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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: jainie marlena on December 21, 2011, 02:43:44 AM

Title: What does more ->-bleeped-<-r then thou mean?
Post by: jainie marlena on December 21, 2011, 02:43:44 AM
I hear this a lot here. clarify for me so I understand.  ???
Title: Re: What does more ->-bleeped-<-r then thou mean?
Post by: Cindy on December 21, 2011, 03:00:55 AM
This is an argument where people try to define their gender under the idea that people are more female or male than another poster.

At the best it is stupid, at the worst it it hateful.

It also falls out of scientific principle. That is it cannot be proved, it cannot be tested and it will not advance knowledge, it is not useful and it cannot be reviewed independently. I think that covers  most of the problems with the science of people who read tea leaves. To be brutal an opinion is just that. If you cannot back an opinion with cold facts, it is nothing but day dreams.

Ignore them and do not get drawn into arguments by smooth talking people.

You deserve better. Or they will be painting your roof with rain repellent paint.

Cindy

works during summer
Title: Re: What does more ->-bleeped-<-r then thou mean?
Post by: jainie marlena on December 21, 2011, 03:40:27 AM
Thanks I like that ;D
Title: Re: What does more ->-bleeped-<-r then thou mean?
Post by: AbraCadabra on December 21, 2011, 10:00:30 AM
It's obviously an 'attitude thing' but it may surface if you FEEL binary and have to deal with e.g. Andro-folks.
Then in place of accepting to being confused by it all, you may ride the binary theme and so become 'holier than the pope (thou)' about your particular state of mind, i.e. '->-bleeped-<-r than thou'

Axélle
Title: Re: What does more ->-bleeped-<-r then thou mean?
Post by: jainie marlena on December 21, 2011, 10:33:37 AM
@Axélle you mean being stuck between the two genders? could you open that a little more?
Title: Re: What does more ->-bleeped-<-r then thou mean?
Post by: jainie marlena on December 21, 2011, 10:47:44 AM
Divisions of opinions. person beliefs about being trans. Pharisees and Sadducees
Title: Re: What does more ->-bleeped-<-r then thou mean?
Post by: AbraCadabra on December 21, 2011, 11:03:09 AM
What I meant being binary myself i.e. not Andro or gender bender, or what else not, can make one feel in one 'camp' (post-op in my case) and from there, from this position, or mind-set, having real difficulties in accepting other folks' mind-sets.

In defending one's own mind-set (e.g. the decision to have GCS) then may cause this '->-bleeped-<-r then thou' attitude.
I am definately not immune to this either, meaning that 'insight' alone is not necessarily the answer to being narrow-minded on some issues.

Axélle
PS: and some would say it's all a case of hormones... anyone to argue that one? :-)
Title: Re: What does more ->-bleeped-<-r then thou mean?
Post by: supremecatoverlord on December 21, 2011, 11:11:31 AM
It means that someone who is trans thinks they are above certain people who are transitioning. The reasons as to why can vary, but usually are based off the person's past experience, how far they've gone in their transition (and how far they intend to go), and how well they pass. It's basically elitism, but in the trans-world as some would like to believe they currently are and or always will be "better than others", hence "->-bleeped-<-r than thou".
Title: Re: What does more ->-bleeped-<-r then thou mean?
Post by: JenJen2011 on December 21, 2011, 12:00:16 PM
->-bleeped-<-r than thou =  crock of bull. :)
Title: Re: What does more ->-bleeped-<-r then thou mean?
Post by: Bishounen on December 21, 2011, 12:48:04 PM
It is a tounge in cheeck-expression to describe the elitist attitude that not seldomly shows itself in the T-community, for instance when a Post-op goes; "Why would a T-woman want to keep her penis??", "Why would a T-man/a Cis-man want to have a Vagina?", "->-bleeped-<-s are just gay males", "Why would anyone want to be both genders?", "Why would anyone want to be neither gender?" and yada yada.

In short, usually, a term to describe the standpoint that Post-op transsexuals are the only "real" ones in the Community.
Title: Re: What does more ->-bleeped-<-r then thou mean?
Post by: Mahsa Tezani on December 21, 2011, 05:46:54 PM
Meaning god forbid someone doesn't want srs and is proud of having a penis.... I've found that a lot of the older transitioners who did transition where the end product is SRS as opposed to the younger generation where the end product is passing/fitting in.

Compare Rene Richards to non op Candis Cayne. A generation separates them.

I mean a transsexual is a transsexual. Society views us all the same...whether we've had SRS or not.
Title: Re: What does more ->-bleeped-<-r then thou mean?
Post by: Nurse With Wound on December 21, 2011, 07:55:55 PM
Quote from: Bishounen on December 21, 2011, 12:48:04 PM
In short, usually, a term to describe the standpoint that Post-op transsexuals are the only "real" ones in the Community.
There's plenty ->-bleeped-<-r-than-thou behavior from non-ops too, it's not just a post-op/pre-op thing.
Title: Re: What does more ->-bleeped-<-r then thou mean?
Post by: Mahsa Tezani on December 21, 2011, 09:15:59 PM
Quote from: Nurse With Wound on December 21, 2011, 07:55:55 PM
There's plenty ->-bleeped-<-r-than-thou behavior from non-ops too, it's not just a post-op/pre-op thing.

Not really. I don't see them attacking people's gender on this board.

If you mean am I more fashionable than someone....yes. But it hardly relates to their gender or sexuality. I identify more with gay men anyways.
Title: Re: What does more ->-bleeped-<-r then thou mean?
Post by: Anatta on December 21, 2011, 09:44:05 PM
Quote from: jainie marlena on December 21, 2011, 02:43:44 AM
I hear this a lot here. clarify for me so I understand.  ???

Kia Ora Jainie,

::) In two words "Emotional Insecurity !"

Metta Zenda :)
Title: Re: What does more ->-bleeped-<-r then thou mean?
Post by: Nurse With Wound on December 22, 2011, 06:56:19 AM
Quote from: Mahsa the disco shark on December 21, 2011, 09:15:59 PM
Not really. I don't see them attacking people's gender on this board.

If you mean am I more fashionable than someone....yes. But it hardly relates to their gender or sexuality. I identify more with gay men anyways.
Well for example a non-op could have transitioned very early and thus passes very easily and gets in a ->-bleeped-<--than-thou state of mind over those whom are not as attractive.
Title: Re: What does more ->-bleeped-<-r then thou mean?
Post by: annette on December 22, 2011, 07:17:18 AM
IMO, there is a misunderstanding going on.
Post srs people aren't ->-bleeped-<-s anymore, so they can't be ->-bleeped-<-r than thou.
After all, one didn't get srs to become a ->-bleeped-<-, right?
Title: Re: What does more ->-bleeped-<-r then thou mean?
Post by: JenJen2011 on December 22, 2011, 07:33:29 AM
Quote from: annette on December 22, 2011, 07:17:18 AM
Post srs people aren't ->-bleeped-<-s anymore

Post srs people are women. But so are pre/non srs people. So, maybe it should be changed to more womanly than thou.
Title: Re: What does more ->-bleeped-<-r then thou mean?
Post by: Padma on December 22, 2011, 07:49:59 AM
Even that depends - some post-op women like to identify as trans women, some don't.

When it comes down to it, what's really being said is "valider than thou", whatever the context is. It's anyone saying "what I am or am doing is the most valid way of being/doing, so if you're not that then you're 2nd class."
Title: Re: What does more ->-bleeped-<-r then thou mean?
Post by: Bishounen on December 22, 2011, 08:59:19 AM
Quote from: Padma on December 22, 2011, 07:49:59 AM
Even that depends - some post-op women like to identify as trans women, some don't.

When it comes down to it, what's really being said is "valider than thou", whatever the context is. It's anyone saying "what I am or am doing is the most valid way of being/doing, so if you're not that then you're 2nd class."

True. There are several persons on this board that are Post-op, some since long, and that nonetheless do not identify as women but rather a "speciality of their own".
Title: Re: What does more ->-bleeped-<-r then thou mean?
Post by: jainie marlena on December 22, 2011, 10:54:42 AM
The reason I asked was it came up in my other post. I did not know who it was aimed at because I did not understand it. With all of this info I see that it was not aimed at me.

@jenjen2011 "more womenly than thou" That sounded funny to me.
Title: Re: What does more ->-bleeped-<-r then thou mean?
Post by: Mahsa Tezani on December 22, 2011, 02:05:11 PM
Does it really matter? Can't people just be people?
Title: Re: What does more ->-bleeped-<-r then thou mean?
Post by: Sarah Louise on December 22, 2011, 02:06:38 PM
Good Answer
Title: Re: What does more ->-bleeped-<-r then thou mean?
Post by: jainie marlena on December 22, 2011, 02:50:17 PM
Quote from: Mahsa the disco shark on December 22, 2011, 02:05:11 PM
Does it really matter? Can't people just be people?

You have let me into your world and I have learned a lot from you for that I thank you.
Does it really matter? not to me. What if they do think that? so what.
to ask me does it really matter? evedently it did to you or you would not be about to throw it around with understanding.
The topic was mine so in that sense it did matter to me. Do they think that they are some kind of elite? let them think it. It don't change one thing about you or me. you are you and I am me and they are them.