I just had an interview for a part time nanny position to care for a 4 and a 2.5 year old kid and my own daughter would come along too.
I was breaking my head over when, and if I come out to the parents. So we got to know each other a little bit while hanging out with the kids. Eventually the mother wanted to show me the rest of their house and she showed me some music books and some of it was church music. She then explained they are Later Day Saints. I was at this point really breaking into sweat as to how to approach my situation especially since the interview went so far fairly well.
Then I just stated that in case they have moral or ethical objections I need them to know I wasn't born a woman. There was not a blink of an eye upon hearing this. She just stated they don't care about that and they accept people for who they are and don't judge. I have to say a little earlier during conversation she asked me who gave birth to my daughter, me or my partner. It came up that my daughter has another mom.
So whether this job works out for me or not I was just so touched by the reception of these people who are after all considering to give their 2 children in my trust. This is a huge boost for my confidence as well as believe in good in people out there. For anyone who has been discriminated against, which does include me as well, there is a hope people, just hang in there and be yourself!
Did you get the job? Because alot of times, that kind of reaction is totally false. If they told you what they really thought, it might get ugly - so they say something innocuous.
I won't know if I got the job for few weeks as they are still in the process of interviewing other nannies.
They told me that before I came out!
The reason I was so nervous to come out was that I thought they might just through me out of their house.
But their attitudes didn't change at all after I came out. The mother is professional doula and midwife assistant and we went on to share child birth experience and such. My daughter's mom had our baby at home and so did she with their second child and we were comparing the hospital versus the home birth experience. We were really resonating in some ways. We then went on to socialize with the kids a little bit more as they want me to promote German language in their household. The father has German and Dutch roots so they all in his family kept up with the language and they wish the kids keep that cultural background too.
If I don't get the job I am very much convinced they found someone more adequate than me in regards to experience rather than based on my trans status. This nanny job is a long shot for me as I don't have any experience with that young children besides my own one of course, but that is always a little different.
I know what you mean with they may have been just polite but I was sniffing really hard for any signs of that and there was really none. On the other hand even if they felt a bit uncomfortable they were considerate people and didn't show me the door after my coming out. I stayed for another hour after that. But really, all I ask for is to not to be treated differently all the sudden or as less than a human after my coming out which so didn't happen. I've experienced the opposite by the way too, so I have something to compare it with!
I talked to the lady and I decided that this wasn't gonna work out for me because my daughter is on completely different schedule than her children.
She responded nicely, thanking me for coming over and how she understands this issue.
So, I will be still looking for a job but I really just wanted to share this nice experience with all of you
because there is a lot of negative experience for the Trans folks out there. But there is hope and there are still good people out there!
Personally I gained a lot of self confidence and feel rather secure about just being myself for the future occasions.
I am not forgetting that it can always go the opposite way around but I am not letting that discourage me.
Yeah, not all Mormons hate trans* people. (I'm Mormon and have some trans* friends who are active Mormons as well.)
I didn't particularly think that Mormons are generally speaking Transphobes. However when the lady mentioned her religious background I was concerned about her acceptance.
Having said that I have also been surprised by religious people's acceptance in the past as well as the atheists prejudice! So! you go figure.