ok i know this will sound weird but i need to rant about this! ok so i am always told i look so HOT ! for a guy ... i have been offered modeling jobs and girls touch and flirt with me where ever i go... i h8 it:( i know i am being a p*ick saying this stuff but i got so sad :( and then i feel guilty like i am wasting my body and my body hatred becomes worse and so on:( i mean its horrible being told i am this hot guy every single day because i don't care i would give it up in a second just to look like a girl :( yesterday i went to get my hair cut for school and i was mobed by a group of girls trying too flirt and touch me :'( then one grabbed my phone and got my number ... now they sms me so i blocked them but not before they did stupid things like saying your hot... :-/ i get so sad i wanna just scar and disfigure my face so they will stop :(
ok sorry if this thread upsets anyone i just had to rant because no matter how bad i sound saying it i feel sad :(
You could always date some guys :) Gay guys love "hot" or "cute" boys :D
And in my experience, they will treat you very femininly if you want.
Being taken out to dinner and treated so nicely by a guy who likes you or just simply cuddling can sure make you forget about being "male" for a while :D
But eventually they want to do more, and bwah back comes the body issues again :| Oh well, it is nice while it lasts.
Just tell them they're not your type or that you're not interested...or that you already have a boyfriend/girlfriend. Anyway, what kind of hot are we talking here? I've found that generally an attractive male will make an equally (or at least close to) attractive female, so it could actually help you in the end if you care about that stuff at all. Either way, you need to tell those girls to back the hell off.
But yeah, I totally get what you mean by hating yourself afterwards and feeling guilty and whatnot. For example, I'm built to be physically strong (even though I don't work out), so I often am asked to lift heavy stuff and then get compliments like, "Oh, what a strong young man!" Things like that make me pissed at first, followed by the guilt of wasting the potential of my masculine body by wanting to be a woman, similar to you if I'm not mistaken. You're definitely not alone in that department.
Quote from: Fighter on September 11, 2011, 05:47:00 AM
Just tell them they're not your type or that you're not interested...or that you already have a boyfriend/girlfriend. Anyway, what kind of hot are we talking here? I've found that generally an attractive male will make an equally (or at least close to) attractive female, so it could actually help you in the end if you care about that stuff at all. Either way, you need to tell those girls to back the hell off.
But yeah, I totally get what you mean by hating yourself afterwards and feeling guilty and whatnot. For example, I'm built to be physically strong (even though I don't work out), so I often am asked to lift heavy stuff and then get compliments like, "Oh, what a strong young man!" Things like that make me pissed at first, followed by the guilt of wasting the potential of my masculine body by wanting to be a woman, similar to you if I'm not mistaken. You're definitely not alone in that department.
i will have a pic in could i pass one day thread as soon as i learn how :) but i am glad i ain't alone
OK instead of moaning about your gift, which is beauty, you should embrace the fact that you already have what many will only dream about. Fact is that FFS can do wonders to turn male face into female face, however if such face is an average then the result can only be average and perhaps a bit more attractive in the hands of a skilled surgeon. Beautiful face will be beautiful after ffs as well, so nothing really is lost here except that if you are already manly and post-puberty then you must succumb to the inevitable surgery. My good friend was an international male model and also transgender individual, she decided late in life after long career that enough is enough and put the stop to charade. The results of FFS were stunning making her 20 years younger and worthy of any runway once again, this time a gorgeous woman.
Don't think of it as the end but the beginning of a beautiful journey yet waiting to unfold before you, Love, Inna
Same goes here.I feel the same way.
Quote from: Rabbit on September 11, 2011, 04:54:32 AM
You could always date some guys :) Gay guys love "hot" or "cute" boys :D
And in my experience, they will treat you very femininly if you want.
Being taken out to dinner and treated so nicely by a guy who likes you or just simply cuddling can sure make you forget about being "male" for a while :D
But eventually they want to do more, and bwah back comes the body issues again :| Oh well, it is nice while it lasts.
Hey I wouldn't give up so easily on a relationship, feeling the need to conform to a label when all that matters is Being :) That is the reason why I am a vegetarian near vegan.
Throw out the names :)
But we do need names and defintions for legal purposes like LGBTIQQA, these words within law protect people. But outside law I look for common ground. I meet a lot of Beings in my life, whom I share alot of of the greatest wonders of the universe with :) I AM A MYSTIC TRAVELLER haha :P
Let me put this succinctly: hot guys make hot girls.
Quote from: A_Dresden_Doll on September 12, 2011, 12:11:25 PMhot guys make hot girls.
Not always. I know of someone who was very handsome and when she had FFS, looked kinda weird and unnatural. A woman yes, but not hot.
Quote from: JenJen2011 on September 12, 2011, 12:15:06 PM
Not always. I know of someone who was very handsome and when she had FFS, looked kinda weird and unnatural. A woman yes, but not hot.
I meant that more in the regards of modern hot guys. When I think handsome, I think of Bogart. When I think of hot, I think of Depp.
Quote from: Rabbit on September 11, 2011, 04:54:32 AM
You could always date some guys :) Gay guys love "hot" or "cute" boys :D
That would likely only work for someone who was 1) interested in guys and 2) was interested in the gay guys
Also, as I recall, OP is still in school...which can create issues with dating period, much less within the gay community. I was fortunate to have been out and in the lesbian community when our drinking age was still 18 in the States...as a result, they rarely checked ID. But for the lesbian bars, I never would have been out and about (no pun intended) precisely because other options would have been limited.
I hate being rich; it makes me feel uncomfortable
i doubt my looks will work for my female image
Would it help if I told you that you were ugly? :P
well it is hard to tell you what you've got from your avatar, but you'll make one sexy pussy :)
You're not alone. I get told all the time what a great looking man I am, which is maddening to say the least.
Quote from: Ann Onymous on September 12, 2011, 12:24:40 PM
That would likely only work for someone who was ....2) was interested in the gay guys
Oh yea, the entire lisp thing and random gay singing is a bit much for some people...I can see how gay guys might not be for everyone.
I used to really hate it when straight girls gave me that look. I can't think of a better example of something that is meant to be nice that feels like such an utter rejection. Being a straight woman underneath, it pretty much covered all my dysphoria triggers with one little smile. It was like really? I do the man thing that well, huh?
Was always easier when it came from lesbians or even gay guys, though the latter still implied I was being successful in the male role.
PS- not that I think I was hot or anything, I just hated when that happened.