks honey.

Where I am there's a serial killer that meets his victims on craigslist. Good times.

Just because he looks hot, doesn't mean he is, delicious looking on the outside, risk of poison on the inside. Oh well, if looks and/or money are your thing, go for it.

Well I am not perfect in the inside either... or am I?

Hey, if you feel perfectly safe with the idea of meeting this man, go for it, maybe we're all wrong in our notes of caution or being paranoid, he could be the one, might be a sweetheart, if so then he most certainly would be the perfect guy, don't want to miss out on that.

Well he sounded like a sweet guy on the craigslist add, but I am not what he wants right now....

It takes a lot for a man to want to be with a transsexual woman when he could get a GG woman. I don't think he is a ->-bleeped-<- because he wants a relationship.

Quote from: Wild Flower on May 31, 2011, 07:15:40 PM
So you can keep you're 5'5 short fat guys, and I'll keep my over 6' young athletic guy who wants a ltr with a transsexual woman.

I'll tell you what...you can keep the guys...period. 

The only thing on CL I ever found useful was the manner that we used it in Austin as a way to keep up with current events in the lesbian community...every other city in which I have looked, it was NEVER about long-term relationships.  And most of the peeps who posted ads were not real to begin with...

craigslist is like the brother of 4chan.. which is the ass end of the internet. lols ..But good luck! ;)

So, what does he look like? :P

Why is everyone bashing Craigslist? I mean yes it does have that 'serial killer' reputation but anything that could happen on CL could happen on ANY other dating/personals site such as Plenty of Fish, Zoosk, Eharmony, OkCupid, etc etc etc. And has anyone taken a look at the TG dating sites that are currently available to us?.....yuck!!!

I will admit that I have met men from Craigslist because it is the virtually the only site that offers trans-friendly personals with people in my area, since I live in a smaller more conservative city. Sure you get the creeps and losers (as you do on all the other dating sites), but I have actually met a lot of nice guys on there too.

So Wild Flower, I say go for it, and have fun! If you don't want to talk to someone you're not interested then you don't have to. I don't regret it at all.

Good luck!

Chrissi

Quote from: Icephoenyx on May 31, 2011, 10:24:26 PM
Why is everyone bashing Craigslist? I mean yes it does have that 'serial killer' reputation but anything that could happen on CL could happen on ANY other dating/personals site such as Plenty of Fish, Zoosk, Eharmony, OkCupid, etc etc etc. And has anyone taken a look at the TG dating sites that are currently available to us?.....yuck!!!

No, where I am there literally is a serial killer who is finding victims via craigslist. Not a joke. I think the body count is 10 so far.

I'd be very cautious if he specifically is looking for trans people (that's what I gathered from your posts - sorry if I got it wrong), particularly if you want to be seen as truly female and this is a long-term relationship that you are seeking.  Most people seeking trans people are seeking people they see as not really female - kind of a kink thing.

Quote from: Icephoenyx on May 31, 2011, 10:24:26 PM
Why is everyone bashing Craigslist? I mean yes it does have that 'serial killer' reputation but anything that could happen on CL could happen on ANY other dating/personals site such as Plenty of Fish, Zoosk, Eharmony, OkCupid, etc etc etc. And has anyone taken a look at the TG dating sites that are currently available to us?.....yuck!!!

Well, on all of those sites, I am smart, funny, rich and have the body of a supermodel.

Quote from: Wild Flower on May 31, 2011, 08:41:10 PM
Well he sounded like a sweet guy on the craigslist add, but I am not what he wants right now....

It takes a lot for a man to want to be with a transsexual woman when he could get a GG woman. I don't think he is a ->-bleeped-<- because he wants a relationship.

A psychopath killer could write anything just to get him to trust you, then he will rape you and dismember you.

As for you "I only care about the wallet" Why? it made me feel seek to think that there re still women in the world who think like that.

I have two daughters, and since they were little I have tech them to be self reliant and no less than anybody (male or female). They know how to fire a 1911, shotgun, mend a broken arm, change a tire, fix a computer, etc. They are in the process of earning a degree so that one day they would make their own good salaries and be independent. A woman who can pull her own wight is in a better position to find a good partner.

Having a husband with a fat wallet seldom leads to happiness as seen in the "real wife of..." reality programs. Your man has to have a way of making a living, and be hot, but that is not all. How about being faithful, gentle, respectful, supportive, and fun?

There is more to life than "Jersey shore"

Kate

There are no perfect guys. If you can't see the down side of him, then you can't make an intelligent choice. Just being hot and accepting you as you are, are just not enough. Can you talk through a list of what you need from a partner, emotionally, spiritually, and physically? If you can't, you shouldn't even be looking yet.

Quote from: kate durcal on June 05, 2011, 08:23:08 AM
A psychopath killer could write anything just to get him to trust you, then he will rape you and dismember you.

And ask yourself if your bull->-bleeped-<- detector is working properly. If you can't tell BS when a man slings it at you, you aren't ready for dating.

Quote from: Lisbeth on June 05, 2011, 08:31:46 AM
There are no perfect guys. If you can't see the down side of him, then you can't make an intelligent choice. Just being hot and accepting you as you are, are just not enough. Can you talk through a list of what you need from a partner, emotionally, spiritually, and physically? If you can't, you shouldn't even be looking yet.And ask yourself if your bull->-bleeped-<- detector is working properly. If you can't tell BS when a man slings it at you, you aren't ready for dating.

Lisbeth, you're absolutely right. Drooling over someone else's looks is utter foolish to jump the gun.

I've tried a few dating sites myself. Craiglist to me lures more sex-crazed people. Even when i've posted in the non- NSA zone, i'll still get someone trying it on.

Most other sites cost, and i'm sorry I have to say this, but any transgender dating site to me lures ->-bleeped-<-s. - Yeah, I am a hypocrite because I am still using one.
I personally enjoy OkCupid more as you have the question section to the site & this enables you to get a better insight on the person you are talking to or will be talking to.