Haven't had any time to be on here or the chat room lately, so so busy with school and work. :o
But I have had time to meet an absolutely beautiful person whom I have begun to date. We get along so well, and it was only after a few days of flirting did we both find out that we're both trans. She (still going by female pronouns for now) wants to transition to be male, and I am already in-transition towards female (4+ months on HRT, not full-time yet). She's already off-and-on lived full-time as male, and now wants to "seal the deal" so to speak by coming out of the closet, going on hormones, and moving forward with this. I just happened to fall into her life right around this time. I guess we we're kind of fortunate to fall into each others' lives, really, at this stage.
What I mean to ask is this: do you foresee any issues with beginning to go out (and fall in love) with someone else also transitioning, when we're both so early on in the process? I guess I'm just nervous (as anyone would be) of something this special blowing up because neither of us are ready to handle this during such an early stage of transition. I mean, I feel like I'm ready for this, and so does she (we're both ridiculously over-the-top infatuated with each other). This is the first relationship both of us had where we can be ourselves 100%. It's kind of a beautiful thing.
I know that the MTF-FTM pair-up is more common than I first realized when going into this, but I've never heard of two people meeting at the start of transitioning and going through the changes together. I'm sure it happens, but I've never seen it personally, and I'm not familiar with the dynamic. It sounds potentially volatile, but we both seem to have stable heads on our shoulders. ;)
Just looking for some advice. Love you guys.
Congratulations :) I'd go for it, if you love each other why deny yourselves happiness. May you both find love and comfort with each other.
Go for it.
One of the best parts about transitioning togather is that Sevan and I get to share our second puberty with each other.
In many ways it is like we are growing up togather.
That sounds like an amazing situation to be in to me! There will be absolutely no issues with misunderstanding, and you will be able to support each other through the tough times to come.
Through a friend of mine, I met a couple who were both bisexual FtMs. They had dated when still presenting as female and then gone through transition together.
Go for it! It's just like a relationship with any other person; there's a connection and some personal stuff the two of you share and it may or may not work out. The only way to find out if it'll work is to try. If nothing else happens, the two of you could be great friends.
It sounds great. Be on guard for drama, of course, but I think you know your possible weaknesses. The fact that you wonder means you're probably okay. Enjoy the connection.
A TRUE LOVE STORY GROWING HERE ;D
I don't think it should matter if you enter a relationship at the beginning or the end of transition. If you guys love each other you can work through what ever comes your way. Finding someone you can share your life with is a wonderful thing.
Hey mechakitty,
I actually can relate to your story pretty well. My current partner, who is FtM, and I met at our University's "Queer Gala" (a gross misuse of the term if you saw what went on there), and I meet this lovely person who is biologically female. We meet up the next week, and after a few more weeks, we started dating. Over summer, my partner came out to me and told me that he was actually male, though still pre-transition. I told him that I've been having my own doubts, and ever since, we have been helping each other out through this process. We love each other very much, and we look forward to having a long time with each other. Unfortunately, I am only out to one person besides my boyfriend, and waiting until I am more certain, and he is only out to a few people.
So, if anything, I think that it's very fortunate that you have someone who is also potentially transgender. If you two can get along, than that is all the better! I wish both of you the best of luck!
Vi