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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Female to male transsexual talk (FTM) => Topic started by: Felix on November 18, 2011, 05:39:18 PM

Title: oh my gosh I AM SO HAPPY :D
Post by: Felix on November 18, 2011, 05:39:18 PM
I saw the doctor today, and she told me to come back in three weeks with a letter and some bloodwork results, and we can start testosterone injections.

Then I called my therapist, and she said yes let's move this forward. We'll talk next week about how to word the letter.

I talked to my ex boyfriend, and we discussed sex. He's pretty hetero and we agreed a long time ago to taper off and let it go as my body masculinized, so I wanted to make sure he was in the loop.

My daughter is very happy for me. She's happy about most anything that she can tell makes me happy.

I'm thrilled. This is such a relief. I'm okay living without T, but it will be nice not to have to.
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Post by: Ayden on November 18, 2011, 05:42:00 PM
Congrats man! That is exciting! :D
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Post by: JohnAlex on November 18, 2011, 05:47:56 PM
Wow, that's awesome, man! :D

Just curious, what do you mean by you will talk next week about how to "word the letter"?  the letter that your therapist will write?  Do you help write that or something?
I'm just asking because I just started trying to get my letter, and I'm not sure how it works or the process.
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Post by: Sharky on November 18, 2011, 05:54:44 PM
Congrats!!
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Post by: Cody Jensen on November 18, 2011, 06:10:58 PM
Congrats man!!
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Post by: MarinaM on November 18, 2011, 06:11:43 PM
Congratulations! Always excited about forward progress.
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Post by: Constance on November 18, 2011, 06:16:54 PM
Congratulations, brother! It's great that your daughter is behind you, too! It means a lot to me to know that my kids are with me.   ;D
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Post by: Morgan. on November 18, 2011, 06:38:31 PM
Quote from: JohnAlex on November 18, 2011, 05:47:56 PM
Wow, that's awesome, man! :D

Just curious, what do you mean by you will talk next week about how to "word the letter"?  the letter that your therapist will write?  Do you help write that or something?
I'm just asking because I just started trying to get my letter, and I'm not sure how it works or the process.

Not sure if this helps, but when I've had reference letters from my psychologist, usually she will write something and then send it to me beforehand and ask me to read it first and then get back to her if there's anything I need changed, and she will do so. If you find the right sorta person, they're usually more than happy to do what you need them to do specifically without being stubborn. :)

Anyway, congratulations Felix! And it's good to hear that your daughter is over the moon too!! :D
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Post by: Make_It_Good on November 18, 2011, 06:43:53 PM
Thats amazing news!! Im pleased for you! :)
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Post by: Dane on November 18, 2011, 08:08:05 PM
That's awesome news! =D Congrajamulations!
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Post by: Sindo on November 18, 2011, 08:25:20 PM
That is very incredibly awesome! :)
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Post by: Wesley_33 on November 18, 2011, 08:29:31 PM
Does Charlie Chaplin type happy dance. Thats mad sweet man
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Post by: Kreuzfidel on November 18, 2011, 08:33:16 PM
Awesome news, mate!  Well done!
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Post by: Felix on November 18, 2011, 09:27:52 PM
Quote from: JohnAlex on November 18, 2011, 05:47:56 PM
Wow, that's awesome, man! :D

Just curious, what do you mean by you will talk next week about how to "word the letter"?  the letter that your therapist will write?  Do you help write that or something?
I'm just asking because I just started trying to get my letter, and I'm not sure how it works or the process.

My therapist will need to know what information in particular the prescribing doctor is most interested in. She's also kinda just being respectful, and making sure we're on the same page. So yeah, I'll kinda sorta help write the letter, in that we'll discuss it and I'll see the final draft before the doctor does.

The doctor is a colleague of my primary care doc. They have at least a year's worth of charts that list me as transgender, so they don't have super stringent expectations for my letter. They know I'm not ask for T on a whim, and that I'm pretty careful, and that I've been putting off formal transition because I was concerned about whether it was good for my child.

I've been giddy all day.
;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
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Post by: Kyle_S on November 18, 2011, 09:38:45 PM
Congratulations, Felix! You're on your way, and that's wicked awesome :)
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Post by: Darrin Scott on November 18, 2011, 09:41:48 PM
Congrats!!
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Post by: NathanW on November 18, 2011, 09:55:19 PM
Congratulations Felix! :D
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Post by: Felix on November 18, 2011, 11:40:06 PM
Lol before she fell asleep, my daughter asked me if the testosterone would make me as smart as my last boyfriend (he was a musician and mathematician). Lol. Such staggering and insidious sexism. I answered as best I could. A few minutes later she asked if the T would make me have bad table manners like the boys in her class.

This is going to be interesting. ;D
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Post by: Felix on November 18, 2011, 11:40:57 PM
And thanks guys. Nobody irl seems to understand why this is a big deal.
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Post by: Ayden on November 19, 2011, 12:18:47 AM
Just to throw something out there: kids know when their parents are unhappy. I grew up in a very unhappy household, and I was always negatively affected by the relationship between my parents.

I know your daughter has her own issues, but in the end, a happy parent can better raise a happy healthy child. I think your feeling more confident and happy will also affect your daughter's state of mind.
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Post by: Felix on November 19, 2011, 02:20:28 AM
Quote from: Ayden on November 19, 2011, 12:18:47 AM
Just to throw something out there: kids know when their parents are unhappy. I grew up in a very unhappy household, and I was always negatively affected by the relationship between my parents.

I know your daughter has her own issues, but in the end, a happy parent can better raise a happy healthy child. I think your feeling more confident and happy will also affect your daughter's state of mind.

Yes. This. Thank you. I think I wronged her by pretending for so long that her needs were somehow completely separate from my well-being. What we have now, in my household, is a kind of freedom and ease I never realized we'd been missing. She's a great kid with serious problems, and it wasn't noble or useful at all for me to spend all my time trying to pass as female. It just distracted me from raising her. She'll still have a weird upbringing, but now at least it's honest.
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Post by: bojangles on November 19, 2011, 10:54:08 AM
Awesome. Congrats.
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Post by: Moonferret on November 19, 2011, 11:15:26 AM
Congratz dude! Hope all goes well for you :)
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Post by: beyondlabels on November 19, 2011, 11:38:58 AM
I am very happy for yoU!!!
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Post by: Felix on November 19, 2011, 01:16:30 PM
 ;D We had an official testosterone party yesterday. We went and got cheap soda and microwave pad thai and played happy music. She asked me lots of questions. We danced around and cooked and cleaned. Pure silly.
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Post by: JohnAlex on November 19, 2011, 03:41:50 PM
Quote from: Felix on November 19, 2011, 01:16:30 PM;D We had an official testosterone party yesterday. We went and got cheap soda and microwave pad thai and played happy music. She asked me lots of questions. We danced around and cooked and cleaned. Pure silly.

Oh wow, that's awesome! :D   that's a great idea.
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Post by: Constance on November 19, 2011, 04:54:46 PM
Quote from: Felix on November 19, 2011, 01:16:30 PM
;D We had an official testosterone party yesterday. We went and got cheap soda and microwave pad thai and played happy music. She asked me lots of questions. We danced around and cooked and cleaned. Pure silly.
This is, in fact, made of win!
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Post by: Aintza on November 19, 2011, 05:09:47 PM
Congratulations!!!
You are lucky because of the T and because your little daughter is supporting you.