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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: wannalivethetruth on June 16, 2011, 09:55:29 AM

Title: Slippery names..that just slip from me afterawhile!
Post by: wannalivethetruth on June 16, 2011, 09:55:29 AM
I just cant seem to stick with a name! Yea, it seems i fit it then, but after awhile, it just doesn't fit me anymore! My name journy includes : chasity, isabel, marcella. ive passed all of these. They just didnt feel me! Or fit my personality. Right now, im at Taelynn ...i hope it sticks!!
Title: Re: Slippery names..that just slip from me afterawhile!
Post by: Sabriel Facrin on June 16, 2011, 10:24:34 AM
I think what happens is that the emotional state somewhat fluctuates on a deep level, so how you're subtly feeling makes a name seem appropriate---temporarily.  We probably would feel that way with our birth names, except that they don't as readily feel in our control.
I think it might be best to accept one that you think sounds good and alright to be called by, rather than focusing on one that 'sounds me' for you.
Title: Re: Slippery names..that just slip from me afterawhile!
Post by: Rebekah with a K-A-H on June 16, 2011, 05:51:27 PM
Quote from: Sabriel Facrin on June 16, 2011, 10:24:34 AM
I think it might be best to accept one that you think sounds good and alright to be called by, rather than focusing on one that 'sounds me' for you.

This. I didn't belabor my name change, didn't search through reams of birth records to find one. I picked one that I didn't hate that sounded enough like my birthname that it would be easy for others to pick up on. Two years later, it's legally changed, I still don't hate it, and it's just normal.
Title: Re: Slippery names..that just slip from me afterawhile!
Post by: azSam on June 16, 2011, 06:54:12 PM
A name is very important, and I can understand the difficulty in choosing a name. To make it easier for me, I asked my mom what she would have named me if I was a girl, she chose Samantha. So that is what I went with. Sort of made it easire to settle.
Title: Re: Slippery names..that just slip from me afterawhile!
Post by: KrisRenee on June 16, 2011, 09:52:45 PM
Ever thought of the name Journey?
Title: Re: Slippery names..that just slip from me afterawhile!
Post by: A on June 16, 2011, 09:59:24 PM
Personally, I thought of a list of good names, then picked one that sounded kinda normal and stuck with it. Now each time I doubt it I remind myself that people don't
usually chose their names, so I just pretend I didn't either.
Title: Re: Slippery names..that just slip from me afterawhile!
Post by: Diane Elizabeth on June 16, 2011, 10:54:33 PM
     I am having the same problem- Dylen, DyLen, Darla, Starla, Dyan, Donna, Dyan....  Oh! what is a girl to do?  I asked my mother but she doesn't remember there being a female name for me.  Funny, she remembers how my sisters got theirs.    The SO thought I would go with Dora.  What?
Title: Re: Slippery names..that just slip from me afterawhile!
Post by: Alexis R on June 17, 2011, 12:22:12 AM
Quote from: Marcellahearts on June 16, 2011, 09:55:29 AM
I just cant seem to stick with a name! Yea, it seems i fit it then, but after awhile, it just doesn't fit me anymore! My name journy includes : chasity, isabel, marcella. ive passed all of these. They just didnt feel me! Or fit my personality. Right now, im at Taelynn ...i hope it sticks!!

I was having the same thoughts! I almost wrote a blog post about it. I had gotten used to thinking of myself as "Angela" for years. Now, however, I just don't think it fits anymore. I guess I outgrew it? *sort of shrugs*

I was going to go with "Rachel," as I like the name, but I settled on "Allison" since 1) it doesn't sound terrible with my legal last name (which I plan to keep) and 2) its phonetically similar to my birth name.

Neat topic!  :D