WOW so Jill is a construction worker for the union, she is working 6 days a week 10 hours a day!!! Yesterday, she was walking out of the Flamingo, and to drunk jerks, were asking themselves, was that a girl or boy, then one stated THAT was a boy, so they yelled after Jill, hey, hey, come back here come back here, and Jill started RUNNING and lost them!!! So not she is back at the scary place this morning working and I am so scared, because when people are drunk, then want to fight trans folks or harass them. Jill is 9 months in to transition and HAS HAD ONE HELL OF A HARD RIDE!!!!!!!! Social Security attack, her boss's at work at righting up incident reports stating what she has said to people is inappropriate, BUT all this time Jill has just been correcting folks to state Jill and ma am.. Transgender is protected in the State of Nevada to not be discrimination against. BUT I AM SCARED AS ->-bleeped-<- FOR HER LIFE!!!!! People stop and stare at her in the casinos alot look at her like she should not exist, when so goes into the female bathrooms there are issues that arrises in there.. SHE IS HANDLING ALL OF THIS REALLY WELL THO!!!! SHE comes home and forces the happiness out!!! This is an everyday battle for her right now!! The Union and HR department are fighting to protect her working rights tho... ALOT of her co workers are pretty cool with her. OH ONE MORE THING, about a couple of months ago, she attempted suicide... BUT is doing better... BUT going through all of this I can see and understand why she felt the need... After seeing people's mean ass reactions day after day, I would feel I should not exist either.
She knows this in between stage will not last forever!!!! She understands transition takes times, but i have to remind her of that at times, and be encouraging to her as well.. I AM TRING SO HARD TO LET HER DO HER OWN WALK IN LIFE, but it is SUPER HARD FOR ME!!! In fact, I am holding me breath, just waiting for her to get home today!!!!!!! She will be home at 3:30 thank you god!!! We do not get alot of trans folks that mention to us these types of events have occurred to them. BUT i am sure they can...
SHE will not get this treatment from people forever will she??? It will at least be ALOT less right?? She gets alot of general public's attention and the stop in there tracks alot.... STUPID IGNORANT JERKS!!!!! I have seen the looks as well.... IT WILL GET BETTER it has not even been a year yet.... I hope you girls can give us some much needed support!!!! And yes we are seeing a therapist and SHE IS SO AMAZING Jill really likes her ALOT!!!!
There are always jerks. Unless she passes 100% perfectly, someone will feel the need to be a jerk.
I'd do just about anything so my wife wouldn't have to keep dealing with the jerks. But the reality is that there are lots of nasty people out there, especially when they are drunk (both of us avoid places with drunks for that and other reasons).
So I wish I could say it will go away, but I can't. I will say that I expect she will pass better and better as she continues to transition, and will get less and less of it. Maybe she'll be lucky and get to a point where she never has to deal with that garbage again, but it's, sadly, not a sure thing.
I'd love to have a magic wand to make the world a decent place.