Oh my god I'm so horny!
Someone please tell me this doesn't last long? I've been on T for about 9 weeks now, and my horny level spiked early on and I thought that was it; bad but I could handle it. But the last couple of days it seems to have exploded to a whole new level, I can't stop thinking about sex! It's actually painful. It's distracting and I'm at the point where I just want it to stop, I have this permanent ache in my chest like I just need to do something. The usual methods for dealing with this kind of thing seem to be having little to no effect, and I don't have a boyfriend I can take my frustrations out on.
Do any of you guys know any coping mechanism or anything? Please tell me there's a miracle drug I can take to stop this or something?
Oh my god I just want it to end...
Yeah, I didn't realize how bad it would get. I'm at 9 months and had one slight dip at 8 months. I find jerking off helps a little but not much.
max this is what a teenage male goes threw i sugest what your feeling is normal part of being a guy the good news is that you learn to control it sort of as your system gets use to it and im sure as you know guys never really control completely you learn to adapt to what is socially acceptable some teenage boys masterbate a ridiculous number of times just to release the built up urges problem number two will be anger control. good luck hun im mtf and so glad to be rid of t
jessi
Get some porno that you like, some lotion, whatever sex toys work for you and enough batteries to get you through. Masturbation may not be the best sex (though it's a lot better than some sex is), but its the best sexual release.
Or find some Jack and Jill event near you.
Yeah I've been a little worried about this. I'm on antidepressants that kill my sex drive so I'm hoping that'll balance it all out for me. But just be thankful you can't have any obvious boners. It makes me wonder how teenage boys actually deal with it because I don't remember any guys in grades 7-10 walking around with hard ons. From the sounds of it you'd think it would happen a lot more often.
it happens way more then you think as i said you learn to control what is socially acceptable and walking around with a boner is one of them so you hide it any way you can lol
jessi
Quote from: jesse on August 26, 2011, 09:48:21 AM
it happens way more then you think as i said you learn to control what is socially acceptable and walking around with a boner is one of them so you hide it any way you can lol
jessi
Having an erection that's under 2 inches helps.
Lol, I was trying to be tactful by saying 'the usual methods for dealing with this' instead of 'masturbating so hard my brain explodes' but believe me, masturbation is not helping no matter how many hundreds of times I do it. :P I have serious friction burn and there's still no end in sight. T.T
Quote from: MaxAloysius on August 26, 2011, 09:56:23 AM
Lol, I was trying to be tactful by saying 'the usual methods for dealing with this' instead of 'masturbating so hard my brain explodes' but believe me, masturbation is not helping no matter how many hundreds of times I do it. :P I have serious friction burn and there's still no end in sight. T.T
Moar lube
O.O I am not looking forward to that. And I'm gonna be in college when I start T, so I'll have a roommate and I won't even be able to do anything O.O
hey max id like to add some light humor to this thread if i can lol your driving down the road with your first girlfriend or walking if not licensed yet you see a pretty girl in a mini and your head follows her past the social cue...your being disrespectful to your girlfriend as she sends an elbow painfully into your side.....the learned behavior the next time a cute girl goes by the eyes follow but the head stays put...did you control the t yes you did is it still controling you yes it is lol you may find yourself say why the hell cant i stop doing such and such lol the answer you never really control it. and by the way i have caused blisters to form on that worthless thing during those years and still kept on with only a slight break i really feel for you guy the only advice i can give is bear with it or see if you can get the doc to reduce it slightly with the coresponding slower progress
hugs i hope it gets better soon
jessi
@ nygeel lol and hey you look like guys i knew back in school...
jessi
Unfortunately, I totally know how you feel.
I've been on T for about three and a half months now,
And there's no sign of it slowing down...yet,
And from the other people that I've spoken to, it can take a very long time to get down for unfortunate people like you and I who don't have anyone to take our frustrations out on xD
Sadly, masturbation doesn't help much, for me anyway...
TMI alert to the fact that I get ->-bleeped-<-ing sick of doing it up to three times a day >___O;
I haven't found another way to help it though.
Thats normal and it went away for me after about 3 months, when I say went away, I mean I wasnt as horny all the time plus I just got used to it.
My first 2 weeks of T I was horny constantly and having to relieve myself 3-5 times a day, and I felt the same way about wanting more then just my hand, and I wanted to ->-bleeped-<- anything, and I ended up doing stuff with my roommate who/was is ugly as hell just because I was so blind from the horny-ness (dont make my mistake, i still regret it, ew)
I'm already needing it 2-3 times a day and I have never taken T. Lock up the ladies when I start.
My sex drive seems to be getting worse the longer I'm on T. I didn't see too much of an increase until about a month ago (around the 4 month mark), and now it's pretty ridiculous. If I had time I'd masturbate 3-5 times a day. and then still think about sex every 15 minutes. Lately though I've been working 45-50 hour weeks at my physically demanding job and then coming home and doing P90X, so I have no energy left to jerk off. That's about the only thing I can recommend for it, wearing yourself out until your body is more concerned about sleep than sex.
As Mr.Rainy said, I was a 2-3 times a day person before I got on T, now I'm looking at up to 6-8 times a day, it's absolutely ridiculous. Now it's more of a chore than something that's enjoyable. :(
max :) guess what ! welcome to be being a boy hehe :) hmmm well i had a like holy wow sex drive but never once gave in :) now this may sound silly but the best way is to say hey wait i am better than the typical guy weird yes but ! take it like a game the longer you last i guess the better it will be and seeming i am gonna wait till srs i sure hope it is :) oh another coping method try find a hobby that doesn't involve anything your attracted to ! :) but i think you should enjoy knowing why you guys are Pervi as teenagers and yea i hope it wears off good luck :)
Pre-T it would be around once every other day or so for me. Soon after it was around 2-10 times a day depending on how busy I was. Really, staying busy and distracted can help. Take up knitting, a sport, a new hobby...something?
Really...for me jerking off is probably the best exercise I get. It's the only heavy breathing type activity I can do without my binder on yet still feel comfortable. My arms have increased in muscle mass and are also leaner. My thighs, calves and lower abs get a work out and uh...it's fun?
Anyways...I think now it's maybe not as bad. It could just be that I tolerate it now more than I was early on. I also only hooked up with somebody once since starting T and that was awhile ago (no orgasms for me).
All I can say is holy ->-bleeped-<-....how much test are you guys taking....lol!!!!!
Sounds like the long nightmare before I went on HRT. This kind of business makes one feel small and dirty. Most males get over it past adolescence. The doctors I went to didn't want to do anything about it. The male drive was and still is to be left alone, they didn't want to do anything that would damage it. I sure as hell didn't require Viagara when I started this HRT monkey business 9 months ago. I was probably still quite fertile.
Max, be patient. Cases like mine are not the norm.
Joelene
I consider myself pretty average in that department and even when I was a teenager I was able to do other things to take my mind off it. However, when I was given T things were not right ... it wasn't just a simple matter of being horny and jerking off was not satisfying it. It was like a more serious need that only actual sex was going to satisfy.
That and a few other things made me stop taking it.
Quote from: Mr.Rainey on August 26, 2011, 03:29:22 PM
I'm already needing it 2-3 times a day and I have never taken T. Lock up the ladies when I start.
Same for me. Oh geez.
And here's the real kicker, women can sense desperation at a thousand feet, in order to get laid you have to be getting laid - we always called it' the 'well laid look' - no girl wants to be chosen knowing that she could have been anyone else.
Quote from: MaxAloysius on August 26, 2011, 09:56:23 AM
Lol, I was trying to be tactful by saying 'the usual methods for dealing with this' instead of 'masturbating so hard my brain explodes' but believe me, masturbation is not helping no matter how many hundreds of times I do it. :P I have serious friction burn and there's still no end in sight. T.T
I am not even on T or anything and I know how you feel... For I have the brain of a homosexual man stuck in this female body.. and I recently moved in an attractive homosexual man, who constantly teases me... and he knows he is(he had told me he wants to lose his virginity to me.. but it has yet to happen). I have to cross my legs and rock most of the day...when he bends over in front of me, talks about how he has no underwear on, or just says "im horny!" all day... the only relief I can get is to make him go elsewhere for the day. lol... I don't typically enjoy masturbating (because oops I got the wrong thing there and its like... grrr) So the best I can do is preoccupy myself with games and headphones and cross my legs and rock my thighs/legs to give temp relief. Masturbating makes it absolutely worse, since the fantasies that run through my mind are extremely graphic and intense, the thoughts required to get off are even more so.. so I am thinking harder of it, and therefore making it worse.. since the thoughts that run through my mind are impossible to achieve with my current body. :( It does suck... i can only say, it should get better.......
I've been on T a year, and while I wouldn't say my libido is less than it was you just learn to deal, like working out and wearing yourself out. I'm just kind of used to it now, and it's a lot harder to remember how I was before. -shrugs- Not much help sorry :P.
I'm not on T yet, but I'm definitely one of those stereotypical guys who has sex on the brain throughout the day. I am actually a bit scared of going on T because I'm already horny as hell most days without it, and I only get to see my bf once a week. I know sex once a week is better than nothing, but still...nyargh.
I find 3 things to be helpful: intense exercise, eating healthy, and writing/painting pornography.
The exercise tires me out and gets me that runner's high that is almost like an afterglow AND it makes me feel good about myself and like someday I could conceivably be muscular and sexy. It's hard to get going at first, but I've been working out for a year now and the difference in my strength, endurance, flexibility, appearance, and self-confidence has been huge (65 lbs down, 20 to go!). I bind with sports bras, so I can breathe when I exercise. If it makes me look like a girl I really don't give a crap. I know who I am, and that's what matters. The more weight I lose, the more perplexed glances I get from men and women alike.
Eating healthy, I've found, helps me feel less stressed out all the time. I don't have blood sugar highs and lows, so my mood is more even throughout the day. There's a lot less of the pent-up itchy energy now than when I had a crappy diet.
Writing and painting porn is my other coping mechanism. I enjoy pornography with science fiction/fantasy and BDSM themes, so I get to make stuff that is exactly tailored to what I like. I let myself lie down in bed, have a really intense, trance-state daydream, and then I put it down on paper in one form or another. The intensity of the creative process detaches me from my body, so I am caught up in the trance rather than in frustrated hornyness. It might not work for everyone, but it works for me.
If you need to focus on something else, but you have a raging hard-on, try thinking of really disgusting/unappetizing things. Dirty bathrooms, moldy food, anything that is so-not-sexy. Really flesh out the image in your mind with sight/scent/feel/sound/taste as applicable. You might know this trick already, but if you don't, it's a lifesaver.
God I hate feeling horny as it is. I can't imagine what T is going to do! Hopefully I can put that drive and energy into exercise instead, when the time comes.
I took antidepressants awhile back, they took away all my hornyness which was pretty much the only thing they did do. Cuz antidepressants don't take boobs away and make you grow a penis, incidentally.
This is why god made hookers you know.
Quote from: Bahzi on August 26, 2011, 04:03:21 PMIf I had time I'd masturbate 3-5 times a day.
That sounds like me when I was a teenager. It was common to masturbate at least three times a day. I spent a lot of my time in sexual fantasies. Of course, I was always female in the fantasy. That's what makes it a fantasy ::)
QuoteLately though I've been working 45-50 hour weeks at my physically demanding job and then coming home and doing P90X, so I have no energy left to jerk off. That's about the only thing I can recommend for it, wearing yourself out until your body is more concerned about sleep than sex.
That's what my friend does. He has insane workout and conditioning routines.
Quote from: tekla on August 28, 2011, 10:14:29 PM
This is why god made hookers you know.
xD You're amazing.
Ya know, I think Wolfsnake's suggestion of writing and drawing porn is a pretty good one. Yeah, maybe not for everyone but I've been caught up doing it now and then and man, it's a great way to release those fantasies without rubbing your dick raw. And it's free and easily accessible later on.
It's a business doing pleasure with you.
Hahaha. I am sorry but going through this before and not by choice in many ways just makes me smirk a lil hardcore. Sadly as peeps have said this is perfectly normal a male going through puberty. You just have to learn to get used it and also helps to find what truly sets you off sexually. I mean that one thing that just gives you blue balls more or less period by seeing it and use a method along those lines to sedate it. It also helps to drag out your masturbation so the orgasm is better at the end. That also tends to help out... The wham bam thank you ma'am method will always leave you wanting more almost asap.
oh ! right wait just remembered Max i get the issues your having but remember the deeper meaning behind this :) human survival just remember that change is natural :) and mean your a gr8 sample of a gr8 man ;) :D
I wish I was on T. I don't have any desire for sex.
Before I started T, I had almost no sex drive. I liked it because I could focus more on important things. Even still, I was worried that it was a symptom of something else. But now that I'm on T I'm experiencing as much sexual interest as I had when I was a teenager (which was a lot). It's weird though, because I don't really want to have sex. I would prefer masturbation. It's because I still don't have much of a male body yet, so I don't really want anyone seeing it. It's strange. I've only been on T for coming up to two months. The sex drive increase happened suddenly a couple weeks ago, which was also odd. Hopefully I can get used to this again.