I'll keep this long story relatively short as I'm typing on my iPhone. I
26, medium build, brown hair, ex-Army with a tour in Iraq; husband and father. Last night I finally revealed to my wife and best friend since age 15 that even though I live like a man, inside I feel I'm a woman. I can remember being very young and knowing this, but I had drugged out abusive parents including a father who wanted a girl and got me. My mothers sonagrams revealed that I would be a girl and I was unwanted from the start. To my surprise she said she always knew (she is bi you see) and last night was the first time in my life I could be held by another human who accepts me for what I am. The problem lies in that I'm not comfortable transitioning, at least not yet, so I'm looking for a lady to talk things over with. Nothing naughty or racy, I just have little info on my newly I unveiled feelings. I look forward to meeting any and all of you and I hope to be here for some time.
Hi Timelost Lady,
A big welcome to Susan's. The best family on the web. And sometimes in real life. You are a very brave person indeed. Not only surviving your military service, but more so revealing your true self to your family.
I commend you on such a monumental stride forward. In the wake of this momentous occasion, might I suggest you seek out a TG therapist who can offer guidance and support for you both over the coming months. You in particular are headed for major realignment, mentally, physically and emotionally. Your wife will also undergo substantial changes to her thinking, perception and emotions. A therapist or psychologist can provide critical support and advice in areas of relationship concerns.
There is a section here for Significant Others that may be able to provide additional support. You have a lot of old baggage to unload from your past. Don't worry, you are in the right place at the right time. There are many here who have walked the same path as you. You are among friends.
Look forward to hearing more from you both in the coming months. Keep in touch and let us know how you are coping. In the meantime, be safe, well and happy.
Lotsa huggs
Catherine
Hi TimelostLady, welcome to Susans! Thank you for your service. We're glad you found the site and joined us. There is a lot of wisdom and experience here. See you around, hugs, Devlyn
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