Good morning ;D,
and greetings from...uhmm...ok since I am a "Third Culture Kid", greetings from everywhere and nowhere. I am a female student of 24 years.
Maybe I should not say female, or maybe I should, at least it's refering to my biological sex. Until a few years ago I did not know about all of this. It was not until I did a modul in Gender and Women Studies and getting to know some Native Americans that I was confronted with ideas such as transgender, gender queer, third gender etc. I always knew that something was not as it was supposed to be, that is, unlike the people surrounding my, I was never really male or female.Until my 15th birthday I only dressed up as a boy.
Now, 9 years later its even more complicated. Students say that I should stop behaving like a man. Obviously I don't know how to behave like a woman, whatever that means. Sometimes I try to dress up like a "real" women, but that seems wrong to me. I do have taste for pretty things that are said to be female and sometimes I like to shop for more female looking clothes. However there are other times where I would trait a kingdom for a male body and yet at other times I would like to be both genders or non at all.
To make it short, I feel very much confused ???,
all of you have a nice day!
Hi Arcturus, and welcome to Susan's! We're a diverse and friendly bunch here (the head count is over 8000) - get into things as slowly or as quickly as you feel comfortable, I'm sure you'll find plenty of support here.
Anyone who tells you you "should" stop behaving in whatever way you wish to behave that isn't harming anyone can shove it :). You don't need to decide "what you are", you just need to let yourself be who you are at the time, whether that's shifting or constant - it's all allowed. As you'll find if you look around here enough, there are lots of different experiences and identities in this forest, and you get to have yours too. What may feel like confusion to you can also just look like freedom, if you tilt your head a little this way or that :).
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- Post Ranks ( including when you can upload an avatar/post links and photos) (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,114.0.html.)
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Having read your intro post, if you want to be a bit different, I'd ask the people who criticise you why it should concern them anyway. You aren't hurting anyone, and are probably bringing a little variety and novelty into their drab lives.
Karen.
Hi Arcturus, it's nice to meet you! As you see, the standard answer to "Why am I doing this?" is "Because you want to!" At least it's OUR standard answer! See you around, hugs, Tracey
Hey. Welcome to Susan's.
I'm sure there are others who know exactly how you feel. Even if there aren't, you'll always be welcome here. As long as you follow the rules. :P
Hi Arcturus and welcome.
im new here too so a friendly hello to u. :)