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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Female to male transsexual talk (FTM) => Topic started by: King Malachite on December 31, 2011, 06:07:13 PM

Title: The Term "Brother" In The FtM Community....
Post by: King Malachite on December 31, 2011, 06:07:13 PM
Do you ever feel like Hulk Hogan if you say brother a lot? I do and I find it pretty neat.

Wow my first official posting other than the introduction and I ask this question.  So random.
Title: Re: The Term "Brother" In The FtM Community....
Post by: Anon on December 31, 2011, 06:10:08 PM
Personally I feel like a major douche if I say bro or brother, it's not really my thing.
Title: Re: The Term "Brother" In The FtM Community....
Post by: supremecatoverlord on December 31, 2011, 06:11:15 PM
I'm not sure if I'd want to feel like Hulk Hogan.

I'd rather say "GET TO THE CHOPPA NAO" and feel like Arnold Schwarzenegger.
Title: Re: The Term "Brother" In The FtM Community....
Post by: caseyyy on December 31, 2011, 06:13:41 PM
I can't bring myself to say bro, it feels a little weird, but I do think of other transpeople as siblings. Brothers, sisters, and I have not yet decided on my favourite term for my non-binary family. :)
Title: Re: The Term "Brother" In The FtM Community....
Post by: Kreuzfidel on December 31, 2011, 06:15:02 PM
I don't use it.  Makes me feel like I'm in a cult or something.
Title: Re: The Term "Brother" In The FtM Community....
Post by: Natkat on December 31, 2011, 06:25:29 PM
I dont use it, I bet its not really normal in my languarge..
but I like the word.. when I went to german I found it kinda nice to call the nurse sisters" all the time..
*in german of corse*

I do also sorta watch other transfolks alittle like sorta my people" kind of ways.
there something famely" connection over it, since your the "little one" asking for help and advise, and then you kinda grow up as the one giving help/advise for the ones who need it.
--
p.s.
a word I use way to much... is Dude, both for male and females..
Title: Re: The Term "Brother" In The FtM Community....
Post by: Adio on December 31, 2011, 07:19:00 PM
I've used it before, mostly "bro" rather than "brother".  I probably wouldn't say it offline though.  The only times I really remember calling a trans guy "bro" were times when he really needed support or I wanted to signal that I'm in a similar situation (when I'm "stealth").
Title: Re: The Term "Brother" In The FtM Community....
Post by: Leek on December 31, 2011, 07:23:09 PM
I've only ever used it as a euphemism in mixed company, i.e. "Is that guy a brother?"
Title: Re: The Term "Brother" In The FtM Community....
Post by: Henri on December 31, 2011, 08:09:00 PM
In school I am often called "bro" by guys who don't know me. I find it kind of awkward, I feel like just by passing as male I have been automatically admitted into a cult haha. In a sense I like it, but I am always thrown off by it since I don't expect it, and I feel that by responding awkwardly I put my passing in jeopardy. It's interesting though. A new territory.
Title: Re: The Term "Brother" In The FtM Community....
Post by: Nygeel on December 31, 2011, 09:05:20 PM
I hate being called brother, bro, man, or dude. "FTM brothers" bothers me too.
Title: Re: The Term "Brother" In The FtM Community....
Post by: Sharky on December 31, 2011, 10:08:59 PM
My one friend says it a lot. I've got a million texts saying "hey bro".  Get a lot of "hey man" "yo man" at work. Dude is common. I don't know any FTMs in real life though, so i never used it in a brotherhood way. I wouldn't have a problem if another ftm called me brother.
Title: Re: The Term "Brother" In The FtM Community....
Post by: Felix on December 31, 2011, 10:11:30 PM
"Bro" and "brother" are terms I associate with homeless folks and stoners. Nothing against those people, of course. :)
Title: Re: The Term "Brother" In The FtM Community....
Post by: Lee on January 01, 2012, 12:03:11 AM
It's not a word I use or hear much.  It seems like "man" or "dude" are more common.
Title: Re: The Term "Brother" In The FtM Community....
Post by: RenM on January 01, 2012, 12:07:29 AM
I never use to say bro until I lived with my roomie for nearly a year and she said is constantly. I just...picked it up. Now it's stuck. XD I use to always say chicka, though, when dealing with the ladies. :P
Title: Re: The Term "Brother" In The FtM Community....
Post by: Felix on January 01, 2012, 12:10:49 AM
Quote from: RenM on January 01, 2012, 12:07:29 AM
I never use to say bro until I lived with my roomie for nearly a year and she said is constantly. I just...picked it up. Now it's stuck. XD I use to always say chicka, though, when dealing with the ladies. :P

I've never heard chicka with girls, but I've always said (and used to always hear) chiqui, which is very similar.
Title: Re: The Term "Brother" In The FtM Community....
Post by: Aussie Jay on January 01, 2012, 01:49:03 AM
Personally I think it's cultural as well. Like here in Oz, where I live now in FNQ anyway and not so much down south where I'm originally from, 'bro' or "brother' is very common - especially from the indigenous population. With them it's always 'hello my brother' and the ladies are sister. I don't have a problem with it - like I said it appears to be part of the culture! It's also said in jest sometimes. Like no offence to my Kiwi relations across the pond but when we're taking the piss (pronounced 'puss' for full effect lol) out of them we use 'bro' or even 'cuzzy bro' with our funny, thick, imitative accent lol - as I'm sure they have specific catch cries when taking the mickey out of us! I only know one other FTM IRL and we have our transsexual history in common and we get along and hang out etc, but I don't feel any special kindred bond with him just because our stories are similar. I call most people 'mate' - in true Aussie style haha!

The only thing I really get stuck on is when people call me 'mister' - like it's awesome and I enjoy it, but I'm continually turning around to look for my Dad!
Title: Re: The Term "Brother" In The FtM Community....
Post by: Jude on January 01, 2012, 12:00:14 PM
i call everyone and their mother 'bro'.
last night i was at a party and i was talking to this girl and i said bro and she was like "girls dont like to be called bro!" haha
Title: Re: The Term "Brother" In The FtM Community....
Post by: Jude on January 01, 2012, 12:01:54 PM
Quote from: Felix on December 31, 2011, 10:11:30 PM
"Bro" and "brother" are terms I associate with homeless folks and stoners. Nothing against those people, of course. :)

HAHAHAHA i laughed sooo hard when i read this.
this is probably why i say bro so much xD
Title: Re: The Term "Brother" In The FtM Community....
Post by: Tossu-sama on January 01, 2012, 12:09:28 PM
I don't really use "brother/bro", "dude" or "man" online at all. I think it's because Finnish doesn't really have that sort of way of speech.
Saying "brother" in Finnish just reminds me of Laestadians for some reason.
Title: Re: The Term "Brother" In The FtM Community....
Post by: Kyle_S on January 01, 2012, 08:26:05 PM
I use brother and sister for transfolks. In a way, most of the time transfolk seem to be closer than "real" families, because we can understand a lot about each other. I've also been called bro, but only by other transguys. I like it.

I've also used "Chicka" for one of my female friends many times, though we are not in any way, spanish :P
Title: Re: The Term "Brother" In The FtM Community....
Post by: N.Chaos on January 02, 2012, 04:18:38 AM
The Hulk Hogan comment really amused me for some reason.

I call people bro online occasionally, but its pretty erratic. I call one of my female friends bro all the time, but IRL the only person I've ever called bro (that I can remember) is my boyfriend, oddly enough.
Title: Re: The Term "Brother" In The FtM Community....
Post by: GentlemanRDP on January 02, 2012, 02:14:45 PM
Despite the fact that I do like me Hulk Hogan flicks, I can't bring myself to say it xD
Growing up in Utah, All I can think of when I hear 'Brother' is missionaries >__O;;
And I am far from a missionary.

I actually tend to stray away from gender specific terms, whether it's talking to someone cisgender or trans.
I don't know why, and come to think of it, I always have.
Though...I suppose that I do tend to call all people 'Guys,' such as "Hey, how're you guys doing?" while I'm working,
And I tend to call guys 'Dudes' once in a while o.o; Hmm...Go figure...
Title: Re: The Term "Brother" In The FtM Community....
Post by: Natkat on January 02, 2012, 03:13:26 PM
Quote from: GentlemanRDP on January 02, 2012, 02:14:45 PM
Despite the fact that I do like me Hulk Hogan flicks, I can't bring myself to say it xD
Growing up in Utah, All I can think of when I hear 'Brother' is missionaries >__O;;
And I am far from a missionary.

I actually tend to stray away from gender specific terms, whether it's talking to someone cisgender or trans.
I don't know why, and come to think of it, I always have.
Though...I suppose that I do tend to call all people 'Guys,' such as "Hey, how're you guys doing?" while I'm working,
And I tend to call guys 'Dudes' once in a while o.o; Hmm...Go figure...

im sorta the same, exept the fact I call pretty much everyone guys and dudes..

I bet I try to ignore gender pronouce alittle, because I know from myself how annoying it is to have a wrong gender pronoucing put on you who dosent fit and so so.
Title: Re: The Term "Brother" In The FtM Community....
Post by: Nygeel on January 02, 2012, 03:18:26 PM
When I go to LGBT events and somebody says "our transgender brothers and sisters" I get super annoyed. There are trans folks who don't identify with being a brother or sister, and it sorta sounds like there are no trans people there.
Title: Re: The Term "Brother" In The FtM Community....
Post by: ApproachingMars on January 02, 2012, 07:44:35 PM
I do, but it's pretty much for everyone.  It rubbed off on me from an Australian guy I know.  Sigh.
Title: Re: The Term "Brother" In The FtM Community....
Post by: Ryuu on January 02, 2012, 08:09:13 PM
Brother reminds me of those weird mens-movement guys (my dad is one) or of a monastery. Man makes me think of stoners.  :laugh:
Title: Re: The Term "Brother" In The FtM Community....
Post by: Felix on January 02, 2012, 09:39:06 PM
I mostly say "man" for guys, or once in awhile for girls. I occasionally say "dude" for anybody, but that's not normal for me. I use "people" or "yall" when addressing more than one person.

One thing I've had to consciously unlearn was calling people "kid." It's something I picked up when I was a traveler, I guess, but some people see it as an age thing or an insult. It was to me a word for anybody of any age, gender, social status, whatever, just an easy catchall.
Title: Re: The Term "Brother" In The FtM Community....
Post by: xander on January 02, 2012, 10:48:30 PM
a LOT of trans guys here constantly use "bro". But then again so do a lot of jock type CIS guys.

It really ->-bleeped-<-s me to be honest, everything is "hey bro", "sup bro", "thanks bro", "cya bro".
Title: Re: The Term "Brother" In The FtM Community....
Post by: dmx on January 02, 2012, 11:41:54 PM
I refer to my closest male friends as brothers. I actually call them "son" too.

I do not associate with the "FTM community" however. I don't get how having this medical issue means I have some sort of kinship with others who do.