I didn't think it would happen to me, but it has. I was slated to live with my family while going to grad school next year, but my mother just e-mailed me and told me she doesn't want me living with her if I transition, which I AM going to do. To tell you the truth, I'm not that torn up about it. Maybe because I'm 25 and probably shouldn't be living at home anyway, and maybe because I've never had very strong feelings towards my family and see them as more of an annoyance (except for the part where they let me live with them for very little money). In a way it makes my life easier because I won't have the constant disapproval and nagging which she's known for. On the other hand, having to find somewhere else to live while going to grad school and having to pay much more for it is gonna suck... Oh well.
I think you should make sure having somewhere to stay before transition.
it sucks being at the street..
I wish you good luck..
That's terrible your mother kicked you out. I'm so sorry about that. Hopefully someday your family will realize what their doing is not right kicking you out like that.
I'm sorry you don't have a place to stay. being homeless would really make it impossible to transition, as in, getting hormones & surgery and all that with no money. My family refuses to accept me as I am, but that's nothing new. I look forward to the day that I can get out of my god forsaken home state and leave everyone here behind for good - that includes my family.
Guys--- I'm 25 years old and have a college degree. I'm not going to be living on the streets. I'll find another place to live, it'll just be more expensive and less convenient. Right now I'm seeing if my aunt will take me in. She lived with us for five years rent free when she broke up with her girlfriend and my dad and cousin already live with her. I don't see why she won't let me live with her unless she doesn't want to go again my mother. But being a lesbian herself, I'm hoping she'll see this as as good a reason as any to go against my mother. Right now I'm just waiting to see what she says. Really I just need a roof over my head for two years until I graduate grad school. Once I get my professional certification, I was planning on taking a job somewhere across the country, anyway.
Good luck man. I think this will be good for you. Imagine being able to totally be yourself and not feel bad for doing so.
Not sure about your school, but mine has housing for families, grad students and married students. Check and see if they have anything like that at your school. Even if you have to get a waiting list, it might be something to try for. The Grad student housing here is awesome. They are efficiency apartments with their own kitchens and bathrooms, and heat and water are included. Not all campuses have them, but some do.
Just an update-- I haven't heard from my mom since, but my cousin said I could have a room in his half of my Aunt's house. I've got a choice of 300 a month for the tiny room or 400 a month for the huge room. Haven't decided yet what I want to do. I'll probably take the tiny room and put the extra 100 a month into my top surgery fund or something... That seems more responsible. I'm just relieved I have a place to stay. And it's with a guy as a roommate, which makes me feel even more manly, even if it is my cousin.
Quote from: Devin87 on April 11, 2012, 04:52:20 PM
Just an update-- I haven't heard from my mom since, but my cousin said I could have a room in his half of my Aunt's house. I've got a choice of 300 a month for the tiny room or 400 a month for the huge room. Haven't decided yet what I want to do. I'll probably take the tiny room and put the extra 100 a month into my top surgery fund or something... That seems more responsible. I'm just relieved I have a place to stay. And it's with a guy as a roommate, which makes me feel even more manly, even if it is my cousin.
I definately say go for the 300 a month and using the rest towards top surgery.
I'd just like to say I REALLY hope you let your mother know you wouldn't be staying with her not because she gave you a stupid ultimatum, but because you neither want nor need help from a terrible excuse for a parent.
...with a side note letting her know how cowardly it was to send that kind of ultimatum via email.
Sorry to hear that. That kind of rejection from a parent really hits deep. I have to say though, one of the best things my Mother did for me was to walk out of my life and stay out. Even if she did think she was punishing me by doing that. There is no need for toxic people to clog up your life.
It sounds like you have a plan already which is great. Keep on fighting the good fight.
Quote from: Bane on April 13, 2012, 08:30:06 AM
...with a side note letting her know how cowardly it was to send that kind of ultimatum via email.
Actually, she wanted to tell me about it on the phone, but I wouldn't take her call because I knew that's what she was gonna say. Her tone was crazy and emotional enough through e-mail, I don't want to imagine what it would have been like actually hearing it. Plus I probably wouldn't have been able to respond as calmly and rationally as I did. So I'm glad she told me via e-mail.
I understand how you feel.I'm not allowed to transition as long as I live with my parents.I'm 17 and still in high school so I can't go anywhere.I've been asking mom to allow me T for over a year,but she just doesn't want to.
Just as aside, once you are qualified, you could look at the Australian Immigration Dept's new program to attract qualified people, if it is still available then. If there are no openings locally no reason why one can't look overseas.
Once I have my BA with Major in French, I may look at things available in France.
Karen.
Quote from: justmeinoz on April 15, 2012, 05:46:20 AM
Just as aside, once you are qualified, you could look at the Australian Immigration Dept's new program to attract qualified people, if it is still available then. If there are no openings locally no reason why one can't look overseas.
That's a good point I hadn't thought of. I'll keep that in mind. I'm no stranger to going off the beaten path if there are no openings locally. Right now I'm teaching on the Navajo Reservation over 2500 miles from where I'm from because there were no jobs available out there. I know that the field I'm going into generally has a lot of openings, though, so I'm not incredibly worried. However, it might be fun to go overseas anyway...
Some schools if you got kicked out or have less support from parents because you came out, the school will add to your financial aid. If you feel comfortable about sharing your story, maybe contact the LGBT group on campus and ask who to talk to in student affairs or the freshman dean's office or something like that. Good luck.