Susan's Place Transgender Resources

Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: King Malachite on April 05, 2012, 03:45:00 PM

Title: If Susan's Never Existed....
Post by: King Malachite on April 05, 2012, 03:45:00 PM
Then I would be really sad.  Good thing it does exists!

That's all.  :)

How about yall?  If Susan's never existed......
Title: Re: If Susan's Never Existed....
Post by: Devlyn on April 05, 2012, 03:49:18 PM
.....I wouldn't have been able to meet you! Hugs, Devlyn
Title: Re: If Susan's Never Existed....
Post by: King Malachite on April 05, 2012, 03:51:03 PM
Quote from: Devlyn on April 05, 2012, 03:49:18 PM
.....I wouldn't have been able to meet you! Hugs, Devlyn

::) 
Title: Re: If Susan's Never Existed....
Post by: Michelle G on April 05, 2012, 04:00:21 PM
I am very very happy I ran across this wonderful place :)

there are other forums, but you all just make me feel "at home" here!
Title: Re: If Susan's Never Existed....
Post by: xxUltraModLadyxx on April 05, 2012, 04:04:46 PM
it would suck, because this site was pretty instrumental in my transition.
Title: Re: If Susan's Never Existed....
Post by: Constance on April 05, 2012, 04:07:59 PM
Quote from: FullMoon19 on April 05, 2012, 04:04:46 PM
it would suck, because this site was pretty instrumental in my transition.
This.

I checked my profile before posting this. I registered here on 3 March 2008, they day after I finished reading Luna by Julie Anne Peters. That book got me started thinking about gender identity, which led me to this site, which have been not only "instrumental in my transition," but just a great site to visit for various reasons.

Thank you, Susan!
Title: Re: If Susan's Never Existed....
Post by: Ayden on April 05, 2012, 04:20:48 PM
I would have kept the feels of being all alone. The other forums I checked felt too impersonal, but Susan's felt like a nice little virtual room I could cozy up in and not feel so odd. I have never liked forums, but I feel comfortable and happy here. I am also happy to report that I have not self-harmed since I joined, and I think Susan's has been instrumental in that since it was always my gender issues that caused me to act out.

Thank you so much, Susan.

Quote from: Liam Erik on April 05, 2012, 04:16:54 PM
I would have committed suicide back in autumn.  Sure glad I didn't.

*hug* I know the feeling.
Title: Re: If Susan's Never Existed....
Post by: Constance on April 05, 2012, 04:40:23 PM
Quote from: Liam Erik on April 05, 2012, 04:16:54 PM
I would have committed suicide back in autumn.  Sure glad I didn't.
I'm glad you didn't, too.
Title: Re: If Susan's Never Existed....
Post by: Ayden on April 05, 2012, 04:46:59 PM
Quote from: Connie Anne on April 05, 2012, 04:40:23 PM
I'm glad you didn't, too.

^This. Your posts make my day. :)
Title: Re: If Susan's Never Existed....
Post by: Michelle G on April 05, 2012, 04:51:13 PM
Quote from: Liam Erik on April 05, 2012, 04:16:54 PM
I would have committed suicide back in autumn.  Sure glad I didn't.

So glad you are here as well!

I think a lot of us here have been in that same dark place
Title: Re: If Susan's Never Existed....
Post by: Constance on April 05, 2012, 04:56:35 PM
Quote from: Ayden on April 05, 2012, 04:46:59 PM
^This. Your posts make my day. :)
Thanks, Ayden.

It was last summer, for me. I was seriously suicidal in May and June. This place, as well as a couple of therapists, a Zen priest, and an old friend pulled me through.
Title: Re: If Susan's Never Existed....
Post by: King Malachite on April 05, 2012, 05:08:44 PM
Quote from: Ayden on April 05, 2012, 04:20:48 PM
I would have kept the feels of being all alone. The other forums I checked felt too impersonal, but Susan's felt like a nice little virtual room I could cozy up in and not feel so odd. I have never liked forums, but I feel comfortable and happy here. I am also happy to report that I have not self-harmed since I joined, and I think Susan's has been instrumental in that since it was always my gender issues that caused me to act out.

Thank you so much, Susan.

*hug* I know the feeling.

I know the feeling as well.  At first I tried to delude myself that I didn't need support from forums or anything so I mostly soaked up my time on Yahoo Answers in the LBGT section to compensate for the lonlines but once I realized that the people there could only be of so much help to me because a lot of them weren't transgender and didn't understand my problems I felt the need to jump ship.  If this site didn't exist then I would still be on there asking pointless questions just so I could feel some companionship.
Title: Re: If Susan's Never Existed....
Post by: Amazon D on April 05, 2012, 05:20:20 PM
Most of the trans sites cover specific nitches but here it covers everybody.. i like that..
Title: Re: If Susan's Never Existed....
Post by: Ayden on April 05, 2012, 05:28:55 PM
Quote from: Connie Anne on April 05, 2012, 04:56:35 PM
Thanks, Ayden.

It was last summer, for me. I was seriously suicidal in May and June. This place, as well as a couple of therapists, a Zen priest, and an old friend pulled me through.

I'm glad people were there for you. :) You're a lovely lady.
Title: Re: If Susan's Never Existed....
Post by: Constance on April 05, 2012, 05:32:19 PM
Thanks again, Ayden.

After all of the support I've gained from this site, I want to be there for others if I can.
Title: Re: If Susan's Never Existed....
Post by: MarcyThomas7268 on April 05, 2012, 05:42:12 PM
I would not feel as connected to others in this situation. :D
Title: Re: If Susan's Never Existed....
Post by: Bexi on April 05, 2012, 05:54:30 PM
Quote from: MarcyThomas7268 on April 05, 2012, 05:42:12 PM
I would not feel as connected to others in this situation. :D
Agree, also others seem so nice and down-to-earth
Title: Re: If Susan's Never Existed....
Post by: Felix on April 05, 2012, 06:14:40 PM
I spent two weeks gone when the site was having problems, and didn't realize until then how important Susan's is to me. There are a lot of good people here.
Title: Re: If Susan's Never Existed....
Post by: Sephirah on April 05, 2012, 06:53:51 PM
Hard to say. There are points in a person's life where a single event makes it branch off down one of two possible paths. This site is responsible for a good number of those events. If it never existed... things would have been different. Whether that's different in a good way or a bad way... I don't know.

I've met some truly wonderful people here, for which I'm thankful, and some which have tried my patience to its very limits, for which I'm also thankful. On balance... it's my belief that everything happens for a reason. So yeah I'm glad things turned out the way they did and that this site exists, along with all of you folks.
Title: Re: If Susan's Never Existed....
Post by: pretty on April 05, 2012, 10:19:35 PM
Hmm, well I wouldn't browse Susan's then.

Idk, I mostly browse here when I am procrastinating other things, but I can't honestly say it has had much of an overall effect on my life. I wanted to transition long before happening on Susan's  :)
Title: Re: If Susan's Never Existed....
Post by: Renee D on April 05, 2012, 10:44:09 PM
I'd be annoying more people on Facebook likely.  I have a yahoo group for trans stuff, but I sort of rarely post there anymore and just mostly let the other owner take care of membership stuff. Not much activity in it these days anyway. Its not like the old days, back in '04-'08.  I did spend a ton of time on MS forums, mostly l&r for years, but when they closed down, that left a big void in my online life, I had already heard about this place, so I tried it out. 

Title: Re: If Susan's Never Existed....
Post by: maya on April 06, 2012, 07:48:38 AM
All in all, there's only one TG site/forum here in Bulgaria, and it's in an abysmal state (much like the overall LGBT situation). So finding Susan's was a real relief for me.
Title: Re: If Susan's Never Existed....
Post by: JulieC. on April 06, 2012, 01:44:59 PM
QuoteThere are points in a person's life where a single event makes it branch off down one of two possible paths. This site is responsible for a good number of those events. If it never existed... things would have been different. Whether that's different in a good way or a bad way... I don't know.

I agree with Sephirah except I'm 99% certain it's different in a positive way for me.
Title: Re: If Susan's Never Existed....
Post by: JenJen2011 on April 06, 2012, 02:09:00 PM
...I would be much more bored and time would go much slower at work. Lol. Susan's hasnt really helped me with my transition because I was full time years before I stumbled upon this site but it's a nice place to share our experiences and thoughts with one another.
Title: Re: If Susan's Never Existed....
Post by: spacial on April 06, 2012, 06:09:36 PM
Quote from: Felix on April 05, 2012, 06:14:40 PM
I spent two weeks gone when the site was having problems, and didn't realize until then how important Susan's is to me. There are a lot of good people here.

I feel exactly like this. I really thought I'd managed perfectly well, but not having the opportunity for contact, even if I might not use it, really bothered me.

I try to contribute where I can but find that sensible things have been said, generally much more than I would have thought of. But it's good to know there is somewhere where we can stop pretending.
Title: Re: If Susan's Never Existed....
Post by: N.Chaos on April 06, 2012, 06:28:02 PM
I would've offed myself, or ended up in jail for a jealousy-inspired killing spree. The other site I on, felt like it was just a never ending stream of empty platitudes and canned "You're a speshul snowflake" BS. At least over here, if you're being an idiot and need to hear the hard truth, someone will eventually come along and say it.
Title: Re: If Susan's Never Existed....
Post by: Ms. OBrien CVT on April 06, 2012, 06:32:24 PM
Easy answer.  I would not be here.  Or anywhere.
Title: Re: If Susan's Never Existed....
Post by: ~Nikki59~ on April 06, 2012, 06:47:18 PM
I too was suicidal at one point in time but found hope because of this site. If it wasn't for Susan's I'd be clueless, haha. There's so much information here, I've learned so much. And it really helps you to realize how many of us are out there.
Title: Re: If Susan's Never Existed....
Post by: gennee on April 08, 2012, 05:13:16 PM
There would be other places where others could help us in our journey.
Title: Re: If Susan's Never Existed....
Post by: eshaver on April 08, 2012, 06:29:09 PM
First off, there have been some really helpful people I have had  real pleasure in P- Mming here . I came here on account of another forum that has really become a playground with too many HEAVY Handed moderators who were so paranoid of everything about them . I have found for the most part a lot of enlightening discussions and I have enjoyed sharing things I already have confidence in . Looking forward to more too ! :angel: ellen
Title: Re: If Susan's Never Existed....
Post by: greypeacock on April 13, 2012, 04:00:34 PM
Unlurking after months and months to say that when this site went down for that time I found myself almost feeling lost for some manner of outlet. I come here often when I'm feeling like I'm absolutely alone in the world.  Sometimes I just need to be shown that there's life after transition. It will get better. There's a life for me.  For every person that replies to this thread, I would bet there's a handful of lurkers who are perhaps too afraid or uncertain to do so. More people draw strength from your courage to speak openly than you might realize, and I for one am thankful for just having a chance to listen as I do.