Hello girls, I have a question for some other people who have been in some relationships as a transsexual and just relationship advice in general. I have a friend named Paul, who i have known for 5 1/2 years now. I am just coming out with me being a transsexual to the people closest to me, including him. On top of telling my friend that i was transsexual, i also recently told him that i liked him deeply and have felt this way for about 4 years now, however, I have not told him for fear that it would get out that i was the way i am. Keep in mind that i am 19, and most of the time i liked him i was in high school so me not getting bullied anymore was very important to me. When i told him how i fell he said that he had never thought of me that way, and here recently he said that he really wanted to go out with me, as a guy or a girl. This would be wonderful if there was not one problem he has a girlfriend! i know why he likes me, and i know why he likes her and that is what is really getting to me, he likes her because she gives him sex. i know this due to her cheating on him 2 times and he has not broken up with her. he likes me because of more emotional reasons, i am the only one he can talk to and i am the closest thing to him in the world, he would call me in a heartbeat if he had a problem not her.
i just don't know what to do, i love Paul, but i cannot be a third wheel. if you have any advice that i could take from your past relationship as to how i can make this work. i want more than anything to be with Paul no matter what happens!
If Paul really wants to be with you he'll break up with his girlfriend
I recommend waiting it out. You've told him... which is the most important thing. As said, if he wants to be with you, he'll break up with her. Think about the friendship aspect of it and the affects a relationship may have, should it not work, on that. I personally would not actively do anything... things sometimes tend to naturally work out as they should, whether that means you end up with him or not.
Well, be a third wheel only work if you want only sex, o r the crave for a adventure. You want a true emotional relation thoug...so...just wait and dont run into the fire. Of course to he, can be perfect having your support and love in secret while have a relation whit a cig girl, indeed maybe will feel as if got a revenge in some way for be cheated. But this will be bad for you, you love him...so this situation is a NO NO for you.
Be his friend for the moment, and look another options, the world is full of fishes :P