You know once in a while we just need to have a laugh about things. Like being a trans guy myself i know all to well of the harsh realities we face and how much they suck but its good just to step back and not take things too seriously for once.
Take last night for example. I was at a very close friends 20th birthday party. I'll be 20 myself next month.
Anyway we went to dinner and then met up with more people in a gay bar afterwards and then went to a gay night club. it was a good night, a bit of drama but whats a night out without a bit of drama. (the drama had nothing to do with me or trans stuff. just unreated bircering between friends and two girls who are really into eachother but nither will one will make the first move cause they're both idiots lol my friends are idiots)
anyway back on topic when we were sat around in the bar having a nice chat while having a few drinks. I said something and it embarrassed me though it was quite funny/cool when i think back about it. now bare in mind i don't drink so i was completely sober.
The group was a mixture of guys and girls. We are all good friends too. None of them know me from before i started transitioning and i'm seen as male and they use all the right names and pronous all the time. Its not a big deal with them at all. I might have been the token transguy but I'm still just one of the lads you know.
Anyway Then my best friend (boyfriend of the birthday boy) went to the bathroom. When he came back he mentioned this guy that we saw across the bar and that we both thought was hot said hi to him in the bathroom. Which he thought was odd cause one he never met him before and two even though its Ireland where everyone does say hello to each other we don't generally do it in bathrooms lol however the way my best friend described it he made it sound like that after he was in his cubical the man walk into his cubical to say hi to him and playing along with the conversation, trying to get my head around i said jokingly:
"So you were just sat on the toilet peeing and he walked in on you to say hi?"
My friend then explained this better and the whole group laughed and moved on to the next topic of conversation. Nothing was made of my comment either. it was an unimportant, passing comment that even i myself was beginning to forget about. then my best friend leaned over to me and quietly siad just to me and not the group:
"Andy ummm, You know ummm, cis-gendered guys don't generally pee sitting down."
Now bare in mind he was trying to be sensitive and unoffensive. he was just pointing out what i said. I blushed realizing what i said and we had a laugh about it.
I know it might seem like something insignificant or unimportant but for that brief moment i forgot i was trans, i didn't see myself as a member of the transgender community but as a fully "normal" male. And that things i do a little different like going to the bathroom seemed completely normal to me and that it was normal for other guys too. It was a refreshing moment really. It just shows how much I've progressed and how comfortable i am with myself now. The slip of the tongue did make me laugh, like i had and go express this felling of "normality" by saying something awkward lol.
So does anyone have any uplifting funny/embarrassing stories trans related?
Like i'm sure passing might throw up a few like the confused receptionists at my college always make me laugh. or once when i booked a ticket they but miss andrew *last name* on it which i found funny. Then i booked a barbers appointment and they had my name as Mandy on it lol so clearly they miss heard when i said Andy and that made me laugh too. I'm sure there much funnier incidents then that lol. I just have a silly sense of humor and a good attidued towards all this i guess.
Thanks for reading my ramble lol
At an oral exam waiting for my turn.
Professor enters the hallway and calls out "Ben Legein" (The name I'm sadly still registered as)
So I go to him to take my exam.
"No, I said Ben"
"I know. That's my old name." *shows ID*
"WHATCHU TRYNA PULL HERE MISS?!"
After he went to the administration I did get to take my exam. 30 minutes late. I missed my train. =p
This isn't that great a story but I'm going to bore with it anyway. My wife and I want out for dinner. The waiter approached the table and said Hi ladies can i bring you something to drink. I wasn't dressed as a woman at the time. I was in total male mode. I didn't react to it at all but I was totally flattered by it. I thought...dude if you did that at any other table in here you could kiss your tip goodbye. I gave him a great big tip!
I was pulling into a parking lot to pick up my customer and drove past her (she was in the entrance; not good to stop there)....she yelled, "HEY!" and came to the door...when she saw me she apologized and said, "I'm sorry, I thought you were a woman." (I have earrings + long curled hair)
"That's ok", I said. "I don't mind."
"No, really...I thought you were a woman. I wouldn't have yelled if I thought you were a man."
So her comment made me think...is it ok to yell at women? :-\ But not men? But that "hmmm" moment passed as I savored the feeling that she saw me as a woman (granted, from the sidewalk in a moving car...but whatever, I'm a woman!!).
Last week talked to a manager at a gas station who knows I am male. Turned around went up to the register and payed for my food and was called ma'am. Thought it was great but took everything I had to not react. Went out to my car and started laughing. Was laughing so hard I almost started crying.
Perfect place for me to share a story... Went to a party at my girlfriend and wife's house but we all forgot to bring booze. We decided to car pool over to the store and pick some up. Now it just so happens that there was a fish mart in the area. My galpal's wife gets out of the car leaving me and my friend in the car as she starts walking into the store. After taking 3 steps she turns around and opens the door to the car. She looks me square in the eyes with a perfect poker face and says "Hey Jane, can you close your legs I can smell it all the way out here". I was so shocked I didn't say anything but sat there with my mouth wide open and watching her walk into the store. Once the shock finally wore off I couldn't stop laughing for the rest of the night... And still to this day I don't know if I am happy or offended at the comment but it was very funny at the time.
There is this little tea store that also serves lunch right near where my mum's house is. I'd been there quite a lot with my mum over the years and knew the owner a little. We went in there a few months after I'd gone full time, without even thinking about the problem of me being recognized.
Nothing happened till we went to pay after eating. The owner said hello to my mum, and then looked at me before turning back to my mum...
"Is this your daughter?"
"Yes."
"She looks a lot like your son, doesn't she?"
I am my own sister now, apparently. ;)