Do any women actually respond positively to random strangers hitting on them in the street? What is it with men that cause them to do that?
Well, when being a "working-girl" it'd mean you not soliciting... the good news.
Otherwise in ladies mode --- one COMPLETE no-no. It feels cheap for me to respond as I'd feel like some hooker or some such.
YMMV
Axelle
It would depend on where you were I guess. I bet you'd get a different response at a New Year's Eve party at a holiday resort, compared to the business district in town.
Seems to work for some guys, or maybe the girls couldn't be bothered with all the effort of dating and just want a no-complications shag too.
Never something I'd consider either side of the fence though.
Karen.
A Lady certainly wouldn't . Me , I consider myself to be just that too.............. ellen
Quote from: justmeinoz on August 09, 2011, 09:11:19 AM
Never something I'd consider either side of the fence though.
me neither, never could do it without some strong emotional draw
Hitting on someone can mean different things to different people
It depends on the guy and what's on his mind... If I find him attractive and he's asking me out to dinner because he'd like to get to know me,
that's okay by me
If he's some hose monster looking for favors, I'll tell him what bus to catch :P
I've made mention of there good looks or even their clothes, take two steps back smile and continue on my way. I have done that at least a dozen times just walking down the sidewalk, I have had two different relationships from them. One was just about the sex. we'd just be fukc buddies and always went out for the evning also. The other one turned into a long term relationship that if it wasn't for the children, I wouldn't even remember the name.
But I have been hit on by men and woman plenty of times, I take it as a compliment. Sometimes stop and chat, others just laugh a little and move on.
Let me ask you this though, how many times have you taken a few steps and then looked back just to see?
Quote from: @ivan on August 10, 2011, 07:34:41 PM
I've made mention of there good looks or even their clothes, take two steps back smile and continue on my way. I have done that at least a dozen times just walking down the sidewalk, I have had two different relationships from them. One was just about the sex. we'd just be fukc buddies and always went out for the evning also. The other one turned into a long term relationship that if it wasn't for the children, I wouldn't even remember the name.
But I have been hit on by men and woman plenty of times, I take it as a compliment. Sometimes stop and chat, others just laugh a little and move on.
Let me ask you this though, how many times have you taken a few steps and then looked back just to see?
Let me first clarify that I didn't mean when one's at a bar, disco or something like that where one might actually want to pick up guys. I meant just walking down the street, or at work in a customer facing role.
The couple of time at work, I had no option but carry on in a polite conversation with the guy until their order is ready and they leave. With those while I'm just walking down the street, only once, the most recent time did I smile politely in the general direction while carrying on walking.
It's most particularly the way they do it, sound the car horn, shout "hey sexy", .... Eek :icon_blah:
I always thought approaching someone you had an interest in was the only way to find out if they felt the same. No need to repel them rudely, just clearly. As to the whistles or shouted comments, just take it as a compliment and keep walking, no reply required.
It's all about the circumstances and how it is done. Beeping a car horn? No. Whistling from the other side of the road? No. Random person asking me to have coffee... mayyyybe. It would depend if I found him attractive and how cool he was able to pull off asking that question to a complete stranger. I think unless it was totally flubbed or creepy, I would at least give him points for having the guts to try.
It reminds me of one time in a bookstore when I still presented as male. This guy came up and was stammering nervously that he thought he knew me from somewhere. I could tell what he wanted to ask, but he never did. Eventually I said I had to go. It was awkward. Being with a gay guy would never have worked for me, but I still was really rooting for him. I felt sad for him when he couldn't muster the nerve.
Well, being married and monogamous, I'm not exactly "available", but I'd be thrilled to be asked to coffee by a cute guy (or girl). No need for it to go anywhere beyond a pleasant conversation over a steaming mocha.
Wolf-whistles and the like would probably weird me out, but I'd still take it as a compliment and go on my way. Anything more aggressive than that would definitely give me the creeps.
Really, it all depends on the situation and the apparent character of the admirer.
Only if they're hot.
as long as the person's not looking for sex without any interest in getting to know me. compliments are welcome when given to me and not the whole rest of the world too. i don't like whistling and shouting, but i like invitations to coffee or dinner from people who won't try to force me into anything
Quote from: Keroppi on August 09, 2011, 08:57:53 AM
Do any women actually respond positively to random strangers hitting on them in the street?
It depends on how attractive he is. Most of them I brush off with little thought, but one time there was one guy... God, he was sexy! But I was attached at the time. *sigh*
I get hit on almost every time I'm out. I don't pay it ant mind. Gennee
On occasion I do receive compliments from men and women. I have been asked out on dates, invited to a bar, etc. A transwoman was interested in getting together with me. Gennee
I admit, I'd probably be flattered by any sort of attention at this point because I feel invisible to guys. :( Never asked out, never approached, nothing. And I'm out and about all the time. Pretty much every second I'm not asleep, I'm out in public.
I pretty much only have a problem when guys hit on me. I take it as a compliment I dont swing that way and so it gets awkward. And i am a cashier at Walmart (I work there in guy mode as some people call it) and i always get hit on. Usually girls under 17 and married women over 40 I just take it as compliments. As long as the person is sincere about it and not joking with me I dont mind.