My boyfriend recently offered to buy me one, and I'm not sure if I should take him up on it. I've heard so many guys say that it made them feel more comfortable/confident/right, that it makes me genuinely curious. Plus, it'd alleviate my phobia of having a weird looking crotch. On the other hand, I'd be worried that if I wasn't passing (which happens, it seems, completely at random) it would cause issues.
Also, as the title indicates, I don't know if I'd just feel...goofy. Like I was lying to myself or something, I don't know. Its weird. Input?
How would it feel like lying to yourself? I'm one of the ones that it helped to feel whole, so I don't have much of use to say, sorry.
I put off ordering one because it seemed like an odd concept. However, it hasn't left my pants for long since it arrived. It feels like a normal part of me, and I find it really comforting. It's probably worth a shot. After all, if it doesn't feel right, you can always go back to not wearing one.
I wouldn't call it goofy more as giddy. I was excited as hell to get my first binder, my first packer was a blast, it feels wrong not to wear one, now. It might help if you get glue for it rather than a harness?
I suggest you try it out. If it doesn't work out for you, that's fine. You can return it or sell/give it to someone here or something. But there's always the chance it'll work out smashingly for you, so maybe you should take that chance. :)
I didn't even think about giving it to someone else X_X I'm a moron who sometimes forgets about the awesome regifting possibilities of the internet.
I think then, if he's still got the funds, I might take him up on it.
@Kreuzfidel, I feared that since I'm so rabidly cynical sometimes, I'd feel more like I was rubbing it in my face that it'd never be biologically mine or something stupid like that. I'm incredibly insecure sometimes and feel like everything about me is fake...its weird. I can't really explain it well, at least not right now, but I hope nobody was offended by the question.
I feel goofy about it too. If i was going to buy a packer I would save up for the realmajick one. It actually looks like a dick instead of just a kinda phallic rubber thing. It's very realistic. I just can't see any of the other ones working for me.
I felt odd wearing mine the first time, like it was massive and everyone would surely notice, so I put it away and didn't wear it again for a couple of months. But once I got onto T and started feeling a little better about myself, and passing more, I decided to give it another try. For the first few days it felt strange, and I was really aware of it all of the time, but it did make me feel so much better about myself. Now I wear it every day, and I couldn't imagine going out without it.
While it can be a little saddening to take off your pants and remove your dick with them, I find that over all it makes me dysphoria a lot better to have it there. :)
Quote from: N.Chaos on November 25, 2011, 01:16:24 AM
I didn't even think about giving it to someone else X_X I'm a moron who sometimes forgets about the awesome regifting possibilities of the internet.
I think then, if he's still got the funds, I might take him up on it.
@Kreuzfidel, I feared that since I'm so rabidly cynical sometimes, I'd feel more like I was rubbing it in my face that it'd never be biologically mine or something stupid like that. I'm incredibly insecure sometimes and feel like everything about me is fake...its weird. I can't really explain it well, at least not right now, but I hope nobody was offended by the question.
No worries, mate. I feel like that sometimes, too.
Packing is great, but I'm always too scared to do it in case I get it wrong and it looks ridiculous! Plus I've been wandering around without one for such a long time I worry that people would notice if I suddenly sprouted a crotch :laugh:
I'd say go for it. Like others have said if you don't like it, it's no big deal! Packers are pretty cheap so no money wasted, plus like you say there are a lot of re-gifting possibilities :]
its kind of odd and uncomfortable at first you wonder if anyone can tell or if you look like you have a boner but you just need to learn to be confident and if you worry about passing or whatever you end up drawing more attention to yourself. packing taught me to man up and not give a ->-bleeped-<- what people think, its been good.
Thanks for all the input and responses guys, seriously. I'll definitely try and get one soon, one of the small ones. If B doesn't have the money I could always talk to my mom about it (plus, we could get some serious laughs out of that conversation).
And if it doesn't work for me, I'll give it to someone else on here that could actually use it.
Reelmagik requires an adhesive, though. That kinda leaves me cold.
I started wearing a packer when I started being read as male (not consistently) and when I started going to a men's group. At first, I thought I'd wear it only to the group. Then I thought I might run into some of the men at the Center when I was there for other things, so I started wearing the packer whenever I went to the Center. Within a month or two, I couldn't live without a packer, period.
It increases some guys' dysphoria, but it helps me with mine.
I've got an STP packer and I did feel awkward using it at first and I don't always wear it still but I do notice the way I walk with it is different and it does make me feel more confident and some how takes my mind of my chest. Makes me feel better when I'm using the guys toilets in public. So they are good to help with confidence but take some getting used to.
Get one of those cheapy $12 ones to try out.
Since I'm lacking balls I bought one and on occasion, wear it out. I get read as female the majority of the time by people so it doesn't seem to have any effect at all if I have a bigger bulge than normal - and I'm walking around in tight, skinny jeans no less lol. So who knows whether people are really looking or what.
Packing makes me feel more comfortable and relieves dysphoria. It feels natural, not awkward at all. I don't ever take it off except to clean it, for if I do I feel the lack of it in the form of intense dysphoria.
However the reason I got it was because of my desire to have one. If you're having doubts like this maybe it's not for you.... but it still can't hurt to try. They are cheap.
Quote from: Silas on November 25, 2011, 01:01:08 AM
I suggest you try it out. If it doesn't work out for you, that's fine. You can return it or sell/give it to someone here or something. But there's always the chance it'll work out smashingly for you, so maybe you should take that chance. :)
Minus the returning it.
Packing makes me feel like an idiot because I don't have that much bottom dysphoria. I get paranoid and think that the bulge will probably look weird. Then the logic kicks in and points out that if I'm not getting anything out of the deal, but could potentially be losing something, then it's not a good deal.
That's how I am now. Maybe once I'm further along in my transition, I'll feel differently.
You can get a packer for $9.60 from http://www.early2bed.com/ (http://www.early2bed.com/) You can only use the coupon code STW on today(black Friday). It's regularly $12. Priority shipping is free this weekend.
I decided to get one to see how I like it since it's so cheap. I wish I could justify buying a ReelMagik right now, but I could really use that money for a laptop or rent. I still feel awkward about it and really hope my grandma doesn't accidentally open the package.
Personally I don't plan on wearing a packer because I feel like it will be physically uncomfortable for me, and that would just make me even more self conscious. But as they say, to each his own.
Can't say i felt awkward so much as very aware of it. i guess i don't really care much what other people think, i'm pre-op pre-t and my face is pretty femme. i'm not sure how often i really pass but i do get confused looks every now and again.
Quote from: Sharky on November 25, 2011, 10:48:04 PM
You can get a packer for $9.60 from http://www.early2bed.com/ (http://www.early2bed.com/) You can only use the coupon code STW on today(black Friday). It's regularly $12. Priority shipping is free this weekend.
I decided to get one to see how I like it since it's so cheap. I wish I could justify buying a ReelMagik right now, but I could really use that money for a laptop or rent. I still feel awkward about it and really hope my grandma doesn't accidentally open the package.
Well, damn. Sucks that I missed black Friday, but 12$ is still a great price. I'll be snatching that up relatively soon then.
Eesh, that would be incredibly awkward. If she didn't get mad, it'd be a hell of a thing to laugh about later, though.
The priority shipping is still free. Be careful not to chose the default ground. You should prob order today. I think ground is 6 bucks so you are still saving money. They will also send you free stickers and lube or something.
Damnit, I've only got 11$ in my bank. Aaagh.
I only feel silly when I don't secure my packer right and I can feel my dick moving in weird positions.
I wouldn't know, but I bet it feels as awkward as wearing breast forms for the first time! Just do what your comfortable with and take it slow.
yeah, i never wear tight pants because i feel silly with my packer on, it just feels too big and uncomfortable and it just reminds me that i dont have a penis
I don't remember feeling uncomfortable wearing one. The only time I'm uncomfortable is when I wear one in boxers or pajama pants around my family. It just feels..I guess I just feel very self-conscious in that situation.
The suit pants I wore today are slim fit so they are kind of snug. I think I'd feel sillier without a packer than with one. I almost always pack when going out, but if I'm just running to the mail box or visiting my grandma, I sometimes skip it.
I think for me it's not so much the packer that makes me feel silly but the harness itself no matter what form it comes in. Yeah, I know there are packers that are now built into underwear or you can build them into your own underwear/rejigging your underwear yourself to accommodate the packer without the harness and other methods of keeping it in place without a harness...but that just feels completely unnatural/silly for me. Part of being who I am as a guy is the sense of freedom I feel to be a guy...not needing any extra material things to add on. It already feels horrible to have a binder, but that much is pretty much necessary. Packing just makes me feel really artificially. Oddly enough, using a medicine spoon as an STP doesn't feel as unnatural to me as walking around with a packer.
The only packer I'd be willing to overcome that "silly/awkward" feeling for is the peacock, lol. Still saving up for that. The fact that it's 3 in one makes me think it will feel a bit less awkward for me. We'll see.
Yes, I bought one but never got over the awkwardness enough to wear it consistently. It's shoved in a drawer somewhere right now. I'm really tiny and I bought the smallest one I could find but it still seemed really big :D I guess some guys would like that but it was just weird for me. And I felt like it would be noticeable because I wear tighter fitting jeans.
When I first wore one, I kept thinking it was too big and it looks like I have a boner but I'm over it now. I have to wear it now or I'll feel incomplete. I got the xsmall Mr. Limpy and it works for me now because it never looks like I have a boner. I think everyone sitting on my lap all the time squished it down. I don't wear a harness or anything, I just wear a jockstrap.