Depsite being an andro I'm not particularly attracted to the look of androgyny. I seem to gravitate to more feminine things like round hipped girls or emo guys who look like girls.
I seem to attract macho men and butch lesbians.
I've met very few andros who are attracted to other androgynes. Is this some kind of phenomena or just my limited experience?
I've also found what I desire physically I may not so much emotionally. In fact, I often find myself frustrated in relationships w/ femme types because they typically lust my masculinity to the aversion of my subtle feminine wiles.
What are your experiences like?
i cant date femenine cis girls, because I feel like a lumberjack next to them.
I'm more attracted to people with masculine-oriented androgyny
Husband is a gay male who in his youth was a fem boi but is not actually transgender. So he just likes guys and for some reason really really likes me.
At first it was hard for me to believe but now I do.
So yea.
I try to keep the whole gender thing at a minimum. It's personality all the way, but really fem catches my eye more than any thing else.
Oh, and shiny things. They get me all the time. Ooh look! there's another one!
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Quote from: @ivan on September 06, 2011, 12:59:25 PM
I try to keep the whole gender thing at a minimum. It's personality all the way, but really fem catches my eye more than any thing else.
Oh, and shiny things. They get me all the time. Ooh look! there's another one!
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this is why we use sparkly things like earrings, really.
Physically I find am very attracted to a kind of scruffy but feminine kind of girl, usually red headed and sharply intelligent to the point of cruel. Very specific, I know. I am also attracted to lots of other people, but for pure, straight-away, wow factor - that's what I go for.
In terms of personality I like someone more intelligent then me, with a harder edge, probably more masculine who can challenge me but also enfold around me. I tend to have the more feminine role in relationships with housemates and stuff partly cos I am a great cook, and I like things to be pretty. I imagine I'd have that role in a relationship also.
I tend to attract vulnerable girls, usually with absent fathers, often on anxiety/depression medication who see me as stable, yet interesting and laugh a little too loud at my jokes. Again very specific, but I can't think of someone attracted to me who did not fit this criteria.
Attracted to strong assertive women, generally but not always Gay ones and that's usually who I've generally ended up with for better or worse. Find trans people attractive too, both mtf and ftm but have difficulty with men although Johnny Depp begged me I would! As the previous poster stated it can be hard to reconcile physical and emotional attraction. Olive skin or darker, dark almond eyes and dark hair do it for me. More the Michelle Yeoh that the Zhang Ziyi in Crouching Tiger terms...
I'm attracted to masculine men. I just love the way their arms and chest feel lol.
I found that butch lesbians, stone butch, and other masculine men are attracted to me.
I haven't dated an andro person. Not saying I wont...I just never had the opportunity to.
Not quite androgyne, but as an honorary member of the forest, I'll bite. I'm attracted to feminine women. Not just in looks but personality as well. By personality, I don't mean interests per se. She could be a mechanic for all I care as long as she's feminine in attitude. I like exotic looking women with curves, preferably brunette. Though I don't know that I'd turn away a really sweet blonde or redhead either. :laugh: I'm kind of an ass man. If she doesn't have a good bumper that kind of ruins it for me. And legs. I'm short but I don't mind taller women at all! I'm mostly looking at the bottom half anyway. A nice behind and long legs really does it for me.
As for who's attracted to me - I wouldn't know. All different types of people, it would seem.
Quote from: Forum Admin on September 06, 2011, 09:52:29 PM
Not quite androgyne, but as an honorary member of the forest, I'll bite. I'm attracted to feminine women. Not just in looks but personality as well. By personality, I don't mean interests per se. She could be a mechanic for all I care as long as she's feminine in attitude. I like exotic looking women with curves, preferably brunette. Though I don't know that I'd turn away a really sweet blonde or redhead either. :laugh: I'm kind of an ass man. If she doesn't have a good bumper that kind of ruins it for me. And legs. I'm short but I don't mind taller women at all! I'm mostly looking at the bottom half anyway. A nice behind and long legs really does it for me.
As for who's attracted to me - I wouldn't know. All different types of people, it would seem.
I kind of wanted to high five you for this. Fine asses are completely amazing. I could watch them for hours.
Quote from: Pica Pica on September 06, 2011, 03:38:02 PM
Physically I find am very attracted to a kind of scruffy but feminine kind of girl, usually red headed
Gingers all the way. I have a complete pathological obcession w/ redheads. Actually, I know at least one other andro who has the same set up.
Quote from: mimpi on September 06, 2011, 08:52:34 PM
although Johnny Depp begged me I would!
Yeah he is on my list of phuckable males for sure. Double if he does the whole Captain Jack thing..
A friend of mine just married a part-time Captain Jack impersonator.
Oh you mean the pirate. My mind went to Dr. Who lol.
Anyway, I'm not androgyne, so y'all may not care to hear my answer. I guess I'm not letting that stop me, :P.
Attracted to me:
When I was in the guy role, there were a few types. The boring, straight-forward one was brainy, intellectual girls. Then there were lesbians, believe it or not. It seemed like if I got anywhere near a lesbian woman, she would be flirting with me. I mean from super butch, truck driving bullies of women to cute little spitfire types and everything in between. I had a reputation for it with my friends and was teased and teased. I guess it makes sense in some ways. I had a pretty face and feminine nature. I dunno.
As a woman- tall strapping... idiots. Lol. I don't get it! I get the tall part, but why do they all need to have rocks in their heads? Like for instance, there was this guy a year or two ago that seemed totally fine when I talked to him, successful and, I wouldn't say exactly well-spoken, but he could put thoughts together it seemed. He was flirting, he was attractive, I gave him my email. Then, for hell's sake, I'm sorry, I'm not the grammar police, I don't need you to be able to diagram sentences for me or even use "whom" correctly, but being able to spell "what" is a prerequisite. His email was, I dunno, English adjacent? And that that was where it ended. Yes, I cut things off with a guy because he couldn't spell or punctuate, so sue me lol. Then I have this guy now that keeps flirting with me but somehow never remembers that he's already met me several times before. Come on, how many 6'2" girls do you really run into that you can't remember me? It just boggles my mind. He's very sexy though.
I'm attracted to:
Smart, maybe even nerdy, taller guys that have their act together and who have varied interests.
I like masculine looking men who arent too tall, i like guys around my height, hell a little shorter is fine too, but I dont like guys way taller then me it makes me feel little and lame. I like muscular backs and cute butts, brown eyes. clothes that fit them right, not to baggy.
I dont think i am answering this right lol
and I dont really get hit on often, i guess emo boys like me? lol
Quote from: Jen on September 07, 2011, 02:15:23 AM
I'm attracted to:
Smart, maybe even nerdy, taller guys that have their act together and who have varied interests.
That's pretty much my type right there!
As for who's attracted to me? I don't know. I haven't been asked out or flirted with or anything. Guess nobody's really attracted to me. :icon_ashamed: Been single for 3.5 years now and I haven't had the slightest hint of interest from a single person. No approaches, no flirting, no glances, nothing at all.
I should go sleep before I start crying too much. Sorry, everyone.
I like tall, athletic women, with high intelligence, and mentally stable.
I seem to attract women and men who are short, and who vary from insecure to clinically neurotic. Unfortunately these things seem to remain hidden until the relationship has progressed to the point where it can be damaged.
The girl next door type is who i am attracted to. Pony tail, jeans, sneakers - ahh. If shes a ginger all the better. In fact, that's who i married.
As far as who is attracted to me? I have no clue. I'm not exactly fighting off people trying to flirt with me so maybe i'm ugly LOL.... I do seem to attract females that have had their flings and are looking for someone stable, but i'm already spoken for.
I like tall and curvy women. Once in a while, skinny girls but usually not. Usually not blondes either; dark or red. There are always exceptions. Must have brains and creativity and compassion. The kind of girl who isn't really super femme, but wears folksy skirts and has some pretty features and is cute rather than beautiful. Butch girls are interesting too, and some girls who look like guys who look like girls.
As far as who I attract, I dunno. Not a lot, but from surprising quarters. I've been hit on by older married women, one of whom was trying to get me into bed in order to make her jerk of a drunk loser husband jealous (took me a while to figure it out but I. Ran from that one). Also by gay guys, and been told by younger girls they had a crush on me. I had some admirers at the festival last weekend; amazing what a brightly colored costume or a blacksmith's apron and a sheen of sweat and lots of yelling does for some people. Some girls I've been attracted to in the past just wanted to be friends because I didn't seem to them like a typical guy... in fact one of my best friends thought I was gay until I admitted i'd had a crush on her, and told a gay friend of hers, who proceeded to hit on me... sheesh.
Intelligence is the #1 thing I'm attracted to.
I'm also very attracted to women who have stereotypically male interests. I think the ideal would be someone who is feminine toward me and masculine toward everyone else.
Hmmmmmmmm. Interesting.
In women and in men, I am more attracted to those who are self-confident. Body style really does not matter. It is more a matter of knowing their own mind and having the confidence to be their very best.
As to what I attract, it seems that I attract those people who I find attractive. People are attracted to me, because they must sense a self-confidence in me. I don't see it but they do. (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fsmileys.on-my-web.com%2Frepository%2FAnimals%2Fferret-7.gif&hash=9f27f1603b9ef76a5d4bbeedcd1615f680c36e8b)
Love the saying "looks are only skin deep" i am very shy, so much so, that i have never asked a girl for a date in my life. No suprise then i guess, that i met my now wife of 9 years via a telephone chat line and we were smitten with each other near enough from day one. We fell in love even before we met and within 6 months we had moved in together, arranged our wedding and she was pregnant with our first of two children.
Couldnt really say what kind of people i attract as have always had a very low oppinion of myself and have never been able to understand why anyone would fancy me, however, have been married twice and engaged about 4 times, have 6 children off 3 different woman, so i guess i might not be quite as unatractive as i feel i am.
My wife dislikes stereotypical men and dont mind the fact that i have this female side and as detest really girly girls who have 50 pairs of shoes and take all day worry about what their hair looks like. i feel these are some of the reasons why we still love each other as much now as we ever had.
Quote from: Zoë Natasha on September 07, 2011, 03:18:52 AM
That's pretty much my type right there!
As for who's attracted to me? I don't know. I haven't been asked out or flirted with or anything. Guess nobody's really attracted to me. :icon_ashamed: Been single for 3.5 years now and I haven't had the slightest hint of interest from a single person. No approaches, no flirting, no glances, nothing at all.
I should go sleep before I start crying too much. Sorry, everyone.
I have a friend like you. She's shy and people don't really approach her. That may or may not be your problem, but don't assume you're not attractive, people might be attracted to you and not approach you because they are too shy or a number of other reasons. *HUGS*
Quote from: shelly on September 08, 2011, 08:52:01 AM
My wife dislikes stereotypical men and dont mind the fact that i have this female side and as detest really girly girls who have 50 pairs of shoes and take all day worry about what their hair looks like. i feel these are some of the reasons why we still love each other as much now as we ever had.
That's really encouraging to hear. I often wonder if it's possible for someone to be attracted to and love both sides of me.
Quote from: justmeinoz on September 07, 2011, 04:52:19 AM
I like tall, athletic women, with high intelligence, and mentally stable.
I seem to attract women and men who are short, and who vary from insecure to clinically neurotic. Unfortunately these things seem to remain hidden until the relationship has progressed to the point where it can be damaged.
Crazy types are inherently like that. I friendzone potential lovers for a minimum of 2 years to really get to know them and see if there's any potential there and even with that the insanity has slipped under the radar.
Quote from: dustbunny on September 08, 2011, 12:15:58 PM
That's really encouraging to hear. I often wonder if it's possible for someone to be attracted to and love both sides of me.
I find it easier to explain myself by splitting my two sides in half, my wife on the other hand sees the two sides of me making the person i am. Told my wife even before we met that i wear womans clothes from time to time (wasnt till much later on that i came across the term Andro) and she took like water off a ducks back. Think im living proof that it is possible to find someone to, maybe not love the both sides of Andro's, but more to love that person for what they are and all the things that come with them. Not saying its easy mind, as my life has been a battlefield of broken relationships, mainly due to the fact that i am not your average male, but in the end i eventually found my real true soul mate.
My wife is bi, and pretty much treats me like I'm a guy sometimes, a girl other times, and neither/just me other times. Sometimes not in sync with my own feeling, but more often than not. She was originally attracted to me because she liked the way I think (we met online) and she knew I had a feminine streak, and likes it that way. We met when I was 32 and had long since resigned myself to being single forever, so have hope :)
I like smart girls who have some girly girl traits but can also kick ass. I like big girls, gothy attributes, long hair, and light eyes.
I managed to attract a perfect mate for me. In the past I seem to attract people with sleeper crazy. They seem normal but once their crazy starts to show it comes fast and hits hard.
For personality I'm really attracted to people who have the right mix of intelligence and a geeky sense of humor. I also prefer those who are neither ultra feminine nor masculine. I like independent thinkers with confidence and a love of life.
Physically I like people more on the shorter side with dark hair. I prefer women more curvy/almost chubby and men on the fitter side of things but not really muscular. However, I find lots of people physically attractive who don't match up with any of this.
Since I've been presenting as male I seem to be attracting mostly butch lesbians and tomboys, but before that (while presenting as ultra feminine) it was more jock-ish guys.
In terms of attraction, I'm rarely attracted to anyone. I have to have some sort of familiarity or connection with a person, and then attraction might possibly develop. And I seem to be completely blind to most aspects of looks or personality; the only thing I can think of that all my crushes and significant others have had in common is an ability to make me laugh, and they all do/did that differently. I guess I don't really have a 'type.' My type is people I click with.
That being said, the most beautiful people are pale women with dark hair and freckles. I can't stop staring at women like that, but not because of lust. They just take my breath away.
In terms of whom I attract, hmm. I seem to attract men who like women. That's broad, but true. I attract a very wide array of straight men.
I like FTM's and MTF's equally and i like when the MTF's are no too femmy and the FTM's are not too masculine. I do like androgynous people but i hated my penis all my life and well i just can't deal with an uncastrated one. A castrated one to me is like a big clit. I wouldn't mind a post op FTM considering what they went through. I did the femme queen thing and well it got old. It caused too many cis men to desire me. I had to cut my hair and get rid of my implants to stop that. I also like those people to be simple people seeking a simple country life. I love the simple people here who never go to cities and if they do they feel out of place. Thats the amish here who are so simple. I am growing my hair longer here and wearing a cap but most here see me as some really butch woman which is great because i get a lot of respect whereas when i was femme i was seen as too sexy or just not right for my age. I can also do what i like now since i no longer have to keep a femme queen look. I love getting dirty in the garden :)
I'm attracted to those near the middle but I tend to attract very feminine women.
Not really into men but went to lunch with a really sweet one today, beautiful hands and very shy. Been thinking about him and he was kind and lovely. Tempted...
Personally, I like guys who are short and cute, but confident, slightly manly, scawny but fit (not real muscly at all), and not very hairy, and any race but white. Pretty much the big summary is I think white guys are ugly for the most part, sums it up well. My personality type is pretty alternative, so I tend to like guys who aren't preppy, sportsy, or normal, but a bit more around the edge. Most of all, they plain out have to have the specific body parts that match with a few strange fetishes of mine (specific feet, hands, ect ect) or else I can't find interest in them.
I pretty much would like a strange mixture between Justin Bieber, Shia Labouf, and Taylor Lautner, just speaking of celebrity examples. I absolutely would not touch someone who looked like Robert Pattison, he looks like what would happen if Quentin Tarantino mated with a foot! (Which is a fetish of Tarantino's, believe it or not...)
Also, personality wise, I tend to need someone who's been through a lot, like abuse and medical problems, or else things get to a point where I want to express my experienced, serious side, and some spoiled brat can't stand it. However, it gets to be a problem there too, because I'm enough grumpy to go around, I want someone who's always happy around me, someone who doesn't get mad about everything. The first person I fell in love with happened to go through a fraction of what I've been through, and it was enough to make him a grumpy, picky prick. The second person I fell in love with had never been through anything horrid, but was a heck of a ton nicer and happier. Go figure.
for me it is all about the personality the only gender of people I have not found anyone I'm attracted to (romantically) is cis Male
it has very little to do with looks I find difference attractive sometimes I know what makes then different eg. deaf, blind or wheelchair bound people who have come though a lot is attractive to me sometimes I don't know why I'm attracted to them and later find out that they have mental health issues and or are Lesbians, Sometimes I think I'm attracted to what I can't have. I also find people who are visibly different to most people intriguing and would like to get to know them better (purple or pink hair, funky earrings interesting body art all make me think wow and I'd like to get to know them better
Who Is attracted to me?I wish I knew I've never been in a relationship that was anything more the good friends anyone I've asked to be more then friends has outright rejected me :(
Kinkly, your attractions are similar to my own. I have come to identify as a demi-sexual.
lately I am attracted to a Younger Trinidadian woman. She is very attractive, I love her lilting Caribbean accent, she is a bit taller than me, She has beautiful light brown skin, she is a paralegal, I met her on a professional level, we met for cocktails, she is a lot younger than me, married but separated. I thought she would be just a friend, but things developed, I gave her the info about my bigender /androgyne/ asexual identity and answered her questions and still we are seeing each other and developing a relationship. I have no idea where this will go but for the time being it is fun and an interesting cross cultural experience.
I attract, gay men, gay women and cis women. The attraction is usually intellectual but can lead to be physical sometimes.
i don't really know what i attract, other than the occasional old pig. but they don't count as they'd hit on anything female looking
what i'm attracted to is asian looks (actually mongoloid, but that word has somehow become politically incorrect to use), long hair, cool scars more than tattoos, a nice butt, well formed chest, a certain cute shyness, coolness, manliness, femininity.. very difficult to specify a certain type of person or gender for these features
still, i haven't yet gotten over this girl i fell in love with. her personality was such a perfect match for me, so good that i couldn't help being attracted even though she doesn't have most of the features which i wrote above. too bad i'm not the type she'd go for a sexual relationship with
Did you mean Mongolian?
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before it they started using it as a derogatory for people with down's syndrome, it was used about mongoloid/mongolic races, like east asians, native americans etc. "mongolian" can only be used about the nationality, and "asian" covers too much (i'm not into persian and indian looks) while also leaving some out
Quote from: Taka on September 15, 2011, 02:37:49 PM
before it they started using it as a derogatory for people with down's syndrome, it was used about mongoloid/mongolic races, like east asians, native americans etc. "mongolian" can only be used about the nationality, and "asian" covers too much (i'm not into persian and indian looks) while also leaving some out
I'm with you about the east and south east asian look. The eyes are so beautiful and that's what really gets me. Same with arabs, the eyes are amazing.