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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Female to male transsexual talk (FTM) => Topic started by: RyGuy on July 24, 2011, 11:20:41 PM

Title: bed wetting
Post by: RyGuy on July 24, 2011, 11:20:41 PM
did anyone else wet the bed past a normal or understandable age? my doctor always thought it was an extension of being dissociated from your body, and i wet the bed until i was 11 and had no idea and could not prevent it. my other trans friend had the exact same problem. i was wondering if it was a "thing".
Title: Re: bed wetting
Post by: Ryno on July 24, 2011, 11:45:21 PM
The last time I wet the bed was when I was 6. I think I had a friend over too :/

But it could be a coincidence as much as a correlation between bed wetting and being trans.
Title: Re: bed wetting
Post by: tekla on July 24, 2011, 11:58:46 PM
And correlation is not causation either.
Title: Re: bed wetting
Post by: Sharky on July 25, 2011, 12:13:02 AM
I never wet the bed according to my parents.
Title: Re: bed wetting
Post by: Lee on July 25, 2011, 12:19:18 AM
I can't remember ever having done it either. 
Title: Re: bed wetting
Post by: AbraCadabra on July 25, 2011, 12:33:41 AM
Ryan, I did sometimes until age 9 or maybe even 10?

Moving to boarding school I started to wear undies so I would wake up more quickly if something happened. I must have been about 10.

Also many years later when I was getting close to my divorce.

I think it's some sort of unconscious stress relieve, I was 34!
Some would say it's "tears" going the wrong way...

Ever so horribly embarrassing it is.

Axelle
Title: Re: bed wetting
Post by: wheat thins are delicious on July 25, 2011, 02:21:03 AM
Quote from: RyanThomas on July 24, 2011, 11:20:41 PM
my doctor always thought it was an extension of being dissociated from your body,

I agree with this but not in the sense of me being dissociated from a gender perspective but from a perspective of when I sleep I'm dead to the world.  Nothing will wake me up.  alarms aren't loud enough, people have to shake me, I'm a very deep sleeper.  That said I wet the bed till I was 13, and have had a few accidents over the ten years since then.  I don't think it has anything to do with gender though, just my deep sleeping. 
Title: Re: bed wetting
Post by: Da Monkey on July 25, 2011, 07:08:16 AM
I've always been a really deep sleeper, it's very hard to wake me up. I have three alarms set a half hour apart and each one goes off every 5 minutes so that I have lots of time to slowly wake up, but sometimes I sleep through them all (hahahah sorry Ryan).

I am always dreaming too, sometimes I have really bad sleep paralysis. Occasionally have dreams that I have to piss and can never find a bathroom, or if I do then I can't go. But very rarely I go in my dreams but after I am done it still feels like I have to go.

Surprisingly though, I have never wet the bed.
Title: Re: bed wetting
Post by: Darrin Scott on July 25, 2011, 07:40:31 AM
Never wet the bed.
Title: Re: bed wetting
Post by: PandaValentine on July 25, 2011, 10:48:51 AM
I only wet the bed once in my life, and I was 6. I've only heard of wetting the bed being associated with abuse, never trans issues. I used to pee in pools a lot though, lol. - That was totally on purpose though.  >:-)
Title: Re: bed wetting
Post by: rexyrex on July 25, 2011, 11:03:46 AM
iv wet the bed a few times, thought it was normal for kids to wet the bed and everyone does it. (so i been told) when i was younger nothing to do with trans it cos i drank before going to bed >.< wet my self a few times at school! o.O
Title: Re: bed wetting
Post by: AbraCadabra on July 25, 2011, 11:51:06 AM
Darren's the man, eh.

Did it go into your nappies at all? Just kidding.

I recall when playing just getting so into it that I wet myself before finding even a place to wee.
When it happend in winter, the pee actually froze hard on my cloths. Yeak, but that was at about age 3 - 4.

Also with these "wet dreams" as Beth mentioned, we do learn not to trust any of those!
Yet it's/was soooo nice to let go --- until it's to late. Eish.

Maybe it's all a girl thing Darren :-)

Axelle
Title: Re: bed wetting
Post by: Nygeel on July 25, 2011, 12:04:38 PM
Not entirely related to being trans and a bed wetter but Sarah Silverman was one well into her teens. She did write about it in her book, but I'm not sure if she went over how she stopped, or what helped.
Title: Re: bed wetting
Post by: RyGuy on July 25, 2011, 12:12:12 PM
my brother suggested that it's one of the things that can come from a child living under high stress. i wasn't trying to imply that you all soil yourselves :P i was just interested.
Title: Re: bed wetting
Post by: Natkat on July 25, 2011, 02:25:21 PM
I did it few times when I where small,
I do think it normal amount most children do to, and some are just having it longer than others,
there even as far I know adults who get these problems..
(beside when there drunk)
Title: Re: bed wetting
Post by: Darrin Scott on July 25, 2011, 06:03:45 PM
Quote from: Axélle on July 25, 2011, 11:51:06 AM
Darren's the man, eh.

Did it go into your nappies at all? Just kidding.

I recall when playing just getting so into it that I wet myself before finding even a place to wee.
When it happend in winter, the pee actually froze hard on my cloths. Yeak, but that was at about age 3 - 4.

Also with these "wet dreams" as Beth mentioned, we do learn not to trust any of those!
Yet it's/was soooo nice to let go --- until it's to late. Eish.

Maybe it's all a girl thing Darren :-)

Axelle

Well, obviously I went in my diapers. lol

But pretty much after that. Nope. I don't know about the stressful environment theory, either. I had a pretty stressful upbringing and I didn't do it.....
Title: Re: bed wetting
Post by: wheat thins are delicious on July 25, 2011, 08:01:56 PM
Quote from: Darrin on July 25, 2011, 06:03:45 PM
Well, obviously I went in my diapers. lol

But pretty much after that. Nope. I don't know about the stressful environment theory, either. I had a pretty stressful upbringing and I didn't do it.....

Who knows what the reason is.  It could be not being in touch with yourself and thus you don't wake up to your bodies cues.  But there is no shame in it.
Title: Re: bed wetting
Post by: MaxAloysius on July 25, 2011, 09:57:23 PM
I had a very stressful childhood with emotionally abusive parents and never wet the bed, so I dunno? I'm a pretty light sleeper though, so maybe that stopped it from happening?
Title: Re: bed wetting
Post by: RyGuy on July 25, 2011, 10:01:29 PM
thanks guys. i wasn't trying to imply that none of you have had stressful childhoods or that all trans people have other issues attached. besides, i think it's been established that there's little correlation.