As many of you know, one of the casualties of my transition was my marriage. It lasted 15 and a half years almost exactly. Overall I was with my wife for 19 years if you count our dating and living-together years. It ended two months after I came out to her late last July. The divorce was final in January. Today would have been 16 years together if the marriage had survived. To be honest, I'm not over it. Five months is not quite enough to heal a broken heart. I wrote the following to my ex today:
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I'm sure you know what today is and I don't want to make a big deal out of it. Just wanted to say thank you for the 15 years we did have. Thank you for the good times, which are the only ones that matter to me now. Thank you for Miguel. I'm sorry it ended the way it did and there is a part of me that will always love you. I hope you can find happiness with someone else soon.
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She wrote:
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Thanks for your e-mail. Same to you.
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Maybe I'm being silly, but her response hurt worse than if she had said nothing. Sigh.
Wouldn't you say that is progress though? *big hugs*
Quote from: Tyler on July 01, 2011, 08:45:57 PM
Wouldn't you say that is progress though? *big hugs*
No, not at all actually. Our communication has been good all along. This just felt like an insincere brushoff.
Melody
I'm so sorry to hear this.
I know how you feel, I too wrote that letter (phone call actually) and recieved a similar response. I even did it the next year ??? By the third year I was on my way to forgetting much of her. I thought that would never happen in a million years.
I do see her often, have too, kids! and even though I never had much hatred for her, I definetly do not have any love for her any more.
It took me almost 3 years I hope its not that long for you. The last year or so of the third was when I came to accept my gid, this was a very difficult time. I have notes that I wrote to myself, it was a very dark place.
I am not sure if my gid was the reason for her leaving, she says no but she has never given me any reason why she left. I sometimes wished it was the gid, at least then I would have some closure.
Best wishes Melody
Shelly