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Title: unhealthy crushes
Post by: anibioman on November 17, 2011, 09:51:03 AM
ive had a few unhealthy crushes lately i currently have a crush on my teacher she is really really pretty, shes smart, educated, funny, its really annoying because its never ever gonna happen.

she has red hair, dyed, its cool. i used to think its weird but its pretty, i like it. shes really cool and we like a lot of the same things.
Title: Re: unhealthy crushes
Post by: JenJen2011 on November 17, 2011, 10:00:54 AM
Awww... I've had crushes on teachers before. It sucks when you can't have what you want.
Title: Re: unhealthy crushes
Post by: Sharky on November 17, 2011, 10:48:02 AM
It happens. Whys it unhealthy?
I never had an attractive teacher. All mine were super frumpy.
Title: Re: unhealthy crushes
Post by: Ayden on November 17, 2011, 11:05:02 AM
I think it is pretty normal to have crushes on teachers. I had a few when I was younger. Don't let it get ya down. I don't think you can really classify anything that you feel as unhealthy if it is non-destructive.
Title: Re: unhealthy crushes
Post by: N.Chaos on November 17, 2011, 12:04:19 PM
^ Same here. I had a huuuge thing for my 7th and 8th grade English teacher, who was this 6ft 5 Star Wars fanatic. As long as it doesn't turn into a full-blown obsesion, I don't think its a problem.
Title: Re: unhealthy crushes
Post by: he who shall not be named on November 17, 2011, 01:19:26 PM
awwwww. I don't think crushes on a teacher are unhealthy. A relationship might be tho, depending, but crushes alone are pretty harmless. I had a thing for my old Spanish TA -- dude was hilarious in this bitchy, snarky way and wore tight shirts. :D

I'm taking spanish next quarter and I'm specifically signing up for his section. If I don't get in I'll attend his section anyway, it's allowed. /no shame
Title: Re: unhealthy crushes
Post by: Lee on November 17, 2011, 01:47:00 PM
Nothing wrong with that.  I used to go salsa dancing with my really hot philosophy TA.  He was a damn good dancer. :)
Title: Re: unhealthy crushes
Post by: Adio on November 17, 2011, 02:55:28 PM
I agree with the others.  Crushing on a teacher is fairly common and having fantasies aren't (usually) unhealthy unless they start to consume your life.

I also had a crush on a couple of my teachers.  One I even flirted with nearly every class.  Pretty sure he knew I liked him, but he was married and presumably straight.  But I had fun teasing him and getting the same in return.  This was in college, though. 
Title: Re: unhealthy crushes
Post by: anibioman on November 17, 2011, 05:05:02 PM
ok maybe its not a unhealthy crush but it really is annoying also since im home schooled we are alone 2 times a week for hours which can make me kinda uncomfortable. im just kinda happy for the first time that i dont have a dick because that would be super duper awkward.
Title: Re: unhealthy crushes
Post by: InstantRamen on November 17, 2011, 05:37:19 PM
ahh like others have said, its not unhealthy, its nothin to really worry about. i had a similar situation a couple years ago too, kinda similar to cornhobbles xD
had an amazingggg Spanish teacher; only 2 yrs of language were required for my high school, went the extra mile and signed up for the third year just cause i knew she was teaching that class.   ;D
Title: Re: unhealthy crushes
Post by: Sharky on November 17, 2011, 06:02:37 PM
You just jogged my memory.

I'm dyslexic and I had a special class with a woman, just me and her alone, who was supposed to be teaching me to write and spell. She showed up this one time in a dress that had a...peep hole? I don't know what you would call it, and she had a ton of cleave.

Me:  :eusa_drool:
Lady: Why do you keep staring?
Me: :icon_omfg:  silent pause that seemed to last forever
Lady: Can't put your finger on it?
Me:  :icon_eek:
Lady: So you know somethings different about me, but you can't figure it out...
Me:  Yeah :icon_nervious: ...
Lady: I got contacts!!!
Me: Oh!!! :icon_twisted:  didn't even know she had glasses

I glued my eyes to my workbook for the rest of the session.
Title: Re: unhealthy crushes
Post by: xxUltraModLadyxx on November 17, 2011, 06:10:43 PM
i've experienced that before, but i did get over them with time. you'll always find someone new to crush on, it's just how you explore your sexuality. even if it was going to happen, it could always turn out to be a kim kardashian style marriage, so it really is fine to have the occassional crush as what it would be in real life and what it is in your mind are two different things.
Title: Re: unhealthy crushes
Post by: Squirrel698 on November 17, 2011, 06:42:36 PM
Yeah I'm in the middle of one right now.  With a homophobic guy I know.  He's charming and funny but really kind of a jerk.  It's gone on so long without any satisfaction on either side.  I think we are starting to hate each other which is not good at all.

Title: Re: unhealthy crushes
Post by: Darrin Scott on November 17, 2011, 08:23:26 PM
I had a crush on my 2nd grade teacher.....before I knew what that even was.....
Title: Re: unhealthy crushes
Post by: Kentrie on November 17, 2011, 08:43:38 PM
In 4th grade I had a crush on a substitute teacher and I went up to talk to her about my math workbook and was playing with the stapler while talking to her cause that's how I flirt, I always play with stuff and I almost stapled my fingers together.
Title: Re: unhealthy crushes
Post by: Kyle_S on November 17, 2011, 08:48:44 PM
Teachers are normal crushes. We spend a lot of time around them in our young, impressionable years. So yeah. haha. My first actual crush crush was on my grade 6 home room. I thought she was sooooo hot. Lol.

The worst crushes to have, in my opinion, are ones on friends. Especially if your crush is not interested in your "bio-sex", and can't get past it.

One of my best friends and I flirt all the time. She treats me primarily male, but she told me I was her "butchy-chook" when I discussed transition with her  for the first time over 2 years ago.

On the plus, I spose, she seemed excited when we talked about testosterone a few months ago, and asked if I'd grow a dick  :laugh:

As much as I like her, she prob wouldn't be with me anyway  :icon_shrug_no:
Title: Re: unhealthy crushes
Post by: Kreuzfidel on November 17, 2011, 09:52:08 PM
Wouldn't know.  All my crushes have been healthy :p
Title: Re: unhealthy crushes
Post by: Felix on November 17, 2011, 10:34:56 PM
Personally, I very much enjoy getting crushes on people.  :)

I can relate on the proximity discomfort - my daughter's therapist comes to our house to work on family dynamics sometimes, and she's beautiful and tough and smart and she smells good and omg. I had a crush on her for a few months awhile back. I still think it was a pretty nice way to be uncomfortable. ;D
Title: Re: unhealthy crushes
Post by: MarinaM on November 18, 2011, 12:01:09 AM
I get unhealthy crushes and healthy crushes. I LOVE falling all over myself for somebody. I'm a poet of some kind, what do you expect from me?

My last unhealthy crush was bad, real bad, bad bad bad. It was mutual and we knew it, she made me a drunk for two weeks straight and I ended up blocking out her name. I seriously can't remember her name... Bad. I wrote her a love poem that has been called amazing by my two best friends that read it, I even gave it to her in a purge when I decided things were not gonna work. She had just turned 18, and I was in the middle of the big split. I won't post the poem here because that's inappropriate.

TMI? Probably.
Title: Re: unhealthy crushes
Post by: PixieBoy on November 18, 2011, 12:25:03 AM
I have a mild crush on my science teacher, she's really pretty, always cheerful, and a great teacher. She's also buzzed half of her head, which certainly adds to her good looks (I'm a sucker for women with really short hair).

My crushes were always obsessions. I would try to find out the name of my crush's perfume so that I could buy it and smell like them every day. I would feel euphoria if they accidentally brushed against me in the cafeterie queue in school. A smile, a laugh, the way their hair moved in the wind would be the things that motivated me to appear in school. It was always unrequited and always that bad. Sometimes I wish I could lose the ability to fall in love, because this obsession is so painful.
Title: Re: unhealthy crushes
Post by: MarinaM on November 18, 2011, 12:40:17 AM
Quote from: PixieBoy on November 18, 2011, 12:25:03 AM
I have a mild crush on my science teacher, she's really pretty, always cheerful, and a great teacher. She's also buzzed half of her head, which certainly adds to her good looks (I'm a sucker for women with really short hair).

My crushes were always obsessions. I would try to find out the name of my crush's perfume so that I could buy it and smell like them every day. I would feel euphoria if they accidentally brushed against me in the cafeterie queue in school. A smile, a laugh, the way their hair moved in the wind would be the things that motivated me to appear in school. It was always unrequited and always that bad. Sometimes I wish I could lose the ability to fall in love, because this obsession is so painful.

Ohhhh, and the way they make everything around you stop moving, the way your heart skips a beat if they look your way, if for some reason they say "hi" you stop breathing...

/swoon
Title: Re: unhealthy crushes
Post by: Cody Jensen on November 18, 2011, 01:40:00 AM
Yup. I have a crush on my singing teacher right now actually. It's heck. Well, I told her, and she was all supportive and stuff, she said it's great that I told her and she'd love to be friends, but she's also my teacher.  Today we had a lesson (first time I've seen her since I told her) and she acted like nothing ever happened. So, I totally get it when it sucks wanting someone you can't have.
Title: Re: unhealthy crushes
Post by: _Mango_ on November 18, 2011, 02:00:30 AM
Quote from: Sharky on November 17, 2011, 10:48:02 AM
It happens. Whys it unhealthy?
I never had an attractive teacher. All mine were super frumpy.
bwahahha. I love the word frumpy............ XD
Title: Re: unhealthy crushes
Post by: MarinaM on November 18, 2011, 02:07:50 AM
Maybe you boys should embrace it. It would be totally cute to have somebody tell me this stuff. XD

The day you stop falling in love is a terrible day. (am I intruding?)
Title: Re: unhealthy crushes
Post by: Superrad on November 18, 2011, 05:24:09 AM
Haha, you sound like my best friend. He's very picky with guys but he usually ends up falling for teachers. Unfortunately, I've got a probably unhealthy crush on him. It's not ridiculously so, but I kind of wish it wasn't so dominant in my life. However, having a crush is a nice feeling and I'm in a pretty much ideal spot. I'm pretty happy too. I can long for a little bit more but hey, a guy can dream, yeah?
Title: Re: unhealthy crushes
Post by: Ayden on November 18, 2011, 01:53:25 PM
Emma: When I was younger, I loved the rush I would get from my crushes saying hi to me. I always felt pretty girly during those time, but what can I say? I'm a pretty fem guy. Now the only person I get that rush from is my man, even when he has awful morning breathe. All he has to do is 'mornin' Ayden' and I get all fluttery.

By the way, I love your picture. It's very flattering! :)
Title: Re: unhealthy crushes
Post by: MarinaM on November 18, 2011, 05:44:08 PM
Quote from: Ayden on November 18, 2011, 01:53:25 PM
Emma: When I was younger, I loved the rush I would get from my crushes saying hi to me. I always felt pretty girly during those time, but what can I say? I'm a pretty fem guy. Now the only person I get that rush from is my man, even when he has awful morning breathe. All he has to do is 'mornin' Ayden' and I get all fluttery.

By the way, I love your picture. It's very flattering! :)

XD Thanks! I couldn't be semi masculine tomboy much longer, it was getting to me. Something about "Tebow! " (obscure, huh?)

Anyhow, it's like a drug. An exhausting, insomnia inducing love drug. Makes me lose my sense, and that's okay sometimes. :)
Title: Re: unhealthy crushes
Post by: Sharky on November 18, 2011, 05:56:31 PM
Quote from: _Mango_ on November 18, 2011, 02:00:30 AM
bwahahha. I love the word frumpy............ XD
LOL pretty much all the women at my school were  ;D
Title: Re: unhealthy crushes
Post by: Noah James on November 19, 2011, 10:51:49 AM
Eh, bad crush on this one girl - still getting over it. It's unhealthy in the sense that she's not good for me, though my heart doesn't seem to understand that.   :icon_no:

Never had a crush on a teacher, though. Apparently all the "good looking" teachers are male, so I don't really notice. :P