Seriously - I ve started to notice that I am increasingly attracted to younger guys... by younger guys, I mean like in their early 20s.. 21, 22, 23, etc.
It is like my mindset is at 30 years old, but since my body is going through "puberty" ever since beginning hormones, young guys are starting to look litearlly like FRESH MEAT to me!!! I don't want to be a cougar!!! HELP!
And it does not help either, that 21, 22, or 23 years old guys are contacting me online and saying they love cougars and MILFS! heh
Anybody experienced the same thing?
Relax. Anyone in their 20s is perfectly adult, and we're talking ≤10 years of difference.
I'm 26 and I already feel like I'm a cougar because I think 18-19-20 year old guys are hot as heck. So don't feel bad. Women of all ages stare at younger men. Just because it's still kinda taboo doesn't mean that women aren't really attracted to younger men.
I have no idea when you become a cougar tho. Is it like 30 or 35? If you're in your 20s, are you a cougar?
I'd feel like a cougar even if the guy was a year younger than me.
Ideally, I'd like a man to be older, but c'mon, have you seen those hot, young, muscular college guys lately? They're like Campbell's Soup ... MMmm mmm good.
So I say, go for it honey. You were never able to date them before because you couldn't be this little sorority girl running around campus flirting with them. Well, if one's attracted to you, then flirt back.
I thought cougars were 40+? Besides, +-8 years isn't that much of a difference nowadays.
By the way MsDazzler, when'd you start HRT?
WHAT"S WRONG WITH BEING A COUGAR?
Note- I don't discriminate based on age! :laugh:
Quote from: MsDazzler on December 05, 2011, 07:54:26 AM
And it does not help either, that 21, 22, or 23 years old guys are contacting me online and saying they love cougars and MILFS! heh
MILFS should give you an idea of whats on their minds! >:-)
I would take it as an extreme compliment if someone considered me to be a cougar. :)
Jennifer
I'm 49, turning 50 in a couple of weeks and I feel like a cougar watching this vid and finding him immensely attractive and smoking hot:
not only because of his cute face but because of his calm, masculine voice and his calm and manly demeanour too.....he's in his early 20's I guess?
Butch Lesbians vs. Transmen? (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XcZzyfg_dec&feature=related#)
Quote from: SandraJane on December 05, 2011, 08:10:22 AM
WHAT"S WRONG WITH BEING A COUGAR?
Note- I don't discriminate based on age! :laugh:
;D
i'm 19 and i <3 guys that are 25-30 what does that make me, reverse-cougar?
Typical West World "problem". ;D ::)
Quote from: Bishounen on December 05, 2011, 10:36:19 AM
Typical West World "problem". ;D ::)
Sadly in some corners of the world they don't think they can get them young enough.
Women in their 30s are hot. I'm in the early stages of dating one right now, and she's so awesome. :laugh: :laugh:
Quote from: Rain Dog on December 05, 2011, 11:19:06 AM
Sadly in some corners of the world they don't think they can get them young enough.
Come on, what's wrong with 9 years? ;D
Nothing to be ashamed of girl! I'm the opposite though! I'm 18 and really like a guy who is 28!
I turned 40 this past summer. And it took just a month and a half for me to become an official Cougar. I look like I am in my early 30's and since I am just now going through my puberty I don't have a bit of guilt. I like older men though to and have even found some to be really sexy into their 60's
Welcome to Cougarville.
Huggs
Emily
Quote from: Bishounen on December 05, 2011, 10:36:19 AM
Typical West World "problem". ;D ::)
??? Android Saloon Girls ??? "Western" like US, CA, UK, EU?
Quote from: Emily Ray on December 05, 2011, 11:50:06 AM
I turned 40 this past summer. And it took just a month and a half for me to become an official Cougar. I look like I am in my early 30's and since I am just now going through my puberty I don't have a bit of guilt. I like older men though to and have even found some to be really sexy into their 60's
Welcome to Cougarville.
Huggs
Emily
WOOHOO! WELCOME TO THE CLUB EMILY!Quote from: J S on December 05, 2011, 10:34:50 AM
i'm 19 and i <3 guys that are 25-30 what does that make me, reverse-cougar?
No... yer a
CUBLET!(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.nps.gov%2Fgrca%2Fnaturescience%2Fimages%2F070921-1043-57.jpg&hash=14f14c21f610282c96baedb04bbd10bb10fbc3b5)
:laugh:
Quote from: Jennifer on December 05, 2011, 09:19:33 AM
I would take it as an extreme compliment if someone considered me to be a cougar. :)
Jennifer
That's the Attitude! :laugh:
First off, a Cougar chases Cubs. I've always thought this also to mean that the woman is old enough to be the mother of her partner. I don't mean 12, 16 or even 18 years older. I'm talking about a woman in her 40's dating college aged partners, for example.
When it's less extreme, say mid 30's with mid20's. That makes one a PUMA. Not kidding, Google it, girls.
So, one of my regular sex partners is almost twice my age. Is there a name for him?
Quote from: Felix on December 05, 2011, 06:31:47 PM
So, one of my regular sex partners is almost twice my age. Is there a name for him?
STEVE ;D
Quote from: Michelle. on December 05, 2011, 04:34:53 PM
First off, a Cougar chases Cubs. I've always thought this also to mean that the woman is old enough to be the mother of her partner. I don't mean 12, 16 or even 18 years older. I'm talking about a woman in her 40's dating college aged partners, for example.
When it's less extreme, say mid 30's with mid20's. That makes one a PUMA. Not kidding, Google it, girls.
puma
August 9, 2007 Urban Word of the Day
An attractive woman in her late 20s or early 30s. She is a pre-cougar/urban cougar.
I think that puma just grabbed my ass.
by anonymous Jan 2, 2004
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puma
A woman who is not quite old enough to be a cougar, but still likes to date/mate with younger men.
Dating a puma wasn't so bad, Bob reflected. After all, the sex was great and she never minded picking up the tab when they went out on the weekend.
by anonymous Feb 19, 2003
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For more Puma definitions... http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=puma (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=puma)
So...maybe you're not a Cougar...but a Puma instead...
Or (if you're Canadian)...
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fold.culturegarage.com%2Fwp-content%2Fuploads%2F2008%2F09%2Fcanadian_cougar_poster.jpg&hash=5e25591b95330625a2614f8c47baf72809606474)
So...maybe you're not a Cougar...but a Puma instead...
Quote from: Felix on December 05, 2011, 06:31:47 PM
So, one of my regular sex partners is almost twice my age. Is there a name for him?
TOF :laugh: No offense intended !
Lol, well, glad to see that I am not alone....
Although I think the guys in their early 20s are just good for an one-night stand >:-) they probably are not relationship material at that age anyway
I'm in my 40's and I'm probably not relationship material either. But,. I make a great friend with benefits.
Huggs
Emily
Quote from: Emily Ray on December 05, 2011, 09:16:52 PM
I'm in my 40's and I'm probably not relationship material either. But,. I make a great friend with benefits.
Huggs
Emily
Nicely put...with benefits...
Quote from: MsDazzler on December 05, 2011, 09:02:21 PM
Lol, well, glad to see that I am not alone....
Although I think the guys in their early 20s are just good for an one-night stand >:-) they probably are not relationship material at that age anyway
Its interesting how we view that now... :laugh:
Quote from: Jen61 on December 05, 2011, 08:56:22 PM
TOF :laugh: No offense intended !
https://www.google.com/search?q=define%3Atof&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8&aq=t&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-a (https://www.google.com/search?q=define%3Atof&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8&aq=t&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-a)
That's my feeble attempt at figuring out what you just said. I learn so much from this site. :laugh: Can you explain just a tad further?
Felix, I don't know what Jen meant by TOF but Tons Of Fun sounds about right. :)
Jennifer
Quote from: Jennifer on December 06, 2011, 08:12:37 AM
Felix, I don't know what Jen meant by TOF but Tons Of Fun sounds about right. :)
Jennifer
That fits. Thanks. ;D
I hooked up with a 21 yr old who wanted a relationship. He was bisexual(but I think he's gonna turn out gay later on) and he wants me to dump the married man.
Wonderful guy, except I don't know how things are gonna pan out. Al is 32 and well, a bit possessive and I don't see him taking the "reveal" very well. I love meeting men in the Castro, especially the younger guys... I have enough 30-40 year olds after me.
While we are on the subject here, you know male/female pheromones....
I swear that I have become more acute to younger guys' pheromones, lol. They just seem tastier to me!
Quote from: MsDazzler on December 06, 2011, 10:23:55 PM
While we are on the subject here, you know male/female pheromones....
I swear that I have become more acute to younger guys' pheromones, lol. They just seem tastier to me!
Ms Dazzler...give me a couple of months and I will let you know what I start smelling...
...I see my Endo tomorrow, Letter in hand...
A future thread..."What pheromones seem tastier to you?" :laugh:
Quote from: SandraJane on December 06, 2011, 10:50:19 PM
Ms Dazzler...give me a couple of months and I will let you know what I start smelling...
...I see my Endo tomorrow, Letter in hand...
A future thread..."What pheromones seem tastier to you?" :laugh:
Eight more days for me. :icon_walk:
(that smilie is labeled 'walk,' but it has happy feet)
if it makes you feel better im 21 and my boyfriend is 30. I mean, i'm a trans woman but i met him before he knew that and before i decided to transition. (My boyfriend is also trans but untransitioned and is okay with male pronouns for the record)
But dont feel like a cougar yet, cougar status is 40+
Quote from: Torn1990 on December 07, 2011, 12:25:41 AM
if it makes you feel better im 21 and my boyfriend is 30. I mean, i'm a trans woman but i met him before he knew that and before i decided to transition. (My boyfriend is also trans but untransitioned and is okay with male pronouns for the record)
But dont feel like a cougar yet, cougar status is 40+
Wow! the endless potential combinations of relationships! :)
On a different but related note -
Masha mentioned to me that she had a 16 years old person hit on her - imagine this , I am a HIGH SCHOOL teacher! Yup, that is right, I am surrounded by young guys entering their pubertal stages!!! :o
What's even worse - I teach exclusively seniors, meaning most of them are 17-20. :o and one of the classes has FIVE jocks. lol.
God help me.
I have ALWAYS loved older women, and right now I'm dating a 44-year-old (I'm 36). Nothing at all wrong with this, IMO :)
You know, age is to a big part only a number on a paper. It is a cliché, yes, but nonetheless a very true such one.
And not to forget to mention, people age differently too, and someone that is 40 on the paper may nonetheless be biologically or/and mentally younger than someone that is 25 on the paper.
Don't think about age so much just because others do, just let go and and if you like someone then you like someone and if that person likes you, than that person likes you, regardless of age.
Well, age does play a factor if the relationship is May-December!!! ;D
Emergency!!!
I truly was a cougar!!! I got too drunk at Castro last night and woke up with a 21 years old guy in my bed! God, it was wild
And he was one of those skater emo skinnny boys. lol. hardly the type I would pick up heh
Quote from: SandraJane on December 05, 2011, 08:10:22 AM
WHAT"S WRONG WITH BEING A COUGAR?
Note- I don't discriminate based on age! :laugh:
Exactly what I'm thinking!
Nothing wrong with being a cougar.
Plenty of cubs to go around xP
I don't think just because its an older woman with a young man that it makes her a cougar. Its the act of aggressively preying on young men for sex by some older women(usually 40+) that makes one a cougar. Hence the name itself being of a predator.
Jamie,
I have to disagree, if a 40 year old or older woman is dating a 20 year old young man it can only be for sex. They certainly can't talk about their favorite 8-track or album growing up. I am not saying anything is wrong with it. Both are consenting adults and are getting just what they want from the relationship.
Huggs
Emily
theres nothing wrong with being a cougar! most guys i seem to like the age difference is... quite terrifiing
Emily,
Umm, I said "aggressively preying" for one thing, not every older woman that has sex with a younger man acted as a predator to get into that situation. And secondly, an older woman can indeed be with a young man for more than just sex. Commonalities don't have to be based on growing up in the same era, there are many other things that could be involved. Heck. for that matter, there doesn't have to be that much in common other than they just want to be together for whatever reason outside of just sex.
I'm a cougar. I don't know what these young guys are on about chasing after old bags like us but it's not all bad.
If you catch good fish with old bait you would be a fool to throw them back ;)
(disclaimer: trying to make a funny analogy, not calling anyone old bait xD i would be offended if i got called old bait so i thought i better clarify xD)
Rather than post quotes from "ya'll", Old Bait is still good bait, its aged, more character and flavor!
Sure a Cougar is a Predator, but we do it with style! And yes, it can be more than sex, as a guy I liked older women, so now I'm the older woman :laugh:
I think most people will find young (~18-25~) people at least as attractive as older people, and more often than not, more attractive. People are made like that: their body hasn't started to "decompose" due to age in those age ranges, so obviously, they're supposed to look better.
The difference is that most older people would not appreciate their partners' youth for its moral aspects - irressponsibility, impulsivity, high sex drive, etc. Or fear the social stigma. But I don't think the physical attraction to a young, fit body is frequently absent.
Don't be ashamed. As long as it's legal, there's nothing wrong.
Quote from: Jayr on December 11, 2011, 01:20:33 PM
Exactly what I'm thinking!
Nothing wrong with being a cougar.
Plenty of cubs to go around xP
xD you ain't no cub, boy!
You are "
Personal and sexual property of Joey Giron"
Quote from: SandraJane on December 11, 2011, 06:28:20 PM
Old Bait is still good bait, its aged, more character and flavor!
MATURE BAIT! :)
Jennifer
Quote from: fionabell on December 11, 2011, 05:46:50 PM
I'm a cougar. I don't know what these young guys are on about chasing after old bags like us but it's not all bad.
Younger guys have sex drives that last. Older guys, not so much... Dating a 51 yr old has its downside as his bed performance...He gets super tired after sex. Young guys don't.
Quote from: Mahsa the disco shark on December 12, 2011, 04:22:21 PM
Younger guys have sex drives that last. Older guys, not so much... Dating a 51 yr old has its downside as his bed performance...He gets super tired after sex. Young guys don't.
On the flipside, young guys tend to orgasm way too fast. I like both. I play with young people, and it's great fun, but I have more nuanced and interesting sex with older guys. They last longer. Sometimes they can't get off at all, though, which makes me feel sad and inadequate no matter what they say.
And feeling the young guy's skin compared to the older guy's skin feels so different when you are stratching their backs while they are doing you missionary style, lol
Quote from: MsDazzler on December 17, 2011, 10:44:21 AM
And feeling the young guy's skin compared to the older guy's skin feels so different when you are stratching their backs while they are doing you missionary style, lol
Young skin is fantastic. :)