I read here a few time, people that decided to never come out to their family (direct family, parents, i am not talking about extended family).
If this is what you did, why? does it mean you will never see your family again?
I will never come out to my Mom or Dad, I know they would not take it well and they do not look good on what they would term as "one of them".
Plus I figur that I am old enough now and my dad's heart is not too good, I will just not tell them and let them live the rest of there lives. I have told my brother and a few other family members but not my Mon and Dad. Aloha.
Jennie
I don't really plan on coming out to my father, even after transition, but that is more because I just don't plan on talking to him. I am sure he will find out eventually, after all I will tell my brother when I am a bit further along, not like people won't find out anyway, just seems easier to tell them really. Truth be told though, if I never seen either of my parents again i wouldn't be sad, and it has nothing to do with my GID really.
I see no point in telling anyone anything. It would just create strife. I avoid strife. This is my greatest power, but also my greatest weakness..
It really is a personal choice. For myself, I told all of my family when I first came out 8 years ago. My parents still don't accept me as their son, so I have very limited contact with them. Not sure what happened to unconditional love, but I guess only a few of us get that lucky.
I just decided to tell them because I did'nt want to have to live in 2 worlds....which would have driven me crazy, especially where I try my best to live an honest life. And, I don't mean that to be an insult to anyone. We all have to decide our own way/best way to transition. There is no one 'right way' to do this stuff.