Hello all,
I was wondering, is there anyone out there who is both transgendered, and is in a relationship/marriage/other form of involvement with another individual who is themselves transgendered?
I ask this because I am a genetically male androgyne, who is in a wonderful relationship with a transman. Funnily enough, we were both questioning our respective genders before we met (about four months ago), but after one fateful conversation, we have both gained a clearer picture of our genders. He has just fully accepted himself as being a transman, but is only out to me and one other friend of his. I am still a little confused about myself, but things seem to be leaning strongly toward androgyne. It's a good job we're both pansexual.
I love how we are both able to offer support to each other, and have at least some understanding as to what the other is going through. I think it would be invaluable to hear similar stories.
I am MTF and my spouse is a female bodied androgyn.
:)
We are opposites.
Personaly I think that trans relationships are a good idea. There never is a need to define what GID and its pain is like. When I need some space due to the angst my wonderful mate gets it and all is well.
Only a trans person can know what this hell is like for us and that understanding is priceless.
Also when I make love with my spouse I know that I am seen as a woman and treated as such.
I've been in three trans relationships. Two MTF and one FTM.
The guy was wonderful and we are wonderful friends to this day. He came out to me stating he identified as a gay man....if he was sexually attracted to women I really believed we would have been together for a very long time.
The two girls were disastrous. The first girl, I discovered had about 6 current MTF lovers (when we had an understanding that this would have been a monogamous relationship...as I found out so did the other girls have that understanding as well. It was an interesting time, that was for sure) and the other girl I had to get a restraining order placed on her because she was a few Lincoln logs short of a full cabin.
However, this was just from my experiences and in no way should reflect any other trans relationships out there!!!!
I wouldn't mind being in one, unless they started transitioning late in the relationship or something.
Quote from: ~RoadToTrista~ on August 08, 2011, 09:59:42 PM
I wouldn't mind being in one, unless they started transitioning late in the relationship or something.
Sevan and I were togather for 5 years before I started to transition whcih was the catalyst for hir transition.
We both knew eachother was trans but we were going to live in our birth genders and be togather as a man and wife.
Didn't work out like that it turns out...
:)
Well, I am MTF bisexual and my spouse is female-bodied bigender lesbian. I got lucky; my spouse actually "squee-ed" when I came out to her, which was totally unexpected. Apparently, she was disappointed to find that her soulmate was a dude, so learning I'm MTF was like the fulfillment of her "secret lesbian dream".
She has been wonderfully supportive. If anything, we are closer now than ever before.
I am in a LDR with another long time post-op MtF. I love her dearly and she I. Unfortunately we live in different countries. I in the US and she is in the UK.
I'm a ftm in a long-term relationship. I've been in this current relationship for nearly a year, and we've been doing really well. She (my partner) has been supportive of my transition and finds ways to even help.
I've been in multiple relationships in the past, all women except for one who was also a ftm. All of my previous relationships (save for the ftm partner) would always shun any idea of being with a trans man, so I often suppressed it and would just keep it in the far back of my mind. So, having someone who actually supports me is a big relief.
Relationship? Hmmm? Sex is way down on the priority list. Friendship, honor and honesty is most important. I can dislike and like a person equally depending on how the person feels about me.
Hmm, having read these posts, it makes me even more happy that I am with the person I am right now. Especially since that I feel that, if I were ever to break up with him, not only would I be very distraught about that, I would have a very difficult time later on finding a romantic partner who could accept my, uh, situation.