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Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: King Malachite on March 02, 2012, 12:46:13 PM

Title: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: King Malachite on March 02, 2012, 12:46:13 PM
Were there any certain topics that pulled you in?

I think I lurked about 6 months before joining.  People's opinions here on bottom surgery were just so interesting that I just knew I had to join.  The other sites I was at was alright but they just didn't have that "spark" I was looking for as this one.
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: Sephirah on March 02, 2012, 12:56:35 PM
About five minutes.

It wasn't so much the quality of the content as it was the overall activity level that appealed. Nice to see that in the following few years, this place has not changed noticably in that regard.
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: Melanie Anne on March 02, 2012, 01:38:45 PM
2 months. I found most of the answers I was looking for but had some more specific questions. So I joined (2 days ago) and started asking.
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: Sarah Louise on March 02, 2012, 01:44:48 PM
I joined the first day I came here. 
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: Chloe on March 02, 2012, 02:14:32 PM
QuoteReputation Log By To +/- Reason Where When

J S (+1/-1) Kiera (+34/-1) troll In topic 08 November 2011, 06:09:34

lol According to this i'm still a "troll" - after 6 plus 40 years? - and while 'tis true it's rather hard to take any of this TOO SERIOUSLY anymore also have the recent distinction of being kicked off TrueSelves for simply being "over-age"?

rules rules rules  . . . never was real fond of 'em

Belonged to many different forums over the years - never stay a lurker for long - and ya either LOVE, ignore or Hate me, your choice for sure  !

"girls just wanna have some fun"
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: Joelene9 on March 02, 2012, 03:56:22 PM
  Found the Resources a year before.  Lurked in the Forums 3 weeks before. 
  Joelene
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: veritatemfurto on March 02, 2012, 04:01:23 PM
Knew about Susan's since around 2005, but had other networks back then... been lurking like every once in a blue moon since 2008... now I'm here to stay
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: LivingInGrey on March 02, 2012, 05:11:58 PM
I'd have to say about a year. Back then I hadn't even come out to myself more or less let alone even have an online account where I tell all.

I'm quite proud of myself actually since starting this account I've been able to talk to other people about wishing I was female, I've come out to my S.O. that I wished I was female and I've even meet in public with another trans person from the forums :D

I wished I could have had a place like this long ago and I wished I had joined the first day I found this place.

**hugs everyone**
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: wheat thins are delicious on March 02, 2012, 05:16:22 PM
Quote from: Sarah Louise on March 02, 2012, 01:44:48 PM
I joined the first day I came here.

This, though I've never been much of a lurker on online forums. 
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: bballshorty on March 02, 2012, 10:10:36 PM
one hour. that was because I was too excited by the forums and kept exploring topics I wanted info on.
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: Arch on March 02, 2012, 10:12:44 PM
About twelve seconds.
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: Gretchen on March 02, 2012, 11:36:56 PM
Found it around 07 08 but it didn't really sink in until recently. Spent some time on other sites throughout those years but this one 
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: Orla86 on March 03, 2012, 01:29:20 AM
I would say probably 2 years.
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: kelly_aus on March 03, 2012, 04:01:00 AM
I joined pretty much straight away.. I've been tempted to leave once or twice, but the causes for that usually got themselves banned or moved on..
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: JoanneB on March 03, 2012, 07:23:44 AM
Proof that I am shy - 10 years or more of the several times a year lurk when things got bad

In my defense up until a couple of years ago I was firmly convinced I can pull off pretending to be a normal guy since there was no other viable alternative. I tried and bailed twice when I was young. Then spent 30-40 years dealing with consequences of a schizophrenic self
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: Jeatyn on March 03, 2012, 08:03:41 AM
The second I found the place I did a happy dance and immediately signed up.
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: spacial on March 03, 2012, 08:36:11 AM
I was looking for the information anyway. I had already joined some others and was slowly working my way through each.

The others were, for the most part, pretty good, especially http://www.etransgender.com/ (http://www.etransgender.com/) which I really have a soft spot for.

But I was looking for that something where I'd feel I didn't need permission to be here. (If you see what I mean).
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: Jen-Jen on March 03, 2012, 09:45:16 AM
Four months
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: Ayden on March 03, 2012, 12:38:14 PM
About a day and a half. I have never really been on a forum before, and the ones I have been on were generally geared toward more casual topics, like fan forums. I looked around, read some of the posts in the FTM section, and realized that the folks 'round here were not nearly as scary as some people on the internet. I am certainly glad I did join. The people here are pretty cool.

So thanks to everyone for being cool, and thank you Susan for getting this place up and running!
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: shortNsweet on March 03, 2012, 02:26:29 PM
Don't remember how long it was but it was a decent amount of time. I'm kinda shy but I'm working on it.
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: worthless on March 06, 2012, 04:47:25 AM
About two years.  I'm still not certain why I am here or what made me finally decide to register.
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: Jamie D on March 06, 2012, 12:34:20 PM
i came across Susans in late 2010, when I was trying to find out about gender therapists.  My first post, in Nov 2011, was about finding a local support group ... one such I still have not found!  But I lucked out and found a community instead.
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: Jamie D on March 06, 2012, 12:37:54 PM
Quote from: worthless on March 06, 2012, 04:47:25 AM
About two years.  I'm still not certain why I am here or what made me finally decide to register.

Nobody's "worthless"!  Post your introduction and tell us a little about yourself. I bet you will find kindred spirits.
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: Pica Pica on March 06, 2012, 03:44:23 PM
Nah, I waded in right away and did me stuff.
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: Soter on March 06, 2012, 03:56:58 PM
Perhaps seven months. I didn't come here a whole lot after I fist learned of this place, but over time I came here more and more. When it got to be an everyday thing I decided it was time to become an active member. Also with my questioning. In the first few months after learning of transgenders, I did a fair amount of self searching. Now that I'm fairly sure of my feelings, I have decided to join up and start talking.
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: Stephe on March 06, 2012, 04:20:12 PM
About 45 seconds..
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: JulieC. on March 07, 2012, 05:31:59 PM
 I think it was about 6 months.  I was happy just reading the threads until one day some wrote something that really pissed me off.  I had to join so I could put my two cents in.  Turns out I enjoy contributing once and awhile.
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: Shantel on March 07, 2012, 05:57:58 PM
I was a member back in 2004 but posted under a different name.
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: Kyle_S on March 07, 2012, 07:13:20 PM
A couple weeks, I believe.
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: Sylph on March 14, 2012, 03:51:04 AM
I was a lurker for six months then I was active for awhile then deactivated my account. Then I lurked the forums until now, while visiting the chat room every now and then.
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: Kelly J. P. on March 14, 2012, 04:31:38 AM
 I was a lurker for years; I only joined after the frustration of having input that I couldn't share got to a peak. I still don't post much, but there's a topic here and there that I feel I can add to...
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: Padma on March 14, 2012, 05:09:19 AM
Found it, joined it. This quick. "Marry in haste, repent at leisure..." ;D
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: Kitty_Babe on March 14, 2012, 05:32:39 AM
I joined same day as viewing the site, I already 'knew' about the website long ago, but never visited it. I guess I just wanted to avoid community groups for some time. Last sort of community like this I was ever a part of was when I was a pre op, more than 10/11 years ago. Still, I am here now, and like the forum :)
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: luna nyan on March 14, 2012, 07:11:29 AM
Known about the site for 8 years!  Only joined this week!
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: Jam on March 14, 2012, 01:43:55 PM
I joined the day after I found it and I have no idea how I found it lol
I was shy though I didn't really post much and when I did I used to spend about 10 minutes wondering if I should. I didn't come on for a few months and now I'm back!
My confidence shot up because of T, so now I just post =]
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: supremecatoverlord on March 14, 2012, 01:53:34 PM
Quote from: Logan Erik on March 07, 2012, 07:28:56 PM
Less than a day.
Ditto.
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: Biscuit_Stix on March 14, 2012, 02:22:39 PM
About a month, and then I realized I hadn't signed up, haha! I thought I already had and kept putting in my username, wondering why it didn't work. Says a lot about how often I post on forums :-\
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: Stephanie_b on March 17, 2012, 07:18:03 PM
I lurked for a day or two...can't remember but it wasn't for long
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: elklark on March 19, 2012, 10:53:03 PM
I lurked for about two to three years. It doesn't help when you have parents commenting "It's just a phase!" all of the time.
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: Julian on March 20, 2012, 09:41:24 PM
Several months, I think. Maybe less. I really have no idea.
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: Shang on March 20, 2012, 09:42:48 PM
I was a lurker for about 1 minute while I was signing up, hahaha.  The site was recommended to by a friend on here so I joined right away.
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: confused_one on March 27, 2012, 01:20:05 PM
About 20 minutes lol.  Felt down and decided to see if there were others like me :)
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: K Style Addiction on April 01, 2012, 05:38:14 PM
Quote from: Sephirah on March 02, 2012, 12:56:35 PM
About five minutes.

It wasn't so much the quality of the content as it was the overall activity level that appealed. Nice to see that in the following few years, this place has not changed noticably in that regard.

+1
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: ~Nikki59~ on April 06, 2012, 09:13:20 PM
I first found Susan's a few years ago and would visit every now and then. But for the last year have been here on a regular basis seeing what was being discussed, looking for answers, tips, whatever random stuff I needed to know, etc. I've never really been in to the forums thing, but I just had to join this one. Glad I did!
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: Felix on April 07, 2012, 02:16:53 AM
I was already active with queer stuff irl and had been going to trans groups for I'm not sure how long. I figured there were online forums and decided to go find one and sign up. It was actually a harder step for me than coming out to anyone in person, because I feel like once it's on the internet, it's out of my control and very public.

I joined the day I found the place. Took me longer to get used to it and be active.
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: ~RoadToTrista~ on April 07, 2012, 02:23:07 AM
Idk not long lol. I kept googling trans stuff and I was frequently ending up here, so I figured I'd just make an account so I could talk.
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: cacasca on April 08, 2012, 03:12:10 AM
Nope, I heard a trans friend talking about the forums here and decided to check it out today
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: maya on April 08, 2012, 11:02:40 AM
I joined pretty much right away. Lurking would be creepy :)
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: queerkristina on April 10, 2012, 05:28:25 PM
I lurked for many a year before I finally joined, and since I joined I've still largely been a lurker. i enjoy reading a lot, but I dont post a lot. Starting to try to change that. I really realized that I dont have much of a transgender community in real space. So I felt the need to connect with a bigger transgender community online. Looking forward to getting to know all of you better!
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: Bexi on April 10, 2012, 06:21:50 PM
I lurked for 3-4 months before joining. I had went through the hundreds :p of pages of the "You look great" and "Before and After" and "Could I Pass One Day" threads and they actually helped me a heck of a lot. Before I thought i'd remain a girl trapped in a guys body, but those threads and the pictures of the many beautiful people in them certainly had a positive impact on me and my expectations.
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Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: Felix on April 10, 2012, 11:15:53 PM
Quote from: maya on April 08, 2012, 11:02:40 AM
I joined pretty much right away. Lurking would be creepy :)
I think lurking is good enough or even necessary for some people.
Title: Re: How Long Were You A "Lurker" Before Officially Joining?
Post by: maya on April 11, 2012, 02:45:00 AM
Quote from: Felix on April 10, 2012, 11:15:53 PM
I think lurking is good enough or even necessary for some people.

Maybe so.