Walking on the sidewalk, getting ready to make a left and this guy was flying coming the other way. Now we could not see each other because there is a building on the 90 degree corner. He was moving so fast and we almost colided. I actually thought that he was attacking me. he slowed sligthtly for a moment while ranting about "f***ing ->-bleeped-<-got". It didnt ruin my day or anything, but i found myself wondering if there would ever be a time that i enjoyed passing privilage. I had a dr's appt in that building and was smoking a cigarette when maybe 2 minutes here he copmes the other way at a much slower pace, yet still moving with purpose. as he neared, he said to me, "sorry Miss" speaking of our near collision and was past me and gone a second later.....lol!!! kinda made my day. Makes me feel so much better knowing that he wasnt talking ato me when he was ranting!!!!!
Chalk on up for the gurls!!!
aww what a nice turn around ^^ I have to give the guy credit he had the sense to come back and apologize, many people these days seem to blow off others feelings.
no love he wasnt talking to me. Around the corner there were some obnoxious gay boys. That was who he was talking to. he appologized to me for almost mowing me over
Let's hope he also went and apologised to the gay boys (because them being "obnoxious" is no excuse for being homophobic back).
Quote from: Nikki_Mercedes on September 22, 2011, 10:06:32 AM
no love he wasnt talking to me. Around the corner there were some obnoxious gay boys. That was who he was talking to. he appologized to me for almost mowing me over
hehe well in any case nearing mowing you down most wouldn't have even apologized for that, other day a man who was at least 70 was hobbling over to a store on crutches and this lady doesn't heed him and proceeds to go with him still in-front of her! If had tripped or been slower he would have been hit! D:
Some people, glad you weren't hit!
@Padma It seems "->-bleeped-<-" "->-bleeped-<-got" are generally used to insult someone or refer to someone who is loud and obnoxious with a lack of courtesy to others, not someone who is gay. At least thats what its come to mean where I live and to those I have met even in Germany.
I assumed from Nikki's description of the incident that them being gay as well as obnoxious was relevant, in this case - hence my response.
Personally, I don't like it, whoever it's aimed at and for whatever reason - it's clearly meant as a harsh insult (and has built into it the assumption that calling someone a ->-bleeped-<- is inherently insulting).
Quote from: Padma on September 22, 2011, 10:46:57 AM
I assumed from Nikki's description of the incident that them being gay as well as obnoxious was relevant, in this case - hence my response.
Personally, I don't like it, whoever it's aimed at and for whatever reason - it's clearly meant as a harsh insult (and has built into it the assumption that calling someone a ->-bleeped-<- is inherently insulting).
true, true. I don't like it either but I also think that developing a thick skin is needed for these things not to take away from the pain such insults cause but to realize they are just words and that many cruel things are said when doesn't understand or is angry.
but at any rate don't want to take away from a good moment, but I probably would have given the guy a quick piece of my mind :P
Sure :). I just didn't want to leave it unsaid that just because he's chivalrous (in hindsight) towards women, doesn't make it okay for him to be rude and/or homophobic towards men.
I'm glad he got it together to apologise to you, Nikki :).
oh jeez i know im going to get it good for posting this, but it is how i feel.
I have been fighting the transition battle for a ,long time. 20 months or so ago, I began HRT (through my dr). I have grown and my body has changed, big time. I feel I have paid my dues, or at least a high amount of dues as I know that there are dues all through life. My feeling is that, transition is a difficult and painstaking; rewarding journey. For all. I know what it feels like to live imprisoned within your own body; of having society in general assign me as "male" and interact and expect such of me. I know the pain and the despair; to have strong feelings of hate for myself. Wanting to destroy, forever the thing staring me in the mirror. And I know what it feels like to be the against all odds underdog. I have felt what it feels like to have people not even acknowledge your presence; to be discarded as irrelevant. I also know spirit and what it feels like to have heart, a lot of heart. What it feels like when you empower yourself by taking little steps everyday, doing what is within your power and control to break out of that prison cell one tablespoon at a time.
Not just in body but in mind (well working on my mind has been within the last 3 months or so). People that havent seen me in a while that i have ran into, almost didnt recognize me. LOL! I am in beauty school (that will help you more than you know) i have worked on manners, changed my makeup from hoochie mama to that of day wear, if any makeup. My dress as well. my point is, that. i dont really know,,,,,, blah blah blah,
At the time I was happy that it wasnt directed at me. It felt good, rewarding all the above. It felt good. Let me just say that feminine gayboys HATE me! I was handsome when I was pretending to be a man, and they probably feel that i am a traitor for "crossing"to the other side. Plus, i do look good, very sexy actually and the fact is that their men usually are attracted to me! lol! there is a gayboy at the academy that HATES me and gives me so much crap, a real back biter, DRAMA, confrontation starter, you know.....any input is welcome. PLease make any comments you like about whatever you want. Im open, just please dont be harsh. I am trying to grow from this and might need a little wisdom is all...
Nikki