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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Female to male transsexual talk (FTM) => Topic started by: nickm1492 on November 01, 2011, 09:25:41 PM

Title: Acceptance is spectacular!
Post by: nickm1492 on November 01, 2011, 09:25:41 PM
Today I finally decided to tell my mom I am for sure FTM. (I told her a while ago and quickly took it back. And have basically been struggling with things ever since) I am lucky enough to have an amazing fiancee who has switched pronouns/names for me and is being 2000% supportive. But I needed to tell my mom because 1. She is my best friend. 2. She is the only one who could help me transition. I'm almost 20 but I live with her and go to school full time so I don't work.
Basically I wrote her a LONG letter. She wasn't around me the rest of the day because I was in my room. But at night she came in and kneeled in front of me. She told me this changes nothing. She always knew! (I remember a long time ago she asked me if I was like Chaz -_-) And she would always joke I was the son she never had. She said that she is going to try really hard to get me on her insurance now and we are going to find a doctor and start the transition! I am SO excited! I thought it would be years before this happened and now I can start my life...It's amazing. I know I'll have support from my sis and my grandma...So basically everyone on this Earth that matters to me will accept me.
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Post by: Zach R on November 01, 2011, 09:32:50 PM
That is awesome!  Congratulations.
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Post by: Darrin Scott on November 01, 2011, 09:33:32 PM
Congrats!!!
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Post by: nickm1492 on November 01, 2011, 09:34:15 PM
Thank you so much! LOL She even said I can stop shaving and stuff.
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Post by: Wesley_33 on November 01, 2011, 10:12:08 PM
 ;D Thats great new man. So happy for you taking that step and it going so well.
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Post by: wheat thins are delicious on November 02, 2011, 12:38:22 AM
Congrats

Quote from: Nick on November 01, 2011, 09:34:15 PM
She even said I can stop shaving and stuff.

It's weird that you are 20 and needed her permission for that.
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Post by: Felix on November 02, 2011, 01:42:06 AM
Oh wow I'm so happy for you.
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Post by: bojangles on November 02, 2011, 11:27:43 AM
Awesome. Glad to hear it.
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Post by: Ayden on November 02, 2011, 12:25:59 PM
Congrats! I am glad you have support.
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Post by: Robert Scott on November 02, 2011, 12:50:33 PM
That is great!  Always nice to have family support

As for insurance -- if your in the USA -- federal mandate -- your mom can cover you until age 26 unless you are employed and your employer offers insurance
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Post by: JenJen2011 on November 02, 2011, 01:05:03 PM
That's awesome! I started when I was 19 as well. :)
Title: Re: Acceptance is spectacular!
Post by: nickm1492 on November 02, 2011, 01:18:51 PM
Quote from: JenJen2011 on November 02, 2011, 01:05:03 PM
That's awesome! I started when I was 19 as well. :)

Wow, you look very beautiful!You pass so well!

Oh and thanks to everyone for your kindess! :)
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Post by: JenJen2011 on November 02, 2011, 01:20:47 PM
Quote from: Nick on November 02, 2011, 01:18:51 PM
Wow, you look very beautiful!You pass so well!

Aww thanks Nick.
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Post by: Banf on November 02, 2011, 02:19:31 PM
That is all round awesome, Nick! Everything goes way smoother when you have loved ones on board, even the 'bad' stuff. :)
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Post by: nickm1492 on November 02, 2011, 02:40:17 PM
Quote from: Banf on November 02, 2011, 02:19:31 PM
That is all round awesome, Nick! Everything goes way smoother when you have loved ones on board, even the 'bad' stuff. :)
DEFINITELY agree with you on that. I figure the "bad" stuff never really goes away. T and surgery aren't magic wands in a sense that make everything go away lol
That's honestly why I think I am ready for this. The fact that I can accept all the "bad" and learn from it. Knowing that everyone is on board is just a very huge plus!
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Post by: Noah James on November 02, 2011, 08:49:48 PM
Nick, that's epic! The "bad" stuff might never go away, but when you've got family on your side, it gets a whole lot easier. Congrats, man!  ;D
Title: Re: Acceptance is spectacular!
Post by: nickm1492 on November 02, 2011, 10:53:13 PM
Quote from: Noah James on November 02, 2011, 08:49:48 PM
Nick, that's epic! The "bad" stuff might never go away, but when you've got family on your side, it gets a whole lot easier. Congrats, man!  ;D
Yep! :) Thanks so much for the super sweet comment
Title: Re: Acceptance is spectacular!
Post by: Jen-Jen on November 03, 2011, 12:12:14 AM
That is truly awesome! Congrats!