I recently moved back east, from which I have been gone two years, and I've been seeing my friends here again. They've asked some questions about my genitals, and if I'd show them my junk. I'm not exactly surprised but I'm tired of fumbling words around. To a friend I just made I said it was my business, and explained more in-depth what happens on HRT to a closer friend. How do you guys deal with these questions and inquiries? I just haven't been around people in so long and I seem to find myself at a loss for words. Thanks.
"I'll show you mine if you show me yours."
To me, that sounds really invasive and kind of rude. You haven't seen your friends for 2 years and they're asking to see your junk? Did you show them your stuff before? If not..it's really none of their business unless that's just something you and your friends do together.
Thankfully, I haven't gotten too many of these questions. We probably wouldn't stay friends for long if this was a common topic of conversation. "Google it" would probably be a good answer.
i dont really think its all that rude just a bit forward and their just curious. one of my friends asked me how i have sex. i told her that its between me and the people i have sex with because i really had no idea what to say. plus im not having sex with anyone i really dont know how to.
I was thinking about that not too long ago and I figured, if I'd get the question, I'd tell them that:
Not long before I started HRT, there was this amazing invention, it's called the World Wide Web, or Internet as some might call it. And even more amazing than this Internet is this page named Google and if you type something and click search, it will magically show you everything you will ever want to know, everything you never thought you wanted to know and everything you'd never want to know. Maybe Google has the answer they're looking for.
It's your junk, your junk is nobody's business.
http://lmgtfy.com/ (http://lmgtfy.com/)
Give them this link ;D
Let me also add... Its not cool to ask anyone else to see their junk why is it ok to ask you? I mean I don't go around asking my bio guy friends to see their junk to compair. I don't understand why people think its ok to ask us like we are a science project or something. Just tell your friends that whatever info they want the net has and than some. Explain that you aren't ok with them asking you and tell them you have limits on things like that. If they can't get it than maybe they shouldn't be a friend.
I've just told people that taking testosterone makes you grow a penis. It's true. Then I told them that surgery just made me able to pee through it like a regular penis. End of story. They don't need to see. If they are that nosy, they can google it themselves. After all, that's what we all did!! They can go to x-tube and look.
Yeah, though, it's rude.
Jay
If you're lucky enough for a :police: to be nearby, say you need to see theirs first. Getting cited for indecent exposure might make them think twice about asking such a question again.
If you're not so lucky, still say they have to go first. Then start getting your phone ready to take a pic, whether you actually do or not. When they protest it's private, say yours is too.
I always want to say "I only tell people what's in my pants if they're getting in" but usually end up explaining the changes. Tell them about the magical website for all questions...Google.
Makes me kinda want to pack more so I can show them my packer ;D Than I will always win in the whos bigger contest.
People actually ask to see your junk? Wow ... that's very like, 6 years old of them.
Yeah, my friends are all just very sexual and hormonal. When I lived there before and actually had contact with groups of people I was sort of that way too. It's just confusing. And yeah, slightly offensive to me. I'll see how things go in the future. Also, I have this drive to be a stew of information and I like to teach people things, so it's hard to know what to say. I haven't told anyone my size or anything, but I've had quite a few friends ask to see my junk/my bare body. Wow man. That sounds messed up typing that. Dammit. I just blew out the power.
but the google thing. that sounds good, thanks!
I've never really had an experience with a question similar to this that upset/irritated me. I have two close friends and a girlfriend, and my girlfriend is quite aware of the changes I experience in terms of my junk. But my friends are quite polite and have genuine interest in asking me questions about my transition. I've only been asked once really about this sort of thing by them. :)
As for your friends though, I think that's out of line. If someone asked me with that mannerism something tells me I'd be pretty pissed off.
I just tell people I don't know well that the question is inappropriate to ask, they usually drop it at that. With my friends I'm fairly straight up with them but vague, I'm not going to give them all the details because it's not something that they need to know or that I'm comfortable with sharing. Usually letting them know this makes them stop and be respectful, a lot of the time they're genuinely curious and don't realize how awkward and offensive the subject is to bring up.
hmm if people ask, it depends,
normally I say I just got a vegina but homones also gave me a small dick, kinda straightforward.
somethimes I say its non of peoples business and just go like "well, how would you answer me if I asked in details for your penis?"
or say its a privat matter I only tell people I wanna have sex with.
somethimes I say im hamofrodite down there, or that I got same size penis as lady gaga, and then there like
"she dosent have a penis"
and im like "yeah I stole it, its my greatest tresure.."
I just tell them if they don't know what a penis is they should use google.
haha. Thanks for all your replies, I feel much better about the subject now. And will likely not get caught offguard again. Thanks :D
Quote from: Adio on November 23, 2011, 03:27:00 PM
"I'll show you mine if you show me yours."
This. "Show me yours first" would work too.
Though you should not say that to anyone. I've got a friend who would probably drop his pants without a problem. He's the type that will moon people sometimes and will wear a Scottish kilt (without undies) from time to time.