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Title: please! any advice anyone can give at all
Post by: RyGuy on July 17, 2011, 09:48:29 PM
i'm having top surgery in 5 days (holy crap holy crap holy crap) and i was hoping for any advice anyone could give me on literally any topic of top surgery (DI w nip graft). i've heard things like take a laxative right after surgery but since there are so many of you guys that have gone through this already i'm sure you know tons. even if it's dumb post anyway because i probably didn't know.
Title: Re: please! any advice anyone can give at all
Post by: Sharky on July 17, 2011, 09:55:53 PM
Congrats! Bring bendy straws.
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Post by: xAndrewx on July 17, 2011, 10:24:37 PM
Congrats man! I always hear guys mention needing to bring button ups since you can't raise your arms too much.
Title: Re: please! any advice anyone can give at all
Post by: Adio on July 17, 2011, 10:32:20 PM
Congrats, man!  Sharky is definitely right about the bendy straws.  Those were really helpful during the first week.  And in no particular order:

A neck pillow, recliner, or several pillows stacked on top of each other can make sleeping easier. 

Constipation was definitely an issue for me.  I took an over-the-counter stool softener.  I probably needed a laxative as well, but I didn't take one.  Ginger ale or bland toast can help with nausea (a possible side-effect from the anesthesia or antibiotics).  Also, with the antibiotic, it's recommended that it be taken with food to prevent nausea.  I ate sugarless jello (about 10 calories) each time I had to take one.  Besides the horrible taste that I can still recall, I never got sick from it.

Button-down shirts, scrub bottoms (or any pants/shorts that are easy to put on), and slip-on shoes are great to have for the first few weeks.  Bring socks to the surgery center/hospital (it's usually really cold there).

Books, dvds, tv, laptop, hand-held games all help with the boredom while you're actually awake. 

It will probably be a week before you can shower again.  I used a regular wash cloth with soap and had my mom rinse my hair in the sink.  But I know other guys have used baby wipes and no-rinse shampoo.  My surgeon (Garramone) recommended that I shave my armpits prior to surgery.  That way the tape wouldn't catch and be utterly painful to remove.  Glad I did it too, even though it was incredibly difficult (haven't had to shave there in years).

I'm sure there's other stuff, but I was pretty much out of it the first week.  Mostly just slept, ate, and watched tv in the hotel room.  Once again, congrats.  Let us know how everything goes. :)
Title: Re: please! any advice anyone can give at all
Post by: Miniar on July 18, 2011, 09:13:22 AM
Bring a book! Or something like that which can help you kill time!
There's nothing more boring than laying in bed all day with literally NOTHING to do!

Also, don't worry so much.
It'll go fine.

Oh, and take a pre-op photo if you want to have comparison for later.

hmm.. what else...
Protein! Eat much of it and it'll speed up healing afterward!
I had protein powder in smoothies.. it was delicious.
(And don't be afraid to ask friends/family for help as needed, your pride is not as important as "not pulling bloody stitches".)
Title: Re: please! any advice anyone can give at all
Post by: justmeinoz on July 18, 2011, 09:20:44 AM
I recall my son not being able, or allowed, to raise his arms for quite a while.

As to antibiotics, laxatives etc, I'd ask the Doc, and not be afraid to call the nurses whenever neccessary either.  Don't be embarrassed, they have seen it all.  You will probably be one of their more pleasant patients anyway, you want to be there, and are getting something off your chest, so to speak!  :laugh:

Heal well and quickly.

Karen
Title: Re: please! any advice anyone can give at all
Post by: malinkibear on July 18, 2011, 01:16:03 PM
Quote from: justmeinoz on July 18, 2011, 09:20:44 AM
I recall my son not being able, or allowed, to raise his arms for quite a while.

As to antibiotics, laxatives etc, I'd ask the Doc, and not be afraid to call the nurses whenever neccessary either.  Don't be embarrassed, they have seen it all.  You will probably be one of their more pleasant patients anyway, you want to be there, and are getting something off your chest, so to speak!  :laugh:

Heal well and quickly.

Karen
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No advice, but congratulations dude!
Title: Re: please! any advice anyone can give at all
Post by: ajborelli on July 18, 2011, 02:15:06 PM
i havent had top surgery yet but my neighbor had breast cancer and last night she was talking to me about what she did to get rid of the scars, she said after her scars heeled up and were dry she used organic honey and wrapped it up for sleeping and than she also got scar guard from walmart for during the day. she also said dont move your arms much at all if possible dont wear a shirt or go out in the sun for like a week have someone feed you and wash your hair and basically be a baby about it for a little over a week. her scars are barely there it isnt the EXACT same thing but she has no chest so that was her advice to me
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Post by: malinkibear on July 18, 2011, 02:30:26 PM
That reminds me, scars. My girlfriend has made me use Calendula cream for the past year on scars I have on my abdomen and thigh. At the start they were bright red and very noticeable, but after a year-ish of nightly application, they've faded to almost nothing. I would advertise this cream to Hell and back, it's done such a surprisingly good job, I can actually wear shorts again without feeing self-concious. So, if you can find it, get some of it. I don't know how well honey works, but I know for definite that this works.
Title: Re: please! any advice anyone can give at all
Post by: Adio on July 18, 2011, 04:07:24 PM
Ah, scars.  I'm currently using mederma on mine.  There isn't much difference color wise (I'm only 5 weeks post-op), but they are much softer already.  I remember the first time I put the gel on, and the scars and skin underneath were incredibly hard.  It still doesn't feel "normal" but there is a noticeable difference.  After 8 weeks of using the mederma (10 weeks post-op), I'll compare photos and see if I think it's worth going for another 8 weeks.  It's fairly expensive, but I bought it off of amazon.com and it costs less than the scar guard.

To be honest, I'm not sure if it's the product itself or just the fact that I'm massaging the scars and keeping them relatively moist throughout the day.  Scar massage is very helpful, IMO, in reducing the appearance and hardness of scar tissue.  I've seen a few patients use it (mostly abdominal scars) and it seems to work well.
Title: Re: please! any advice anyone can give at all
Post by: anibioman on July 18, 2011, 04:37:36 PM
button downs and hoodies because i doubt you can or should put a t shirt on post surgery
Title: Re: please! any advice anyone can give at all
Post by: Darrin Scott on July 18, 2011, 05:08:24 PM
I saw something on tumblr about using honey on scars. That's supposed to work well. If I find the post I'll post it.
Title: Re: please! any advice anyone can give at all
Post by: spenceroar on July 18, 2011, 10:48:34 PM
Quote from: Sharky on July 17, 2011, 09:55:53 PM
Congrats! Bring bendy straws.
This. Noone explained to me before hand that I wouldn't be able to drink from a glass comfortably for a few days.
Also, laxatives are a great idea.
Loose fitting button ups to cover drains when you are out and about.
Sweat pants that are comfortable to wear.
Title: Re: please! any advice anyone can give at all
Post by: RyGuy on July 21, 2011, 10:16:37 PM
thanks for everything guys! here goes nothing...
Title: Re: please! any advice anyone can give at all
Post by: IowaBoy on July 21, 2011, 10:59:50 PM
I agree with all of the above. Also take a pillow with you so you can put it between yourself and the seat belt on the drive home.

Absolutely massage the scars. I've had a very noticeable difference since I started massaging them. I think you are supposed to wait 2 weeks to make sure they are healed, but then don't be after to really deeply massage them. There's lots of research on athletes about intense painful massage on scar tissue and how quickly it gets them back in shape.
Title: Re: please! any advice anyone can give at all
Post by: Da Monkey on July 22, 2011, 08:04:27 AM
Laxatives, straws, protein?

Hahah, I went in for surgery, went under, woke up, had bandages, went home, watched tv, slept. Then the rest of my recovering weeks I spent playing video games and going online. I wasn't even that drowsy from the anesthetic.

I ate, drank, and slept a bit awkwardly didn't have any big issues, horrible pain, or constipation(???). I was wearing regular t-shirts after 5 days.

Honestly, it was the easiest, least scary and quickest surgery I've ever had in my life. You'll be in and out no problem and congrats!!!