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Title: Parents tell me I'M NOT A GIRL
Post by: ByeBye on April 07, 2012, 10:48:35 PM
They think I'm NUTS!!!!!

THEY CANNOT ACCEPT ME

THEY MANHANDLE A WOMAN (me) I wimp away and they go in for more, threatening to break my neck.

THEY THINK I'M PSYCHOTIC THAT I NEED TO GO TO A MENTAL INSTITUTION.

THEY TELL ME I'M NOT A GIRL THAT I'LL NEVER BE A FASHION DESIGNER.

THAT I WILL BE A DRAFTER (A MEN'S JOB)

THEY USE HE PRONOUNS ON ME EXCLUSIVELY

THEY TELL ME SARCASTICALLY "OH THE DOCTORS LIED YOU ARE A GIRL BECAUSE THE DOCTOR SAID ITS A GIRL."

In reality the doctor said its a BOY SO THE THINK I'M A MAN BECAUSE I WAS BORN INTO A MALE BODY BUT THEY DON'T KNOW MY FEMALE SOUL.

My dad tells me go get a job like every other MAN your age. I have problem with exactly one word.

THEY TELL ME FEMALES DON'T RAGE

BUT TRUST ME TRUST ME IF YOUR PARENTS BROKE YOU DOWN AND SHATTERED EVERY LAST DREAM YOU EVER HAD INCLUDING MOVING TO YOUR DREAM PLACE AND THEN TOLD YOU TO STOP CRYING AND MAN IT UP YOU'D BE FULL OF RAGE TOO.

F*** MY BODY'S MASCULIZING SO I LOOK LIKE A MAN TOO IVE BEEN SIRED TWICE SINCE YESTERDAY AND CALLED A MAN TODAY.

IMAGINE EVERY DREAM OF YOURS CRUSHED!!!!!!!

THEY TOLD ME I'LL NEVER BE A GIRL!!!!!!


"HE's f*n crazy" quote from my dad as I type.

I'm crazy because I'm not allowed to be a girl and now my body is sadly masculizing.

Luckily I believe faith is stronger than action and through my faith I shall overcome my obstacles (I know it sounds masculine but with unaccepting family members it gets on my nerves)


I love my family with all my heart but they will not let me live my dreams.

Negative affirmations are NEVER good.

Now

(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi1058.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Ft411%2FAsTimeMovesOn2Be%2Fpicture784.jpg&hash=6aace66eac7463e22ef8fb382cee57cb480be4f6)

December 2011

(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi1058.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Ft411%2FAsTimeMovesOn2Be%2Folder%2FAlyssaCase.jpg&hash=8c008b0c5db045b4106bafa4c22a772995bc161c)

I don't like going backwards.
Title: Re: Parents tell me I'M NOT A GIRL
Post by: Felix on April 07, 2012, 10:50:25 PM
You really struggle. Can't you get away from them, define yourself without such meanness?
Title: Re: Parents tell me I'M NOT A GIRL
Post by: Annah on April 07, 2012, 11:14:23 PM
you are at the age where you can leave your parent's house.

Something to consider.
Title: Re: Parents tell me I'M NOT A GIRL
Post by: Joeyboo~ :3 on April 07, 2012, 11:27:00 PM
Quote from: Annah on April 07, 2012, 11:14:23 PM
you are at the age where you can leave your parent's house.

Something to consider.

+1
Title: Re: Parents tell me I'M NOT A GIRL
Post by: Rabbit on April 07, 2012, 11:44:05 PM
Your problem isn't just your parents...

I really don't mean to sound harsh.. but...

From your posts, it seems you seriously have disconnected from reality. You aren't thinking about your sittuation rationally.. or logically...

Sure, getting away from your parents might be a good idea...

But, more than that, you should see a therapist and work out some of your issues.

If you get upset because someone calls you "sir" (when you are presenting 100 percent male?) ... or if you seriously believe "thinking female will make you female"... or are posting asking if you pass as a girl, when you are presenting 100 percent male... well... something is wrong.

You also have an odd idea of what girls are ... or can be. Drafting isn't a "guy's job", there are plenty of women who work in that field...

Inside, you may feel female (we all know how that is)... but, you can't ignore the reality of your life as it is now (and that is, you look like a guy). You need to calm down, and figure out how to move forward. Your parents don't get to decide how you live (move out).

But, again, it really seems to be more than just parents causing you problems... if you jump into the real world presenting the way you do and demanding everyone treat you super girly... you will face a very harsh reality.
Title: Re: Parents tell me I'M NOT A GIRL
Post by: Alainaluvsu on April 08, 2012, 12:14:48 AM
Take your life in your own hands.
Title: Re: Parents tell me I'M NOT A GIRL
Post by: A_Dresden_Doll on April 08, 2012, 01:01:40 AM
I just can't take you seriously. I call troll, and a bad one at that. Regardless, this thread is going to go on for pages, and my soul will die a little because of it.
Title: Re: Parents tell me I'M NOT A GIRL
Post by: wheat thins are delicious on April 08, 2012, 01:06:28 AM
Quote from: Rabbit on April 07, 2012, 11:44:05 PM
Your problem isn't just your parents...

I really don't mean to sound harsh.. but...

From your posts, it seems you seriously have disconnected from reality. You aren't thinking about your sittuation rationally.. or logically...

Sure, getting away from your parents might be a good idea...

But, more than that, you should see a therapist and work out some of your issues.

If you get upset because someone calls you "sir" (when you are presenting 100 percent male?) ... or if you seriously believe "thinking female will make you female"... or are posting asking if you pass as a girl, when you are presenting 100 percent male... well... something is wrong.

You also have an odd idea of what girls are ... or can be. Drafting isn't a "guy's job", there are plenty of women who work in that field...

Inside, you may feel female (we all know how that is)... but, you can't ignore the reality of your life as it is now (and that is, you look like a guy). You need to calm down, and figure out how to move forward. Your parents don't get to decide how you live (move out).

But, again, it really seems to be more than just parents causing you problems... if you jump into the real world presenting the way you do and demanding everyone treat you super girly... you will face a very harsh reality.

Words of wisdom.
Title: Re: Parents tell me I'M NOT A GIRL
Post by: tekla on April 08, 2012, 01:19:05 AM
THEY TELL ME I'M NOT A GIRL THAT I'LL NEVER BE A FASHION DESIGNER.

Tommy Hilfiger, Pierre Cardin, Michael Kors, Roy Halston Frowick, Bill Blass, Bob Mackie, Calvin Kline, Alexander McQueen, Jean Paul Gaultier, Oleg Cassini, Perry Ellis, Salvatore Ferragamo, Tommy Hilfiger, Yves Saint Laurent, Alexander Wang, Egon von Fürstenberg, Christian Dior, Russell Simmons, Hubert de Givenchy, Gianni Versace, Geoffrey Beene, Karl Lagerfeld, and Jimmy Choo, Jay Z, Sean P-Diddy Combs.

Either your parents are total fashion idiots with a K-Mart wardrobe, or you are for listening to them.

It does seem to help if your French, Italian or a hip-hop star.
Title: Re: Parents tell me I'M NOT A GIRL
Post by: Alainaluvsu on April 08, 2012, 01:25:36 AM
Quote from: tekla on April 08, 2012, 01:19:05 AM
THEY TELL ME I'M NOT A GIRL THAT I'LL NEVER BE A FASHION DESIGNER.

Tommy Hilfiger, Pierre Cardin, Michael Kors, Roy Halston Frowick, Bill Blass, Bob Mackie, Calvin Kline, Alexander McQueen, Jean Paul Gaultier, Oleg Cassini, Perry Ellis, Salvatore Ferragamo, Tommy Hilfiger, Yves Saint Laurent, Alexander Wang, Egon von Fürstenberg, Christian Dior, Russell Simmons, Hubert de Givenchy, Gianni Versace, Geoffrey Beene, Karl Lagerfeld, and Jimmy Choo, Jay Z, Sean P-Diddy Combs.

Either your parents are total fashion idiots with a K-Mart wardrobe, or you are for listening to them.

It does seem to help if your French, Italian or a hip-hop star.
Or if you like penis.
Title: Re: Parents tell me I'M NOT A GIRL
Post by: tekla on April 08, 2012, 01:29:08 AM
Huge stereotype, like most I'm sure it comes from ignorance not enlightenment.  Most of those men had families - some created houses and dynasties.  But anytime you want to walk up to Russel Simmons and ask him how much penis he likes let me know, it would be fun to watch.
Title: Re: Parents tell me I'M NOT A GIRL
Post by: Alainaluvsu on April 08, 2012, 01:38:34 AM
Quote from: tekla on April 08, 2012, 01:29:08 AM
Huge stereotype, like most I'm sure it comes from ignorance not enlightenment.

Yeah... but saying it helps to be Italian, French, or a hip-hop star ... that's enlightenment.
Title: Re: Parents tell me I'M NOT A GIRL
Post by: V M on April 08, 2012, 01:41:15 AM
 :police:

Okay friends, let's not turn this into a pissing match

What most folks are trying to express is that if your folks are not on board with your ideals and if you wish to become a female fashion designer then you need to take control and take steps to accomplish your goals

It will take allot of work, schooling and determination, but in the end you will be your own woman in charge of your own designer label

Time to get busy and create your own future in the fashion industry
Title: Re: Parents tell me I'M NOT A GIRL
Post by: V M on April 08, 2012, 01:43:28 AM
Quote from: cacasca on April 08, 2012, 01:36:21 AM
I'll admit to only reason I posted in this thread was to get enough post to upload my avatar rofl

:police:

Post packing is highly frowned upon
Title: Re: Parents tell me I'M NOT A GIRL
Post by: maddieNoir on April 08, 2012, 01:52:51 AM
Rabbit and A Dresden Doll speak true.
Title: Re: Parents tell me I'M NOT A GIRL
Post by: Tori on April 08, 2012, 04:00:46 AM
There's a reason why we have clichés like, "Miss the forest for the trees..." or, "Cut off your nose to spite your face."

We can be blinded by our own eyes.
Title: Re: Parents tell me I'M NOT A GIRL
Post by: justmeinoz on April 08, 2012, 04:02:54 AM
If you have GID they are wrong.  Simple as that.
Title: Re: Parents tell me I'M NOT A GIRL
Post by: Tori on April 08, 2012, 04:14:31 AM
Well said.

This is getting rather melodramatic though... no?

Will it ever end?
Title: Re: Parents tell me I'M NOT A GIRL
Post by: King Malachite on April 08, 2012, 05:05:57 AM
Quote from: Rabbit on April 07, 2012, 11:44:05 PM
Your problem isn't just your parents...

I really don't mean to sound harsh.. but...

From your posts, it seems you seriously have disconnected from reality. You aren't thinking about your sittuation rationally.. or logically...

Sure, getting away from your parents might be a good idea...

But, more than that, you should see a therapist and work out some of your issues.

If you get upset because someone calls you "sir" (when you are presenting 100 percent male?) ... or if you seriously believe "thinking female will make you female"... or are posting asking if you pass as a girl, when you are presenting 100 percent male... well... something is wrong.

You also have an odd idea of what girls are ... or can be. Drafting isn't a "guy's job", there are plenty of women who work in that field...

Inside, you may feel female (we all know how that is)... but, you can't ignore the reality of your life as it is now (and that is, you look like a guy). You need to calm down, and figure out how to move forward. Your parents don't get to decide how you live (move out).

But, again, it really seems to be more than just parents causing you problems... if you jump into the real world presenting the way you do and demanding everyone treat you super girly... you will face a very harsh reality.

+1

Quote from: A_Dresden_Doll on April 08, 2012, 01:01:40 AM
I just can't take you seriously. I call troll, and a bad one at that. Regardless, this thread is going to go on for pages, and my soul will die a little because of it.

+1
Title: Re: Parents tell me I'M NOT A GIRL
Post by: JadeS on April 08, 2012, 05:21:23 AM
I really hope this is a troll
Title: Re: Parents tell me I'M NOT A GIRL
Post by: V M on April 08, 2012, 05:50:03 AM
Quote from: J S on April 08, 2012, 05:21:23 AM
I really hope this is a troll

Not sure what you mean  :)  Last thing I hope for is dealing with a troll
Title: Re: Parents tell me I'M NOT A GIRL
Post by: Carolina1983 on April 08, 2012, 06:03:59 AM
This thread gives me bad vibes  :-\, and I mean really bad.

Please tell me that you are trolling. Otherwise you need to talk to someone proffessional ASAP!
Title: Re: Parents tell me I'M NOT A GIRL
Post by: rosetyler on April 08, 2012, 06:08:12 AM
QuoteTHEY MANHANDLE A WOMAN (me) I wimp away and they go in for more, threatening to break my neck.
If that's really true, call the police.

QuoteTHEY TELL ME...THAT I'LL NEVER BE A FASHION DESIGNER.
You wanna go into fashion design?  Start looking into fashion design schools and make it happen.

QuoteTHAT I WILL BE A DRAFTER (A MEN'S JOB)
That's not a "mans job".

QuoteMy dad tells me go get a job
He's right.  Start looking.

QuoteTHEY TELL ME FEMALES DON'T RAGE
Pffft.

QuoteBUT TRUST ME TRUST ME IF YOUR PARENTS BROKE YOU DOWN AND SHATTERED EVERY LAST DREAM YOU EVER HAD INCLUDING MOVING TO YOUR DREAM PLACE AND THEN TOLD YOU TO STOP CRYING AND MAN IT UP YOU'D BE FULL OF RAGE TOO.
Move out.

QuoteI don't like going backwards.
Then don't.

Imma call troll.
Title: Re: Parents tell me I'M NOT A GIRL
Post by: V M on April 08, 2012, 06:11:55 AM
Quote from: Carolina1983 on April 08, 2012, 06:03:59 AM
This thread gives me bad vibes  :-\, and I mean really bad.

Please tell me that you are trolling. Otherwise you need to talk to someone proffessional ASAP!
Are you referring to the OP? Who are you referring to? 
Title: Re: Parents tell me I'M NOT A GIRL
Post by: vanna on April 08, 2012, 06:16:37 AM
Quote from: V M on April 08, 2012, 06:11:55 AM
Are you referring to the OP? Who are you referring to?

they appear to be calling the poster a troll

i am unable to see this ofc but i have no read all of their postings

susans is full of peoples needing help though so i am unsure why some of you can see a thread waster? Their story seem like many i have read here over the years

Anyone?
Title: Re: Parents tell me I'M NOT A GIRL
Post by: V M on April 08, 2012, 06:21:30 AM
There is too much crap being flung about

Topic locked