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Are you attracted to the opposite sex? Meaning the opposite of your prefered gender.

What's the story? ;D

My story:   :D

Most of my life I considered myself a bisexual girl who preferred men. 

Now I identify as genderqueer and call myself a lesbian.  I wouldn't rule out men 100%, but I don't find them very attractive anymore and most definitely prefer women.  My girlfriend is pre-operative MtF.  I absolutely, definitely cannot wait for her to fully transition, but for the time being I'm pretty okay with what physical attributes she has.

Sorry if my story didn't fully coincide with what I voted as on your poll.   :P

I voted as bi, but I was mostly straight as a girl and I'm mostly gay as a boy.

Was a gay male.  Now a gay female.  Sometimes things happen.

Quote from: Wonderdyke on October 16, 2011, 11:53:08 PM
Was a gay male.  Now a gay female.  Sometimes things happen.

Ugh...... I don't think I would want to change to a lesbian. I enjoy liking guys.

Technically I am pansexual but I find that word is beyond society's very limited comprehension. I simplify and term myself bi.

Fiona,

You've lost me. But I'm having fun.
If you change the first No to Yes, I can vote; otherwise there is other option for me.
I've always know I was a girl/woman, and I've always liked men. Although I do have a minor biological error that is being corrected. I present as a male.

Have fun
Lotsa luv
Catherine

Quote from: CatherineSarah on October 17, 2011, 12:42:23 AM
Fiona,

You've lost me. But I'm having fun.
If you change the first No to Yes, I can vote; otherwise there is other option for me.
I've always know I was a girl/woman, and I've always liked men. Although I do have a minor biological error that is being corrected. I present as a male.

Have fun
Lotsa luv
Catherine

It's confusiingly worded. I'm not sure if i got it right. I was trying to make it understandable no matter what you consider straight or gay is.

I could have said....Fromt the position of your biological birth gender, are you gay , straight or bi?

But that probably might have caused trouble. Or maybe not. Does anyone think that would have been a better way to put it?

I am pansexual but there was so selection for that so I picked "Bi"

Fiona,

Believe me, it is a great question. You simply need to minimise the reponses for greater clarification. The only possible answers could be (1) Yes (2) No & (3) I'm Bi. Don't confuse it with the act of transitioning, and you'll be right.

Arrrh the joys of grammatical syntax. Leaves you wondering for a lifetime of whether it was actually a gerund or gerundive you ran into.

Lotsa luv
Catherine

Quote from: CatherineSarah on October 17, 2011, 01:31:36 AM
Fiona,

Believe me, it is a great question. You simply need to minimise the reponses for greater clarification. The only possible answers could be (1) Yes (2) No & (3) I'm Bi. Don't confuse it with the act of transitioning, and you'll be right.

but that would leave it open to interpretation. It's more accurate the way i worded it

In all honesty I prefer women and ftm's. It's a psychological thing, I find straight cis men crazy and gay cis men even crazier.

I was, am, and will forever be strictly dickly. >:-)

I think it would be easier if you phrased it without using gay and straight as it makes it difficult to answer. Using "attracted to women" and "attracted to men" would be easier. I got what you were going for and voted for your third option, but really I've always been a gay girl - straight before transition implies I was a bloke, which I wasn't.

Quote from: Sarah7 on October 17, 2011, 02:28:43 PM
I think it would be easier if you phrased it without using gay and straight as it makes it difficult to answer. Using "attracted to women" and "attracted to men" would be easier. I got what you were going for and voted for your third option, but really I've always been a gay girl - straight before transition implies I was a bloke, which I wasn't.

*groan*

That's exactly the type of discrepency I was trying to avoid! :police:

Quote from: Sarah7 on October 17, 2011, 02:28:43 PM
I think it would be easier if you phrased it without using gay and straight as it makes it difficult to answer. Using "attracted to women" and "attracted to men" would be easier. I got what you were going for and voted for your third option, but really I've always been a gay girl - straight before transition implies I was a bloke, which I wasn't.

yeah i was thinking something similar.

I'd have to make one for the girls and one for the boys and then say, are you attractedt to men or to women.

Sounds like a good plan, fionabell.  Just don't forget the androgyne/genderqueer/non-binary people.  We matter, too.   ;)

Was gay before. Now heteroflexible. I prefer men though and will take a man over a woman.

Quote from: Wonderdyke on October 16, 2011, 11:53:08 PM
Was a gay male.  Now a gay female.  Sometimes things happen.

+1

That is awesome. I've seen plenty of my gay friends switch sides. Pretty cool when they decide the grass is greener on the dykier side.

I was a gay guy before transition.. And now? That's a question I've not yet been able to answer..

the problem with men is, they have no staying power.

What's with this sex once crap? I like boys but i wish they'd like me!!! I need some stablity

Quote from: fionabell on October 18, 2011, 01:26:31 AM
the problem with men is, they have no staying power.

What's with this sex once crap? I like boys but i wish they'd like me!!! I need some stablity

Men are like eye primer, they need powder to stick and then some eye brightening cream to keep them there.

Apart from a period when I questioned my sexuality, and then realised the problem was actually gender, I had always regarded myself as a heterosexual male.  Now having straightened   :laugh: things out  I realise  I am just a big lezzo!

Karen.

Quote from: fionabell on October 18, 2011, 01:26:31 AM
the problem with men is, they have no staying power.

What's with this sex once crap? I like boys but i wish they'd like me!!! I need some stablity

Ive been with the same guy since last March.

I dont really think I can say "before since I knew I where trans before I knew about my sexual orientation"

I call myself Bisexual, I guess I mainly find men attractive but I also find women attractive somethimes and also been in love with female people,
I guess my sexualety is pretty fluent I dont really care so much whatever or not I find someone attractive and what it will make me.
only thing have been I feel attracted diffently to women than to men, and it have leaved me in wonders if I am gay 100% of times,
one if for sure then its that I aint straight.

Quote from: fionabell on October 18, 2011, 01:26:31 AM
the problem with men is, they have no staying power.

What's with this sex once crap? I like boys but i wish they'd like me!!! I need some stablity

I kinda wonder how to be so,
I cant make bondings to people even if I want to..

I grew up liking other girls, but now I'm technically pansexual. I still prefer girls emotionally though and can only see myself in a long-term relationship with another girl, cis or trans.  :P Some boys are really hot, I admit ...but I'm concerned I'd only want them for sex. It would take a truly exceptionally romantic guy to 'open my eyes'  and make me re-access things :) ...Because, I really do feel that the girlxgirl bond is infinitely stronger and more intimate. *shrugs*

A lot of people are bi/pan/poly

I'd say bisexual but leaning more towards men. I don't think I can imagine having a really serious relationship with another woman, but on the other hand I've never had the opportunity to try. I definitely am not ruling out any possibilities. Also I haven't gone on HRT or anything yet, so that might make some changes. Not too sure yet.

Quote from: Fighter Sadie on October 19, 2011, 07:23:27 AM
I'd say bisexual but leaning more towards men. I don't think I can imagine having a really serious relationship with another woman, but on the other hand I've never had the opportunity to try. I definitely am not ruling out any possibilities. Also I haven't gone on HRT or anything yet, so that might make some changes. Not too sure yet.

I thought I was a straight girl.. then I started HRT and now I have no idea..  :laugh:

Pre-transition, I was into women exclusively. After transition, I lived as a lesbian for a while and then just before my surgery I came out as bi. Now I'm about 70% straight/30% lez, so you could say my orientation has switched partway. But I'm not straight per se so I can't really answer the poll.

You would think a female-female relationship would be more intimate than a het one but that's not always the case. Lesbian Bed Death can leave a gal feeling left out in the cold. :(

Pre-transition, I identified as a lesbian, not because I didn't find men attractive (I did) but because men (obviously) treated me like a woman and I hated that. If I was with a woman instead of a man, then the whole "gender roles" thing didn't get in the way as much.

Now that I'm transitioning, I identify as pansexual but am much more attracted to men (cis or trans, doesn't matter to me) than to women. I think part of my lessened attraction to women is from resenting my still-somewhat-female body, the other part of it could be hormonal but I don't know. So I'm basically 90% gay and 10% whatever.  ;D

Attracted to women before transition. Even more attracted to them now.

Some of that may have to do with a life long tendency to be attracted to unavailable straight women.
They still may be unavailable, but it's fun to flirt with them.

it's a difficult one for me to answer because I mostly like guys (which to me is gay but others around me see me as a straight girl as I have not began transitioning yet) but occasionally I like girls too. see I don't consider that bi as the term bisexual generally reffers to the attraction to cis females and cis males.

yes I am attracted to people from all walks of life whether they are cis, bigendered, transgendered, hamephradite or any other gender. all that really matters to me is personality.

this is called pansexual.

it just so happens most the people I am attracted to are male (cis or otherwise) which I guess makes me mostly gay, but because of my occasional female crushes I am what is known as pansexual.

I was going to put that I liked beasts just to be a noodge, but I decided to be truthful and go with #3.  8)

Hey jakey, "intersex" is really a better word than "hermaphrodite."

I had to learn a bunch of new words when I came out, so I'm not dogging you.

Quote from: Felix on November 10, 2011, 06:44:55 PM
Hey jakey, "intersex" is really a better word than "hermaphrodite."

I had to learn a bunch of new words when I came out, so I'm not dogging you.

eep sorry I really didn't know I hope I didn't offend anyone that was not my intentions -__-

I haven't so much medically transitioned in the traditional sense, but before I socially transitioned I considered myself a dyke. Now I still identify in part as a dyke, but I've accepted I am attracted to men, women and non-binary people. I identify as queer. Gay/straight doesn't really work out for me as a kinda genderfluid guy dating a genderqueer dyke. Some times we're straight-but-doing-it-wrong, other days we're dykes, others we're gay boys, but always queer.

I basically only like other trans but it didn't register my vote. ???   OPPS IT DID  ;D

Oh before i got rid of testosterone i liked girls but that wasn't the real me anyway. I was under the influence of my testes after puberty.

I am an almost 14 yr post op virgin who has been involved in other things than sex. i have grown and matured very much.

These days i just think about a platonic soulmate either a trans man or trans womyn to share life at my farm 

I'm asexual. I thought I was aromantic, but I realized that I think that might just come from a lack of confidence. Now I'm not sure, but leaning towards a combination of aromantic and heteroromantic.

I'm bisexual, but I only realized that once I started accepting who I really was. If I ever get to transition, who knows what will happen.

Always been more attracted to women. :3

I went both ways (as in allowed) as a Teen, but could not get release until hormone therapy woke the inner beast. All my teens and early 20s my sensual preference was entirely case by case and my sexual preference was a non entity, if I liked someone enough they could talk me into it. 

Been with a guy for four years, lately due to living with parents and insane work weeks have cut into it, but I can't complain. 

Always was more attracted to women, married one, and am totally dedicated to her.

C -

Before I came out to myself, I thought I was a straight male; and for almost two years after coming out to myself, I thought I was a gay female. Then, less than two months ago, a guy walked into my place of business, and ... Shazam! No one could have been more surprised than I was. Since then, I've experienced it with other guys; so, I think it's probably something that's been there all along, but deeply repressed.

I still find women attractive, but, thus far, the nature of the attraction is different. With women, it's more physical; with men, it's more emotional. It makes me wonder how much of sexual attraction is nurture vs. nature. I'm guessing there's some of both, and that the balance of the two in any given person is highly variable, i.e., with some people, it's mostly nature, while with others nature is less demanding.

So, I suppose I'm bi -- or, more accurately, pansexual. I have a vague suspicion that, if I had been raised as the girl I was, I might only be attracted to men; but that's water under the bridge, at least so far. What's weird -- as if all this weren't enough -- is that, a few months ago, the notion of being married to a man was impossible; now, I can see it. I'm not looking for it, but it's no longer a fantastic notion. It seems as though, as my femininity emerges, my needs as a woman are expressing themselves more fully, in a more well-rounded fashion. It's actually very welcome.

Quote from: supremecatoverlord on November 20, 2011, 09:59:57 PM
Always been more attracted to women. :3

I love your avatar!

Quote from: Ann W on April 16, 2019, 07:41:50 AMI thought I was a straight male . . . I thought I was a gay female. Then, less than two months ago, a guy walked into my place of business

This 'ole poll is just like something I'd post: 'bout as clear as mud! Explanation always needed yet not only didn't the OP help but the bias toward "LGBT" confusion seems obvious . . .

Main question: Are you attracted to the opposite sex? but:

Answer #1: yes. before I transitioned I was attracted to the same sex. meaning?
as an always MtoF I like(d) "women"? OR as a former M I always liked "guys"? Worse is:

Answer #2: yes. But before i transitioned I was straight. I've changed with the transition.meaning?
First part easy enough (I suppose?) but what "changed"? Your gender? OR Orientation? OR BOTH?
At great risk of needing to "explain" I'd 'ave to go with:
Answer #3: no. I was straight before the transition and kept my preference the same. except: The true answer to "main question" would be "yes" and "preference" would still be . . . (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fcowetasolar.net%2Fimages%2Fmoresmilies%2Ffrusty.gif&hash=db01f34584514932972f3e1feb9a375d3dcb0100)STRAIGHT (as in "opposite sex")?

Answer #6: I'm bi is my backup plan (and, if needs be, am sticking to it how can one go wrong?)

. . . the nature of the attraction is different. With women, it's more physical; with men, it's more emotional. It makes me wonder how much of sexual attraction is nurture vs. nature

Quote from: Chloe on April 10, 2019, 10:34:29 AM
         (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fcowetasolar.net%2Fimages%2Fmoresmilies%2Fwhoo.gif&hash=b2c854b6ae33b99f34118660e9679ca58804ba3e)IMHO this is correct, @Dieland I posted a more lengthy reply elsewhere but think about it -> unlike male-based "first experiences" enjoying heterosexual sex as a woman does not come so naturally, takes some getting used to is otherwise "learned".

Not to complain but those answers are phrased in such a way that I can't figure out how to respond in the poll. Although I legit misread "beasts" as "breasts" so that says it all! I've transitioned to male/nb, I'm afab and consider myself a woman, although I don't think I have a gender per se. I'm only attracted to other afab's, which I see as an attraction to the same sex, irregardless of gender (both mine and others gender), and the label I go by is lesbian. Which is accurate for me both pre- and post transition. To simplify it I just say I'm a woman who's only attracted to other women.

My sexual orientation never changed, but I mistakenly thought I was bisexual until last year. Compulsive heterosexuality (comphet), sexual traumas and internalised homophobia kept me in denial of my attraction to the same sex as well as my lack of attraction to the opposite sex, for most of my life. But I was, despite how many men I was with and thought I was into without feeling any actual spark, always a lesbian.

Was gay before and now I am straight.

Was straight before and now I am lesbian!